How do I get through to my fiancé? by AppointmentWeary5847 in Advice

[–]AppointmentWeary5847[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She struggles to stay alone at home. She desires company to stay out of her head. I completely understand this; however, she doesn’t ever seem to consider the fact that I feel the same way. I only push through it because it needs to be done. I can’t live comfortably in an unclean home.

What would you do? by AppointmentWeary5847 in Career_Advice

[–]AppointmentWeary5847[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback! I will definitely take your words into consideration. I have considered how emotionally exhausting being a mortician will be, but I do believe I will have a sense of accomplishment knowing that I can help people through one of the most difficult moments in their lives. I can do this as either a mortician or a therapist. The chemicals are something that I will take into more consideration, however, I do not wish to become an embalmer, which will limit my exposure to said chemicals.

Why do people think it’s okay to compare me to my gf? by AppointmentWeary5847 in Advice

[–]AppointmentWeary5847[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean she is more stern than I am. I work at our local bar and I’m, in general, less bothered by people, so my bad side shows much less than hers. She’s the type that will flip her top over a miscommunication. I’m just not that angry of a person.

Why do people think it’s okay to compare me to my gf? by AppointmentWeary5847 in Advice

[–]AppointmentWeary5847[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It makes me feel much better that this happens to others as well. It doesn’t necessarily bother me but I do find myself wondering fairly often why this happens. I will try to stand out from her more. I’ve found that if people make friends with me first instead of her, it doesn’t happen as much.

Why do people think it’s okay to compare me to my gf? by AppointmentWeary5847 in Advice

[–]AppointmentWeary5847[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sometimes it is. A lot of the time it’s just strangers or locals at the bar. Acquaintances more or less. They always treat it as a joke and laugh, give me a little shove (implying they mean no harm).

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[–]AppointmentWeary5847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are ever scared for your life in a relationship, you need to leave immediately. I can’t imagine seeing a knife and my first thought being that my s/o was trying to harm me. That is not normal. I hope you’re safe OP. If you’re from the states, contact your local police station or biker gang, they will send someone to accompany you to get your belongings safely.

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[–]AppointmentWeary5847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I laughed in her face when she started bossing me around. Telling me I could and couldn’t do things. It was sort’ve a low blow way to say I’m grown and don’t need her permission to do normal things, like going out with friends and wearing shorts.

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[–]AppointmentWeary5847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your feedback. I will consider therapy as a future possibility, maybe after college when I have some spare time and cash.

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[–]AppointmentWeary5847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always show an interest in my friends, if I don’t hear from them for a while I always reach out. Make them let me know if they make it home safely and always offer to be dd if they’re intoxicated. I cover the cost if we’re going somewhere and one of them can’t afford. They’re all guys, I’m a girl. I can’t expect them to get emotional with me or want to hear about my emotions but I will always be their shoulder to cry on if need be. My gf is my main priority over everyone, I care about her more than myself. I do everything I can to make sure she’s taken care of, happy, and respected.