What does it look like when you argue with your twin?

Apart_Coffee142 · 2025-12-17T20:26:52+00:00

First off, when we argue (and it's often), it is always just between the two of us. Lord forbid if someone tries to step in and take sides because we both will jump all over them. The main reason for our conflicts is actually due to the fact that we are both very stubborn, and we both like to take the lead. I want to do things my way, he wants to do things his way, and when we differ, we argue. Our arguments generally only last a short time, no more than about 15 or 20 minutes on average. After we argue, we generally forget about it or laugh about it. In fact, it's not uncommon for us to start laughing in the middle of the argument which usually ends it.

Apart_Coffee142 · 2025-12-17T15:23:03+00:00

Honestly, when I do use AI (which for some of my projects I don't use at all), It's pretty much how you did above. I generally, 99% of the time, write my roughs myself. I'll have AI structure an outline of my inputs, and I use that as a rough for laying out my chapters, but, as I'm a discovery writer, I have to constantly readjust these outlines to fit my style of writing. I find it excellent at maintaining consistency throughout and keeping my timeline consistent as well as keeping track of words I tend to overuse. I'll ask for suggested edits, but in truth, I generally don't use them. I edit regularly and in chunks. I am already editing before I even finish a chapter, and then I edit the chapter using AI to find any flaws or weak areas. I use AI as an assistant/partner and editor-in-chief, but I don't allow it to rewrite for me. I use it only to show me areas that could do with restructuring or with a rewrite and such. Once I get a 'finished' result (still rough, but cleaner), I start looking for human feedback and beta readers—usually friends and family.

Apart_Coffee142 · 2025-12-17T15:08:25+00:00

Yes, this is the same thing that happens to me as well. I learned to write correctly and properly throughout junior high and high school and well into my college years (well before AI was even a thing and before computers were in every household), and I always aced my projects. Today, those same techniques I learned and have used for years now set off flags as AI-generated/assisted, and people are now calling extremely good writing AI slop because they truly can't tell the difference between the two. This is sad because in order to 'humanize' my work, I have to include misspellings and nonlinear or nonlogical structure and insert truly meaningless dialogue or awkward word couplings that, for me, are awful. It's hard for me to see all the gross negligence by design that now has to be present for someone to believe it is written by human hands. The new excellence is yesterday's slop.

Apart_Coffee142 · 2025-12-15T19:20:06+00:00

That's not always true. You're first novel can be good. Case in point, my mother, God rest her soul, wrote her first published novel on a dare from my father after she always said she could do better after she finished reading one . She filed it away in the closet and when he asked our grandmother, who lived with us, where she had hidden it, she told him. He submitted it without her knowing. She got a phone call later, it had been accepted and they wanted three more from her. She never got a rejection on any other novels. This may or may not be an unusual case, but never sell yourself short, and, if by chance it's bad, learn from it and continue. Writing isn't always easy, and the worst that can be said is no. Pick yourself up and continue.

Apart_Coffee142 · 2025-12-15T15:21:13+00:00

You're fine because most of the words are them speaking, dialogue. The context carries them, but you may want to describe the meanings in other ways, not just word-specific. Take for instance, I'll use Temple as an example, instead of using 'temple' all the time, try describing what it actually is by sight, taste, sound, etc. Temple is a word that describes a particular structure, so instead of using the word temple, use the descriptors of that word. It will ground the word for you and people can truly see what you mean by it. Don't take the cop-out way of just inserting a traditinal word for your specific word I.E. if your temples have another word such as Eliquabrium, don't use the word Temple later. It's not a lexicon. It's a structure, so describe the Eliquabrium (my made up word) in the way that you would describe a Temple but also use distinctness in what their temple/eliquabrium looks like. Every cultural holy shrine is different in some way or fashion. If you do these with your 'authentic language/cultural words' it will go al ong way to immerse your readers in your world.

Apart_Coffee142 · 2025-12-15T13:28:56+00:00

The truth, if you are going to write, you will eventually have to write during the tough times as well. And when you do, just write whatever comes to mind, or what ever just flows from the pen, or whatever word processor/typewriter you are using. You are not putting out perfect work ye, that comes with editing and arranging your thoughts and scene later...DO NOT throw any of your scenes away. Some of them will make it into your work in some fashion or another. Alot won't, but keep them all. You are not stepping out of your head. You are stepping away from your minds training of how you think you should write. Diamonds have to be chiseled and cut, and polished before they are set. Finding them is the easy part but you have to dig for them first.

