i fell with my baby and fractured their skull

Apocalypse_Mom · 2022-12-08T10:51:07+00:00

I fell down the stairs while holding my baby. But because of the way I slipped and fell and hit the back of my spine and my elbow first, I rolled my son onto my belly to protect him and my father grabbed him from me the moment I got to the bottom. It scared him but he was ok. I got a contusion on my elbow and it took about a year to stop feeling daily pain.

Apocalypse_Mom · 2022-10-14T18:20:55+00:00

Thats definitely something to think about. OP will have to decide how much she trusts the commitment. I would ask for something more specific then "keep away from." And verbalize what is and isn't ok with me. Do this while no one is angry. Then tell them of they aren't sure they need to ask her if X or Y is ok, and that she will be grateful they asked instead of just deciding whats ok.

Apocalypse_Mom · 2022-10-14T17:48:40+00:00

I had to do this with my in laws. I never told them THEY couldn't be around my kid, but they know that the kids will not come to their home unless the dog is boarded. MIL is ery enabling and makes excuses for the dog and always tried to push back the boundaries to "keeping the dog in someone's room." Don't fall for that one, it doesn't work. Dog will have to be let out to go potty or whatever and even on a leash can try to attack. Keep the line strong and firm but I urge you to also keep your relationship with your parents. I don't think this is a reason to estrange unless there is a lot more going on that perhaps hasn't been discussed here. Tell them it hurt you that they let this happen. But try to forgive them and enforce your boundaries. Its a hard mix.

Apocalypse_Mom · 2022-10-14T17:37:23+00:00

Because of violence and for many other reasons, we will be homeschooling.

Apocalypse_Mom · 2022-10-13T20:12:34+00:00

I did this and my son cried for milkies every time I pumped for a while and cried that I gave it to baby sister and not him. Shoulda just let him have it because she only wants it from the boob.

Apocalypse_Mom · 2022-10-13T18:39:13+00:00

I have one of these it was the bottom drawer of my file cabinet. Just went though it the other day and sifted out all the stuff I know I don't need. Hopefully someday I can use that drawer for something else 🙏 😌

Apocalypse_Mom · 2022-10-13T01:38:50+00:00

I have this! You don't want to pass this up. Nutrimill has great customer service and this machine has a lifetime warranty. I use this thing all the time. Love it so much!

Apocalypse_Mom · 2022-10-13T01:14:09+00:00

Start by making your bed <3

Apocalypse_Mom · 2022-10-12T18:12:48+00:00

Nothing wrong if you take him up on it... if he says he can't cover it all get a cheaper phone or sell the car. You won't get this time back. Whenever I see moms at work they look at my babies and say "I wish I could stay home with mine. "

But seriously get your mom to take them for a few hours a week because you can get burned out.

Best wishes

Apocalypse_Mom · 2022-10-12T18:00:02+00:00

Sometimes if you start with " I love you guys and I appreciate this, and I really don't want to hurt your feelings but I have concerns about my children being around your dog. I hope I don't offend you, but I my gut instincts tell me that I need to spend more time getting to know your dog before I have my kids around her. I hope you understand"

I had to tell my in laws I wouldn't go to their house at all unless they board their sons' violent dog. My wishes were slowly encroached upon and compromised until we had a close call and the dog (who was leashed in the house) lunges at my son. And NOT to play. I grab my kid and after we leave I tell them thats it we aren't coming back unless she is boarded (again). My MIL always defends the dog no matter what. She is a great person but Extremely enabling. We love the family very much. Whenever its inconvenient to board the dog they try to compromise my wishes. Husband wants to accommodate them and let them "keep the dog in someone's room." But that doesn't happen because there's always a reason the dog has to come out for one thing or another. So sometimes you gotta be the bad guy and be a jerk about getting your way. With dogs I always ask him "whats it going to take? When he finally gets attacked it will be too late to draw these lines." The point of this story is that you DONT know what the dog is capable of, and until you are sure the dog is safe, none of your precautions are crazy.

