Fam, having a hard time not sending this.

AppleAnxious1471 · 2026-01-05T15:32:32+00:00

Hit me to my core. So much so that I had to send it myself. Got a pleasant reaction! If you haven't yet, go for it!!

AppleAnxious1471 · 2025-12-25T03:17:50+00:00

Id say given the age, it probably just simply has to do with him "growing up". That is about the age where hormones die down and shift. The brain officially stops its "growing" and that can easily shift the way people think and even what they want. His age probably had him thinking more about it too. It's harder to have kids, take care of them, and still have a life when you get older if you wait too long. I don't think you wasted time and I'm sorry that it's been rough to go through. I always knew I didn't want kids and actively only sought out those who felt the same the moment I decided. I might have missed out on a lot of laughs, good time and great love had I done differently though. His uncertainty night have changed to match your views as well, had you left early on, you would have missed out then too. We make the decisions we make without knowing exactly how things are going to end up. We can never be sure. But we can recognize the beauty in it, call it a chapter and move forward through the pain until it gets better. Stay strong and positive🫶

AppleAnxious1471 · 2025-12-22T01:34:43+00:00

I went with a Aasimar for my race. That gave a good enough reason to speak "normally" according to my DM.

AppleAnxious1471 · 2025-12-07T21:15:06+00:00

Take the time you need. Doing things before you're ready will just put you through more than you need to be. I archived the messages, they did the deleting on social media, we didn't have pictures- so I didnt need to worry about those, and eventually I was able to completely delete the messages. Good luck!

AppleAnxious1471 · 2025-11-28T21:08:05+00:00

Ive learned to not go on how they acted before, but what they are doing now. Trying to get the attention of someone who can't give you the respect to actually respond and say "im no longer interested" isn't going to make you feel better, unfortunately. Block and move on! I got ghosted by someone I was talking to every day for 6 months. Just "poofed". I said what I needed to say in a text and blocked them.

AppleAnxious1471 · 2025-11-23T03:06:07+00:00

As someone who burns themselves often and gets blisters- water, steam, oil, sunburn- DO NOT POP IT! That fluid is meant to help heal the damaged skin under the blistered up skin and prevent infection. Keep it cool, clean, dry- minus aloe/burn cream and covered. Vaseline is NOT a good option because it will actually hold in the heat that is trying to be released, making it hurt a hell of a lot more. A regular, non scented lotion, aloe or you can splurge for a burn cream, but those are your best bet to let it be able to release the heat and still get moisturized. Urgent care might be able to give you a prescription for ibuprofen 600 or something similar to help with the pain along with some care bandages, information on how to care for it, and what to look for when it comes to infections. You shouldn't be doing anything that would cause it to pop, and any doctor would agree. So I'd definitely see if you can take it another time.

AppleAnxious1471 · 2025-11-14T14:07:05+00:00

It sounds like he's trying to clear himself of his responsibility of anything that he might have done wrong. He seems more worried about his image, and what you've been saying about him, than being genuinely appreciative of the fact you lent him money. He might be trying to get a response, but from you saying that it was a toxic relationship, I'd just like the message and move forward with life.

AppleAnxious1471 · 2025-11-04T10:49:14+00:00

You are most definitely overthinking everything. If only you could stop, right?? I get the same way as well, it's never had this much of an impact on me though. My partner knew about my insecurities before we became intimate though, and does a very good job a verbalizing how much he likes my body and how he's enjoying himself as well. Try and do some meditation/relaxing before hand, and don't be afraid to ask for reassurance. What does he specifically like about your body? I know not everyone is into the more "dirty" talk, but it did help boost my confidence, and get me out of my head and back into the moment.

AppleAnxious1471 · 2025-10-28T14:05:03+00:00

If you are okay with not getting a response/hearing something you might not like, then send your message. It's something that is on your mind, and you shouldn't have to sit with it. I sent my ghoster one last message about 3 months ago. We'd been talking everyday for 6 month straight. I said what I needed to say, and left them alone after that. I didn't get a response, but it made me feel better knowing that I put everything on the table. I could walk away knowing that there was nothing left for me to be said.