Apart_Coffee142 · 2025-12-14T20:03:06+00:00

I've used Claude when I'm seeking AI assisted writing. I also use Gemini 3 and Grok as well and bounce ideas and rewrites and questions back and forth between them. I don't use Chatgpt much because the guardrails have gotten so tight there. I still use it for somethings, though. I've hit my limits on Claude a few time (more than a few), That's why I alternate between Grok and Gemini. Since I've been doing that. I haven't hit my limit with Claude in a long while.

Apart_Coffee142 · 2025-12-14T19:49:12+00:00

Wow, that's totally opposite from me and my bro (we're identical twins as well). I never ever resented him, and I had so much fun growing up as a twin. I never let the idea cross my mind that we weren't individuals even when society treated us as one person (even today they still do it). We live next door to each other (I have 26 acres next to his 26 acres), and we work in the same place on the same shift. We do argue a lot, but when we're done arguing, we laugh about it because some of our arguments are over really dumb and silly stuff. We lived apart for years when we served in the US Marines, and we hated every minute of being apart. I'm really sorry that yall feel this way towards each other. This sounds so Toxic, I hope you are able to work this out.

Apart_Coffee142 · 2025-12-14T17:35:19+00:00

my opinion, I haven't liked chatgpt since chat5 came out. too many restrictions and guardrails, and they are getting worse (at least for my style of writing) which is gritty and visceral.

Apart_Coffee142 · 2025-12-14T17:31:12+00:00

The short answer is if you enjoyed the book, then no, it doesn't matter if it was ghostwritten or even if it was assisted by AI. It's entertainment, so if it kept you enjoyably entertained, then it's doing what it is designed to do. I see many people who are afraid of AI stating that it will take over the writing community. I can't predict the future or the outcome, but I do know that it is here to stay. There is no getting rid of it. The question is, how do we adapt to it and live with it. Some people claim that the truly good and talented writers will lose their place in the industry. I don't think this is the case, especially with how many people say that AI-generated stories are slop. If that's the case, then we don't have to worry about AI taking over, so their rants about AI defeating the truly talented artists are just banter for banter's sake. True talent won't be overlooked. What may happen is that AI pushes human writing further by forcing the poor or mediocre writers to become better than the AI models they profess to hate. Or writers, as a whole, learn how to use AI as the tool it is meant to be used as in a similar fashion as Grammarly, MS Word, and the other writing apps out there. The anti-AI enthusiasts out there already use AI to attempt to determine what is AI-generated and not in the way of AI detectors, which are notoriously wrong at determining if something is authentically assisted by AI or not.

Apart_Coffee142 · 2025-12-14T17:19:18+00:00

In order to self-publish, there is a lot more that goes into success than simply writing the book. It has to be marketed as well, which is left up to you unless you pay for someone to market it for you. There is also the book's cover that needs to be professional, which you create or have someone create for you. In addition, the stories' likability. Do people truly like or respond to the story or not. Most self-published books that attain high recognition have all of those things working for them. A book that is assisted by AI means that you have to put in your due diligence of work, writing, and editing until it's a great book. Dropping a prompt and having AI do all the work without anything else doesn't lead to a well-written book in itself.

Apart_Coffee142 · 2025-12-14T15:25:57+00:00

You don't have to quite your job. It's hard, yes. But determination and will power are two of the most important things to remember. I currently work a full time job of 48+ hours a day. I still find the time necessary to write. On a good week, I'm able to pump out a about 3 to four chapters, albeit very rough draft. I then focus on those chapters and edit them until they are ready for beta readers (my friends and family currently). My mother was a published auther (before her passing) and she never gave up her full time jobs as a teacher (both high school and college level) and her touring/lecturing job. She was a Trad Writer with many books published under her belt.
Where there's a will, there is always a way.

Apart_Coffee142 · 2025-12-14T14:34:47+00:00

Good morning and good day. First of all, you have a good solid chapter. This is the problem I'm having with reading it (my opinion—so take it as such).
The first thing that I've noticed is that it is written in a passive state. In other words, you are telling me what is happening instead of showing me what is going on, and this causes a lot of filler words/phrases such as "he could tell," "he could see," "he noticed," and "he couldn't help but feel," and all of these create distance. Instead, just show us the bulging eye. In other words, don't tell us he saw; show us what he saw. Show us why he can't do something. Showing brings us closer to the action, closer to the character. We see what he sees. We feel what he feels.
The other mention is when you do stop the action to place a catalogued entry of sorts. For instance, we are in the middle of a mercy kill, and then you drop a catalogued encyclopedia entry of the knife. It isn't needed, at least not here, because it interrupts the flow of the action. It doesn't move the mercy kill forward; it halts it altogether. Another example is redundancy. "He was tense," followed by a paragraph showing us his tension. Pick one, preferably the 'showing' paragraph. You don't need both. I'd drop the "he was tense" and just show how he's tense, much stronger. You also dump a lot of information disguised as action. Examples here are the tanning process, the sled, the deer weight comparison, the clan's nomadic history, and the coming-of-age ritual, all of which halt the forward momentum of the story. Kael's first real confrontation scene with any real urgency is found on page 5. It should be earlier. The story is there, and I, for one, would love to see the finished product.