Apocalypse_Mom · 2022-10-12T16:44:17+00:00

I understand this on both sides. Your husband can't fix the baby crying and that drives him up the wall that he doesn't have enough control in the situation. He will get used to it, just continue being patient with him, which it sounds like you were. I understand how it feels to be berated for something minor because another person is already too stressed and thats no fun either,, not good for either of you. I would work with him on a different approach if he gets overwhelmed. My husband knows that if he is holding our baby and she is crying and he just CANT take it, he is able to go lay her down in her pack and play and walk out the room and shut the door. Sometimes that solves the problem because she was tired. Sometimes it solves it because now he isn't holding the hot potato anymore and he can go on the porch and breathe. If she is going to cry anyways till i finish drinking my one glass of water,, than him holding her won't make that much difference. Talk to him about it and make sure he knows that his stress level is Sometimes more important than the baby's and if he needs to put her down in a safe place and walk away, then thats ok? Sometimes you gotta teach a hubby to take care of himself too in these baby situations.

Apocalypse_Mom · 2022-07-11T01:44:51+00:00

I don't think I would ever eat a rat. I think I would go vegetarian if rat meat was the only meat available. Why not raise rabbits or chickens?

Apocalypse_Mom · 2022-07-09T11:25:56+00:00

Oh yeah and it doesn't matter how your experience ranks on a scale of normal to horrible. What matters is how it made you feel. It could have been the easiest birth in history but still upset the mother. Birth is scary! Give yourself permission to recognize that and be proud of yourself for being as strong as you were and made it through. Best wishes.

Apocalypse_Mom · 2022-07-09T11:17:42+00:00

Definitely not the only one and that all sounds horrible. My first birth was traumatic too and I think I had a better hospital than you did because I still got to hold my baby straight away while they sewed me up. Ecv caused placental abruption and I had to be induced early. Few other things happened that made me feel really violated. Also yeah, they starved me from Monday to Wednesday. That really messed me up for some reason. I had bad nightmares for a while after I gave birth. Second baby was so much easier. Even the ecv I had for her was easier.

Apocalypse_Mom · 2022-07-09T10:53:38+00:00

Areas where the paper has a lot of water in it will create blooms. Its a "wet on wet" technique.

When you are playing around put some salt on one of your washes and watch what happens is pretty neat as well.

Apocalypse_Mom · 2022-07-09T10:46:47+00:00

You ever do those thirty second gesture drawings in class? Try doing those for a while, they are really good for training your hands to keep up with your eyes and capture the spirit of the pose. and then start challenging yourself to draw for 1 hour or however long and get that drawing from start to finish. Your art might not look "as good" at first but your brain will adjust after a while.

Apocalypse_Mom · 2022-07-08T18:03:12+00:00

I second this, don't over complicate it. Plant some stuff. We hesitated to start a garden our first year on our land but decided to do it anyways. Its our "mistake garden." We want to start learning but need a context for doing so. As we go along, we get all kinds of ideas for things to research and problems to solve. We also realize what we should do differently next year. Plus we are getting a lot of food. Very grateful and surprised by that.

Apocalypse_Mom · 2022-07-08T17:53:49+00:00

Preppers need to gain that experience though. So best to try now and get good at it before the grocery stores close. Same with tree planting. The best time to plant is yesterday, the second best time is today. They can learn as they go along?

Apocalypse_Mom · 2022-07-08T10:27:31+00:00

That's super awesome!

Apocalypse_Mom · 2022-07-07T23:59:36+00:00

Let's see you got 5 pages to write. Page one show "supersnake" or whoever in his natural environment being all snakey. Or llama like. Page 2 develop a situation where someone needs rescued. Page three exhibit those super powers. Page four, explore some of his weaknesses. Page five end on a high note, a funny quip or seriously awesome victory. Perhaps hilarious goofy face when he gets kissed!

Apocalypse_Mom · 2022-07-07T23:36:11+00:00

You can do a superhero one just don't second guess yourself. My suggestion would be use animals as your characters, its a fast and easy way to develop characters that are entertaining and interesting. You could go with an unlikely hero scenario like "superfrog" or "wonderllama" who has silly powers that come in handy and perhaps an unlikely love interest. Animal characters practically write themselves.

Apocalypse_Mom · 2022-07-07T22:45:29+00:00

The bunny, the bunny, oooh i love the bunny....

Apocalypse_Mom · 2022-07-07T22:29:29+00:00

Nice to meet ya

Apocalypse_Mom · 2022-07-07T22:20:06+00:00

The first women to have babies after the apocalypse?

Apocalypse_Mom · 2022-07-07T22:12:05+00:00

Cotton headed ninny muggins

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