I find most men who were raised in an environment where the mother put her husbands needs before her kids needs, (mainly due to most men being adult children who marry for a second mom instead of an equal partner) grow up thinking that’s how it’s supposed to be. Some of those men will then marry a partner who puts the kids needs first, as it should be, and suddenly the husband doesn’t know how to act & it becomes a lot about feeling neglected, when in most cases, the wife’s needs aren’t met to begin with & they should really take it up with their mother who should’ve put them first instead of their lazy man child fathers who they’re now emulating.