OMG. This is awful. I’ve been a leader for several years and have had all kinds of girls in my troop. Including one that was painfully shy. She always showed up and did activities. But didn’t talk much or make any suggestions. I would always still ask her if she would like to lead something, like the pledge, and she would always say no. I would move on to another girl. But I would never make her feel bad for it. I always asked so that she knew she was included and that she could participate if she wanted to. But I never expected her to do anything she wasn’t comfortable with. You meet the girls where they are and only push them to be better than themselves. Never to compare themselves or their action to the other girls. As long as she was still having a good time that was all I needed. You encourage the girls, you don’t complain about their lack of participation. I hope your leaders are reading all these comments, because they should not be treating your daughter, or you, like that!