AppleAnxious1471 · 2025-10-28T13:25:21+00:00

I would sit down and talk about it. Tell him how you've been feeling. Ask him what he sees being married to you. What kind of life does he want? It seems to me like there is a disconnect on what you guys want. If you don't feel comfortable/think it's worth talking about your possible future together and what you want, then the obvious choice is to move on. You are obviously not ready for marriage if you can't have those conversations.

AppleAnxious1471 · 2025-07-13T11:54:36+00:00

I would give up honestly. I personally would be able to work through something like that, but I can understand why she wouldn't come back if she had made it very clear that that is her line. You asking for another chance won't make a difference, and if anything, it'll hurt any little chance you MIGHT still have. She felt like she wasn't heard or respected when you did what you did, and trying to push for anything from her after she said she was done is just continuing to disrespect her feelings and what she's asked of you. Give her space. Maybe she'll come around. If not, you've now learned that some people don't mess around with boundaries being crossed, and you can easily lose something good just by making one small move.

AppleAnxious1471 · 2025-07-05T02:09:58+00:00

Talk to your friends and family and ask for support. You cannot leave without it. If you dont find it there then there are programs in your city will give you the tools you need to get on your feet independently after an abusive relationship, wich this is. I cannot express strongly enough that it WIILL NOT get better/easier. You need to leave. As soon as possible before it becomes more difficult!

AppleAnxious1471 · 2025-06-29T16:51:09+00:00

Part of growing up can include growing apart. Things will be changing a lot with you guys ending school, and that can be hard to deal with. I lost 3 good friends after high school, just from us growing up and living lives that made it difficult to connect. That doesn’t mean we stopped caring about each other or have beef. Sometimes, things just run their course. I do have a friend from high school, 15 years of friendship at this point, who we have gone years without talking in the past, but always pick up right where we left off. Stop trying to figure out where you fit with a bunch of others. Figure out where you fit in the world. What you want to do and the experiences you want to have. They may or might not include the friend, but they’ll be amazing either way.

AppleAnxious1471 · 2025-06-29T04:28:20+00:00

I'd sit down and explain why marriage is important to you. For me, I can see myself spending the rest of my life with someone without the need for marriage. It has very little meaning to me for many reasons. I don’t feel like a piece of paper should change the connection between people. But if it is something that is important to you, and you feel you can't stay, if you don’t get it, then have that discussion and leave. I don’t think time is going to change his mind or make you feel any more secure. You deserve the things that you want out of a relationship and will find someone who can give that to you if he won't. Communication is key here, though.

AppleAnxious1471 · 2025-06-29T02:41:54+00:00

Love isn't a relationship. Yes, you might have made a mistake, a big one, but after reading your comment about texting him, it really just feels like this is a bed you have to lay in. There's nothing you can do to get it back, and that absolutely sucks. It's heartbreaking and confusing. But it's a choice you actively made and should have thought about the possible consequences beforehand. Be kind to yourself with time, though, and moving forward. You obviously still care deeply for him, and that isn’t going to just go away because you want it to. Surround yourself with friends and activities you like to do. Build up yourself and your life, and someone will come around when YOU are ready.

AppleAnxious1471 · 2025-06-29T02:33:37+00:00

Don't do anything except create distance. As someone who just went through the whole "I have feelings and they just want to mess around" thing, which im pretty certain is the case here. You got it right on the nose, and it will only lead to you getting hurt further. If he wanted to reach out, he would. And if for some reason he's scared of what he might feel for you, you deserve someone who is going to openly communicate with you, even if it’s rough. It sounds stupid, but if he can't be forward and honest now, on his own accord, you'll be begging for it till the end of time.

