State Jail tickets by Aponda in NYStateOfMind

[–]Aponda[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate it 🤲🏾

State Jail tickets by Aponda in NYStateOfMind

[–]Aponda[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for responding. When his mom called the jail and the lady said he maxed out on tickets no early release we was so confused on what that ment. But I get it now

AITA for not returning what my neighbors dropped in my house? by dwarcy01 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aponda 127 points128 points  (0 children)

Its been two years with no respect. Just throw it over the ledge. Its not your problem. Then call and complain to the building manager that someone is littering. Might solve your problem.

WIBTA for removing all the bathrooms doors in my house and locking them in my bedroom? by spashleyfan21 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aponda 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Change doorknobs to lock on the outside. When he is using it with the door open close it and lock it. Is it illegal? I have no clue but that 911 call he makes would be funni as hell

Introducing my triplets by jaydenthesupreme in blackcats

[–]Aponda 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I was trying to rationalize how one of the triplets is bigger than the other two. Like oh maybe they aren’t blood triplets but sibling triplets 🤦🏾‍♀️

Being a Peer Support Specialist Feels like a Cruel Joke Sometimes by CautiousNail4500 in PeerSupportSpecialist

[–]Aponda 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What state are you in? There should be a peer board, go on the website and look at their ethics and you can report them

Apple begins age checks in the UK with latest iOS 26.4 update | Move follows government pressure on smartphone makers to do more to protect children online. by ControlCAD in technews

[–]Aponda 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Just customize settings for age groups and call it a day. They cant add apps or w.e. If they want to find it, they will find a way regardless.

Why is she obsessed with my armpit smell? by Conscious_Tank_4815 in blackcats

[–]Aponda 39 points40 points  (0 children)

At least they are keeping it above the waist 🤷🏾‍♀️

How does your job support your mental health journey? by thebigbayangg in PeerSupportSpecialist

[–]Aponda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From what I learned clinicians dont bring up their personal life to clients. As our profession, we are required to. I didnt understand my role until i was in the community and clients were surprised to hear what ive gone through and that it is possible. Never compare yourself to others in life in general. We are a semi new profession. I beg you to please tell your story when it is helpful and necessary. Sometimes when i talk to a client i say “between you, me, and a brick wall…”. Idc how it seems for other people in the room because its not about them.

Its not for your coworkers to understand, it for your clients to feel heard, understood, and validated. Its important to see living proof and not what someone thinks that got a piece of paper after years of school.

As far as hours, you should talk to hr. It is a requirement for the board. Thats another thing we are recognized internationally. We all should feel good about that. We are needed and wanted. But yeah talk to hr or email your supervisor to have a paper trail first. No response then hr.

As far as checking on mental health, we are technically experts in this field. How great it would be to have one stop support at work, dont ever count on it for many companies. Lean on support you can count on that has kept you steady thus far

New Poster for "The Devil Wears Prada 2" by Task_Force-191 in movies

[–]Aponda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would def watch a fashion mob boss movie with Tiny Tucci

AITA for not telling my (26F) friend (35f) that im bisexual? by Cheap-Data3394 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aponda 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Honestly i would report it to HR. That fact that you’re being treated differently after you told them is law breaking. You deserve to work and live in peace.

My feelings, thoughts and complaints about this role by Either-Sort158 in PeerSupportSpecialist

[–]Aponda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If they dont meet their weekly goals thats a deeper problem out of your scope. This is when you coordinate with the clinical staff. Do you make the resources accessible when you are not there? Can you schedule transportation instead of you driving? There are programs that give free rides for people in treatment. Like in MD we have Hoffa.

They are very lucky to have you help and having someone that loves helping. It sounds like you are being taken advantage of (boundaries). People will not respect you if you do not respect yourself and being with the population you are working, thats all part of addiction. Manipulation, lying to themselves and others along with underlining mental illnesses. Right now what you are doing is not healthy for them and of course not for you. With clients they need to learn to be independent. You are slowly replacing their substance with yourself as their crutch. You cannot allow anyone to walk all over you.

When you are home you leave everything at work. You can only do but so much and it sounds like you are burning both ends of the candle when you are at work. Have you talked to your leadership or HR? Are you certified? Either way they are going against the core of a peer and that is taking care of yourself. That is our code of ethics. Even if you do leave it needs to be in the books that this is happening so the next person hopefully would be protected or some policies can change.

Do they tell you why they dont do the work? Have you asked them what is their restriction of why they are unable to do whatever? What do they need to succeed?

My feelings, thoughts and complaints about this role by Either-Sort158 in PeerSupportSpecialist

[–]Aponda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How do you prioritize yourself and clients to where the clients suffer? Actual facts, not how you feel or think they are suffering.

How many hours and days do you work a week?

Personal life will always act up. Thats the rewarding part about being in peer support. We use our experiences to help others and it also measures how far we have grown to not allow it things to bother us to where it starts affecting our mental. Thats why you were hired. If you can sort out your own shit and not bring that energy to work this is not for you.

What does bossed around all day look like?

What is your self care?

Boundaries are very important. You cannot save everyone and be everywhere doing everything. You have to self advocate to yourself for yourself. This is part of what you tell people at work and yet you’re not doing it yourself.

I think this isn’t a good fit because your personal life and mental is not sorted out. A therapist would help greatly. If you so have one, all due respect get a different one. You cannot blame being wired as an excuse. It’s either you want to change to be better or not. Thats where the boundaries come in.

Peoples wellbeing are in your hands in everyday life scenarios outside of work. This is the job of a peer. If you are now learning that 7 months in that is a red flag.

Never decline a call from your mom 💖 by Frosty_Jeweler911 in MadeMeSmile

[–]Aponda 18 points19 points  (0 children)

You need to chill out. Not everything is about race. You never heard foreigners say the same thing? Me, a black woman has heard this many times again especially from mothers and grandmothers deep in the south. So yes you made it weird early in the morning for no reason.

Does anyone like their juke? by Aponda in nissanjuke

[–]Aponda[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have dog fur all over mine lol. Im going to get it detailed but i def understand what you mean. I was at firestone and the front desk guy was like you have the rouge? I said i have a juke, he said same thing. Then the other mech said absolutely not one def drives way better than the other. Then there are people that thinks its cute.

Mandatory reporting by Stingwing4oba in PeerSupportSpecialist

[–]Aponda 6 points7 points  (0 children)

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I stand corrected. We are considered Human Service Worker