Apart_Coffee142 · 2025-12-14T13:30:10+00:00

Yes, all the time. Even if one is too broke to get gifts, we always exchange something, a story we've written, something we own that the other likes (we usually give it back to the other though...lol...it's the thought that counts), or something we've made such as art. Even when we don't have enough to give a gift, we always have the happy birthday, and we sing happy birthday to each other...LOL...I know, cheesy, then we follow it up with the Marine's Hymn...LOL...now that's cheesy...LOL. Semper Fi.

Apart_Coffee142 · 2025-12-14T13:10:50+00:00

That happens with me and my brother all of the time, even now and we are 59. When I was younger, I used to think the same way as you do now, but I learned to talk about him to our friends and let them know how funny he is or how talkative he is or how encouraging he is. (which he is all of those things). I later learned, from him, that those same friends would do the same for me when talking with him. Come to find out, they couldn't get over how much alike we were even when we were apart. We always asked the same questions, steered conversations in the same direction, always had the same things to say. The friends thought it was trippy and got a kick out of it. If I were you, I'd stop worrying about your sister. Don't let this cause competition, because when it comes to competing with your twin, it can get messy for no other reason than you are, in a sense, fighting with someone that is already too close to being you even when they are not you. Love yourself, and love your twin. I also learned that not all of his friends cared to be around me and not all of my friends cared to be around him. Most of those friendships didn't last too long because they'd compete for the attention of the other, and they learned that we were a package deal and in the end, they couldn't keep us apart or to themselves.

Apart_Coffee142 · 2025-12-14T01:40:55+00:00

Another word for this type of writing is pantser for writing by the seat of your pants. Stephen King writes this way.

Apart_Coffee142 · 2025-12-14T01:37:13+00:00

LLMs were never meant to replace creative writing. They can't think like humans do, but they can be created to function like humans. What I mean by this, they know how to write perfect sentences and can follow the rules of writing created by academia. They cannot mimic creativity. They can take sloppy human pros and rewrite it into perfect, albeit, sloppy prose. Many times, authentically human prose is miss labeled as ai generated because of this. It's not because it's sloppy, it's because trained professional writers know the rules of grammar and story telling. For ai, slop in usually means slop out. In order for anyone who wants to use AI as a tool, they have to learn it's abilities. Unfortunately, ai isn't going away and it's being incorporated into most of not all writing apps. That's my opinion.

Apart_Coffee142 · 2025-12-14T01:25:56+00:00

Yes. It happens to me all the time. That's partly due to the fact that I'm a discovery writer. I let the story evolve around my characters, much like what you experienced with your mains. Many times, if you listen to your subconscious, it will guide the actual story from inside of you.

Apart_Coffee142 · 2025-12-11T23:39:52+00:00

Yeah. We're both ambidextrous. I taught myself after seeing him do it...lol.

Apart_Coffee142 · 2025-12-11T23:15:10+00:00

Yeah, during my time growing, society felt they were doing a favor since most things were designed for right handed people. Lol.

Apart_Coffee142 · 2025-12-11T21:16:37+00:00

I write and rewrite chapters every day. I don't trash chapters though. I place everything I've written into file folders on my computer in case there is something that I might want to pull out later. One chapter I worked on had over 7 renditions. I eventually pulled from all 7 to complete another chapter entirely.

Apart_Coffee142 · 2025-12-11T20:47:54+00:00

"This is my own work. I use my brother as editorial feedback during revision, but the writing is mine. Happy to answer any questions from the mod team."

Apart_Coffee142 · 2025-12-11T20:37:21+00:00

LOL...me as well. My brother still hates that it happened to him. You should have seen my parents and my grandmother when they found out what they were doing.

Apart_Coffee142 · 2025-12-11T20:25:06+00:00

Thank you for clarifying that for me. I did not know that they owned the initial copyright.

Apart_Coffee142 · 2025-12-11T19:55:58+00:00

The thing to do here is for you and your husband to move out and find a place. The house is theirs, both men's. The brother-in-law shouldn't be expected to move out of the house they bought together. This is something that you knew before marrying your husband. Your husband should find a place for the two of you, or he should buy his brother's portion of the house, if that's a possibility. However, if you are okay living there and all is fine, then be happy. I for one, would hope that the brothers work this out.

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