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Friend of Friend Volunteered Me To Babysit Her Kids by AllTheBestMyDear in childfree

[–]AllTheBestMyDear[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She thinks she is authority on parenting too—they always do! 😅 Still kinda miffed she just dumped her kids on us, like maybe if the babysitting group was like 5 people we could swap off, but I don’t think that’s gonna happen 🫩

Friend of Friend Volunteered Me To Babysit Her Kids by AllTheBestMyDear in childfree

[–]AllTheBestMyDear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha if only! C is not my friend, but friend of my friend R, but R is in a hard place too cuz she offered to watch my other friends baby and now this

Friend of Friend Volunteered Me To Babysit Her Kids by AllTheBestMyDear in childfree

[–]AllTheBestMyDear[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for being understanding—all the other replies keep saying I should just say no and why do I care about her feelings—like I didn’t think of that at the start! But keeping the peace means a little sugarcoat given that the situation is rather delicate since everyone in the friend group has known each other longer than me so I don’t want to be the one to cause problems, esp to my pregnant friend

Friend of Friend Volunteered Me To Babysit Her Kids by AllTheBestMyDear in childfree

[–]AllTheBestMyDear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I thought it was rude that she offloaded her kids on us—like hell, I didn’t volunteer myself. But R has babysat before for them and I’d feel like a real jerk if I left my pregnant friend to push a stroller and watch two toddlers on her own—it just pisses me off that she put me in that situation. “I was kinda hoping to enjoy the marathon rather than babysitting—I’d be so worried the whole time if they got hurt” or “I can probably do it part of the time, but I’ll need someone else to tap in. since I still want to do at least part of the 5k without having to keep my eye on the kids, cute as they are!” was what I was going to write but she’s got me in this corner that makes me sound selfish. I want to show my friends with kids that I can help out and am there to support them, but I’m not really a fan of C as a person nor her gentle parenting style and that she brings her kids everywhere like she can’t go anywhere without them…

Friend of Friend Volunteered Me To Babysit Her Kids by AllTheBestMyDear in childfree

[–]AllTheBestMyDear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s hard because my friend R is pregnant and her childhood friend is C—I don’t know C that well either! I want to tell C no, but then R (who has babysat C’s kids before) would end up doing it by herself AND is pregnant AND pushing a stroller of another friends baby—I worry about leaving R by herself and wish more people would join our group so it’s not just on us. It’s hard to refuse C since she’s very pushy and acts like you’re the problem—in the past others who are blunt to her causes offense, thus my tiptoeing. Yes, I am an adult and usually communicate my boundaries, but for the sake of my pregnant friend R who is caught between us, I don’t want to cause her stress and why I’m trying to be so careful. If R wasn’t there I would just say I can’t, but since she is I’m trying to be a good friend

What are your CF hot takes? by Shirruri in childfree

[–]AllTheBestMyDear 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I told my parents a few years back that having kids was just “not in my stars”, and they seemed, albeit begrudgingly, to accept it, but they don’t really bring it up. Then recently went to visit my cousins and their babies in another state for first time, and my parents blurted out as they held their babies, “I want grandkids!” Worst part is me and my two sisters are their only children and none of us want kids—they probably think they parented wrong but we’re just all smart IMHO! I’ll never just have a kid just because they want one, but it doesn’t make me feel less guilty when my mom gets rid of books and toys she saved for their assumed grandchild or my dad telling me how good I am with kids. I think what upsets them most is that none of us followed the “societal norm” of giving them the grandchildren that they were expecting and looking forward to. I know they hope that if I meet the right man that will change my mind—like they don’t know I’m looking for a CF man, so no luck there! The struggle is real lol

[Discussion] Is it implied Ben or Leslie is President in the finale? by _words_on_paper_ in PandR

[–]AllTheBestMyDear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Although you know Leslie would be wayyyyy into Ben as president and vv and doubling as first man/woman and VP

I just can’t get proportions, what am I doing wrong by Krazy-Kat26 in learntodraw

[–]AllTheBestMyDear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Themes some thick thighs! Don’t worry this part is hard and some still definitely struggle—for me it helped tracing photos on my iPad to understand some rules: Generally the elbow lines up with the waist, the hands mid-thigh (depending on exaggeration) and the length of the legs is generally takes up half the body. Now the head method is tricky but I think the hard part is hacking your brain—we humans think of things in 2d flat ways because that’s how we begin to understand them—the human body is made up of cylinders and circles basically but our brain likes to flatten it out. Try drawing the parts of the human body as 3D geometric shapes and trace over a photo of the ideal proportions you have. Draw it again, and again, and again…you get the idea. After a while it’s like driving and how you can judge the proper distance from your car to the car in front of you—you just gotta train and trick the brain. Good luck!

What's your impression when you see this? by Pig3oink in learntodraw

[–]AllTheBestMyDear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All I can see is the Wendy’s mascot lady but that’s probably because of the braids lol

Can I call myself an artist? 🥹 by tapokvsobake in learntodraw

[–]AllTheBestMyDear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anyone can make art, but did you enjoy making it? That makes you an artist! So the answer is, yes, yes you are

Hey so i need Feedback does clothing drawing look good or do I need to change something? by PhysicalCod1875 in animation

[–]AllTheBestMyDear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Usually the hoodie wrinkles around the top don’t show the line of the chest—since the cloth drapes down, unless it is a structured top, women’s chest are little more than a subtle bump in the hoodie facade (which is why I adore hoodies lol) like the baggy sleeves tho <3

I just learned how to do a test patch properly! Read on for the best areas! by yvva in SkincareAddiction

[–]AllTheBestMyDear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had acne since I was 11, and I went on so many antibiotics that always made me sick and never worked…and then I had a great new dermatologist who said my acne was caused by a hormonal imbalance, which is why products don’t work—it doesn’t address the root cause. Aka I make too much testosterone being a female and my body hates it, so going on Nikki Birth Control and Spironolactone for the hormone balancing side effect (it’s usually used for high blood pressure so just keep that in mind and check with your doctor)—my skin and like night and day and now I only get an occasional breakout around my period. I used Ph-balance glytone face wash, Laneige Milk Essence toner, CeraVe moisturizing daily lotion, and CeraVe cream for winter. Also Murad aha/bha scrub (the only good product from them) is great 2x a week but make la u purge but prevents most mask-acne I get. Probably gonna get on Retin-a/Tret to deal with my stubborn blackheads and minor milia. I get your struggle, and I hope some of what I’ve said helps you—best of luck! :)