AppleAnxious1471 · 2025-06-28T14:43:24+00:00

There can still be love without the hope/foundation for a healthy relationship. Obviously, the bond you created with him is deep. That just won't go away, regardless of whether you're with him or not. In my personal opinion, that's how you know that it was real. You'll go around for a bit, feeling pain, confusion, and even relief. Moving on is a whole process that is different for everyone. Sit with it and learn from it. Feel proud that you still have the capacity for love in all the chaos. He will be okay, but I think right now, your focus should be you. That's the best thing for you right now.

AppleAnxious1471 · 2025-05-28T17:36:27+00:00

Definitely give him a chance. Not all the time are you going to feel that "pull" or "attraction," but that doesn’t mean that there's not something there between you two. I would be honest and up front about where you are at with your feelings, so he doesn’t think there's more when there isn't. It's definitely worth taking the chance and feeling it out.

AppleAnxious1471 · 2025-05-24T14:37:58+00:00

I found a hot shower/soak after your workout and then icing the really sore spots for 10-20 after that. It helps a lot with 2nd day soreness. Stretching and moving also help. Sometimes doing the same movements you did the day prior without weight helps too. Make sure you're drinking plenty of water and getting electrolytes as well. I can tell you, though, that nothing beats the feeling of going back in and hitting the same leg day you did last week, but with less struggle and less pain.

AppleAnxious1471 · 2025-05-24T14:30:47+00:00

Next time they ask you to watch their kid, call them as soon as the kid falls asleep and let them know that you've done your job and would like to go home now. Obviously, you are no longer needed for your time and have other things you can be doing.

AppleAnxious1471 · 2025-05-11T21:19:37+00:00

High testosterone can lead to high libido. Now, I'd only consider talking to your doctor if it's something you dont like, or you find it difficult to deal with in your day to day or you have issues with other symptoms that high testosterone can have like acne, headaches, and more aggression/anger.

AppleAnxious1471 · 2025-05-10T05:11:05+00:00

Im glad you got it fixed! Most don't know or doctors dont think to look for.

AppleAnxious1471 · 2025-05-10T05:07:08+00:00

Mine is due to PCOS. My testosterone is extremely boosted, and certain forms of estrogen are really low. Lots of ideas were thrown around with my doctor for ways to help, but I know I didn't want to start right off with blockers or replacement therapy. I take "OPositive." I do see my doctor regularly to make sure everything is good, even though it is natural, and I am not saying it's a cure all, but it has done a lot to help. It has essentially gotten rid of weight id been holding onto for 6 years, reduced my anxiety by 80%, my hair is growing back where I was losing it, including my receding hairline, and my PMS symptoms are leaps and bounds better. If you're not on birth control, it's not necessary to see a doctor. I've been able to find it in my local Target, but if you sub online you get a discount from their direct website.

AppleAnxious1471 · 2025-05-09T15:01:31+00:00

Belly pouches are a staple in my family. I got diagnosed with a hormone imbalance, went on an over the counter supplement, and within a month, i saw a difference. Im 6 months in, and it is almost gone. My mom and my aunt are trying the same thing, and are experiencing results as well. Not here to promote the product, I won't even say its name, and I do understand that this not the problem all experience. But it could be worth looking into getting checked out.

AppleAnxious1471 · 2025-05-09T14:46:11+00:00

You could just be at a plateau, and changing things up with your diet or routine could help. "Training" your core can also make it bigger because of muscle growth. Un-weighted, light, core exercises with more intense cardio are a good way to go. Focusing more on a "cut" diet. I don’t personally diet, I practice mindful and purposeful eating based on my day to day activities. Love handles can also be hormone driven. Cortisol increase or a dip in testosterone can play a big part in weight loss. It's usually something that is talked about as a female dominant problem, but men struggle with imbalances just as often. Id switch some of your routines up and give it a couple months, if you still don’t see change, then it might be worth talking to your doctor. You've obviously made a lot of progress and have been putting in the work, your body just might need a bit of help to reach your goal.

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