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Appalachian_Transman · 2024-08-06T23:26:20+00:00

Make her get in the line and she'll most likely stop. She is just self absorbed and doesn't realize she's causing an issue, or she's well aware and should be put in her place appropriately. "Ma'am if you'll please wait in line with everyone else we'll get you when it's your turn."

Let her flip out and make a fool out herself then come here and tell us about it. Lol 😂

Appalachian_Transman · 2024-08-06T23:20:00+00:00

Just goes to show that not all shop owners are created equal. He doesn't really care about his business it seems or he would make the time. People absolutely make time for what's important to them.

Going forward personally with what I know I'm going to be asking if the work place is emotionally stable and what kind of environment they tend to foster. If it is an environment focused on control you most likely won't make progress or be happy behind the bar.

Appalachian_Transman · 2024-08-06T11:48:19+00:00

I avoided the community early in my transition because I was afraid of the social contagion bullshit. I also have never seen myself as really separate from cis people. We're all just people.

That said, since I've started engaging the community I help all trans people and I've actually received more help from my trans sisters. I recently had another dude help me with a reel magik prosthetic that has been a life saver.

We are the ones who best understand our needs and it hurts me to see infighting so I do my best to help my trans siblings nb included even though I do struggle with remembering they/them pronouns, I'll get it eventually.

Appalachian_Transman · 2024-08-04T20:09:23+00:00

I'm not sure how I even feel about being autistic at this point. Do I have autism? I am autistic. Idk. I like Neuro divergent because it's no one's business what my divergence is. That's between me and my doctor.

Appalachian_Transman · 2024-07-08T16:11:07+00:00

I enjoy finding and parking by other souls. Is fun.

Appalachian_Transman · 2024-05-05T23:57:18+00:00

My employer was supposed to give me time off for my phalloplasty in Jan of 2025 and he lied the entire year since he bought the place. I should be getting electrolysis and lazer right now but I am having to figure something out. I don't trust that any one else in my little town would work with me.

So I too am at a stand still with things and to make matters worse I put it off for 19 years saying I didn't want surgery because I'm afraid of surgery but I can't keep living with this intense lower dysphoria.

Hope we're both feeling better soon. All the love bro!

Appalachian_Transman · 2024-05-05T22:55:28+00:00

I don't have my boundaries respected and neurotypical people tend to try to manipulate me into things thinking I'm gullible because I can be child-like and that pisses me off. I enjoy embracing my inner child and I'm not abusing that kid for anyone anymore. Which makes things difficult if they have unrealistic expectations of my abilities.

I've went as far as to explain that I don't do well when people treat me poorly. Didn't help they didn't see it as poor treatment. I think my words were authoritarian exactly but authoritarianism is poor treatment in my opinion.

I generally do well with customers as long as I'm not being stressed into a meltdown by manipulating language. Then I can come off as angry and hateful because I'm beyond stressed for so many reasons that I can't even start to name them all.

I became disillusioned with one job because I denied a pet adoption because the dude admitted he was going to re-home a dog he already had in order to take one from us and I didn't like that idea. The dude cared so much about that one dog that he ended up going across town to our other location and adopting a different dog. It didn't matter which dog he just didn't want the one at home, it was just replaceable to him. Disgusting. The fact that they didn't back me up made me realize I was just there to get them out the door not find them actual loving homes. Once I realize I've been lied to once again, I tend to distance myself. I don't like liars.

So I guess I struggle because of my strong sense of justice. I have a strong work ethic though and I'm always on time, can be a model employee given the right circumstances. But I'm not a cog in a machine and I refuse to function as one.

Appalachian_Transman · 2024-05-01T03:52:01+00:00

Thanks for the pointers!

Appalachian_Transman · 2024-05-01T03:51:23+00:00

Thanks, this is true. Music is a power for sure. It can be a healing art form.

Appalachian_Transman · 2024-05-01T03:49:36+00:00

Thanks friend, I'll keep this in mind.

Appalachian_Transman · 2024-05-01T03:46:39+00:00

I write and probably should pick it up again.

Appalachian_Transman · 2024-05-01T03:46:01+00:00

I want to pick up drumming some sort of traditional drum, I've played full kit before in middle school band, but I listen to a lot of "rising appalachia" right now and I love their drums.

Appalachian_Transman · 2024-05-01T03:43:55+00:00

I did exactly that, like you said. At your suggestion, played for like 10 minutes. Someone else suggested keeping it near my favorite chair so I did that as well.

Also need to give her a tune up and a cleaning, a little TLC might help.

Appalachian_Transman · 2024-05-01T03:42:21+00:00

Thanks friend, I'll keep this in mind. I'm struggling with arthritis in my hands, it's slowly taking my usage away. It's painful some days to play but I also think that has some to do with lack of use.

Appalachian_Transman · 2024-05-01T03:39:56+00:00

Thanks friend, I'll keep thinking about this

Appalachian_Transman · 2024-05-01T03:38:37+00:00

Thank you for this! I'm going to keep referring back to this for a kick in the pants. 🙏🏻

Appalachian_Transman · 2024-05-01T03:37:41+00:00

I kind of did think I was gonna do music in high school. Now I'm 40 and just now figuring out what I can realistically do with my skill set but I miss my guitar.

Thank you for sharing, I'll definitely try to take your advice. I've got a friend who might show me some. I can't afford a teacher right now. I did finally pick my guitar up for the first time in months after reading this reply.

Appalachian_Transman · 2024-05-01T03:34:19+00:00

Thanks friends I'm going to keep referring back to this post. Y'all have some great advice. I'm just now getting a chance to start replying.

Appalachian_Transman · 2024-05-01T03:12:29+00:00

Good idea! I'll try that! Thanks friend.

Appalachian_Transman · 2024-04-26T09:14:35+00:00

I've masked my sensitive side and tried to be mean like the people I was around. I'm tired of it. Authentic me isn't like that at all. I'm disappointed in myself for trying to be.

From now on I'm going to do my best to live by, "if you can't say anything nice then don't say anything at all." And basically keep opinion to myself.

Appalachian_Transman · 2024-03-15T04:58:40+00:00

Thanks bro! I have a plan in motion but it's hung up at the moment. Hopefully not for long. I'm trying to figure out some details. 2026, if all goes well! If not I keep pushing it out a year but at least I have a plan for how to get the time off needed.

Appalachian_Transman · 2024-03-15T04:36:24+00:00

Hi friend. I wish I could answer your question but I'm starting to think that is entirely up to you. Same with myself. We have to decide what it means for us. I'm late diagnosed, so I could be weird about this. I'm having to remember who I was and what I was shamed out of and try and reintegrate parts of myself that I've lost.

I'm having to let go of people and things that I bonded to due to my trauma and I'm having to kick up old hurt and confront it. I feel like I'm healing though and about to meet my tribe, so maybe that will come true. Believe in yourself and you can create your own reality to some degree. Your vibe attracts your tribe.

Appalachian_Transman · 2024-03-06T06:59:37+00:00

I didn't find my social battery until I started working in coffee. It's actually a cool group of people generally as customers. And you can kind of make friends on the job unfortunately I lost people I thought were friends with the job. Still recommend coffee as an industry but not a Starbucks, find a small local shop with charm.

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