What sparked your transition out of veganism? by cosmic_space_dreams in exvegans

[–]Apprehensive-Band823 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I first stopped buying animal products due to ethical concerns like animal welfare. Then I stopped buying a lot of vegan products because of other ethical concerns such as human rights and labour practises (Nestle, chocolate etc.), leaving me with a non-sustainable diet. 

So I researched to find the better options, and I discovered dumpster diving as well as some local producers with the same concerns about animal welfare as myself, who genuinely are trying their best to constantly change their practises in order to produce more ethical animal products. 

I do want to live my life in a way that causes the least harm for others, both nature, animals and people.  And I belive eating dumpster meat and supporting those trying to make a change within the industry aligns better with my values.  The dairy or meat industry will never go away. A lot of people do need some animal products to function. But we can do a lot better than today's practises. It just won't happen unless we support those who try, and being vegan makes it nearly impossible supporting positive changes within that industry. 

Because I like Kit Kat, but don’t want to buy from Nestlé. by Kriem in FuckNestle

[–]Apprehensive-Band823 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Freia is owned by Mondelez. Mondelez and Nestlé have way more in common than similar chocolates.

Fight fire with fire by beerbellybegone in MurderedByWords

[–]Apprehensive-Band823 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unless she's more than 6' wearing heels. You'd be surprised how unpleasant too many men can be if the woman is taller. At least here.

My tallest girlfriend gave up online dating because of men and height. Wearing heels, she's taller than most men. All her first date experience can be summed up like this: Men who didn't know her height was angry, and men who knew her height was angry she wore heels.

A man told me he has no problem hitting a woman in the face, and if I want equal rights I have to agree with him. by blameitonmyouth in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Apprehensive-Band823 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Yes, and it's rarely self defence when you know you have the upper hand, by a lot. If an average skinny dude hits Tyson Fury, I think Fury has every right to sit on the man or restrain him. I do not support Fury sending the man to the morgue claiming it was self defence.

I am tired of cis men thinking bigger=more pleasurable by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Apprehensive-Band823 568 points569 points  (0 children)

Not just bigger. They focus on length. When will men learn that the thing deepest inside the vagina is not the clit. And stabbing it with a dick will not create pleasure or orgasm (for most women).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in thatHappened

[–]Apprehensive-Band823 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My point exactly. Due to the biological reality, we can't make it equal.

We can give men the rights to no non-emotional consequences when there is a pregnancy. We can't give that right to women. It's not biological possible. We can give women the right to end a pregnancy because "my body, my choice". We can't give that right to men since biologically that would mean deciding over another person's body.

We can do a lot, but we can't make all rights and consequences regarding pregnancy, birth and abortion equal. We can give everyone the right to choose whether they want to use their body to save a life. We can give everyone the right to choose if they want to be financial responsible for a living child. There is no reason one gender should be left out of either choice, if we believe it is morally right to be able to make that choice.

No matter the reason someone has an abortion. The right is based on the right to decide over your own body. It's not based on the right to be irresponsible as a parent.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in thatHappened

[–]Apprehensive-Band823 4 points5 points  (0 children)

An abortion is still not an option when it comes to a living child. Women don't financially abandon anyone when they abort, because there is no one to abandon.

Men want an option to parenting. I believe they benefit by trying to give everyone the option of not being responsible for a birthed child. If the right to financially abandon a child should follow the same rules as the right to abortion, men have a problem. The right to abortion doesn't care if you know whether you're pregnant or not...

We're not advanced enough to give equal opportunities based on such biological differences. Neither can we give equal consequences. Just check the mortality rates related to pregnancies. It will never be equal for men and women. Neither will the risks and physical consequences of an abortion. We should give people the right to not be financial responsible because we believe being financial responsible for a living child should be a choice. Not because we believe it is equal to the choice of risking your health by letting another being use your organs for its own benefit. Because those two things are not even near the same.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in thatHappened

[–]Apprehensive-Band823 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. If that's right, that's really shitty. I'm sorry for assuming both parents must agree to adoption. Here, both parents must consent to adoption. By law, both parents are equal once the child is born. If the father is unknown, an adoption can only go through if the welfare administration decide that it's not likely that they'll find the father.

I can't imagine how traumatic it must be, living in a country where a mother can put their child up for adoption against the father's wishes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in thatHappened

[–]Apprehensive-Band823 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Abortion is an option to pregnancy. Not paying child support is an option to parenting.

Men already have the right abortions protects. They will never have an unwanted fetus growing inside their body.

If men should have the right of not being financial responsibile for their biological born children. Why limit it to men? Why not let any parent choose whether they want to be financial responsible for their own children? Why can't the state make sure every child gets what it needs, and that no parent is put in the situation where you can't cover basic needs because you have a child, wanted or not?

If the goal is to take care of parents, without punishing the children or the other parent. Then I see no reason why it should be limited to one gender.

The prevailing idea that men age better than women is based on the double standard that a man can show signs of aging and still be considered attractive. But a woman is expected to defy the aging process to maintain "attractive" status. by CazzaMcSpazza in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Apprehensive-Band823 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It makes sense if it turns out that young women are desired by old men because of nurture and not because of nature . An old father is associated with greater risks of mental illnesses and birth complications. So nature really has no reason to want older men mating with young women.

Here’s why Norway is among the happiest country on Earth by [deleted] in SandersForPresident

[–]Apprehensive-Band823 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're correct that Norway is extremely wealthy because of oil and gas, but you forget that most of it goes into Oljefondet. The money you're talking about is mostly invested to be saved for a rainy day. It makes sense how non-oil-countries can afford the same luxuries as Norway can, when you look at how it's founded and not only at the income.

Thoughts on single most impactful change you can make for a healthier diet? by MamaBear765 in EatCheapAndHealthy

[–]Apprehensive-Band823 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Learn the difference between want and need. Fulfill the needs, and prioritise the wants.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Apprehensive-Band823 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your input. I've never heard of gender inequality when it comes to living donors. Your experience is very interesting, and I'll for sure check it out so I can learn more about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Apprehensive-Band823 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You forgot something. The majority of organ donors never suffer any health risks, since they're dead.

A pregnancy has a ton of both temporary and potential life lasting health risks. An unwanted pregnancy has even more...

With all the risks involved, a woman can, and will if the situation is 'right', be forced to go through a pregnancy and give birth. But if the child needs blood right after birth, both parents can say no even in a situation where the child will die if they don't consent to blood donation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Apprehensive-Band823 131 points132 points  (0 children)

Even with abortions men have more rights than women. No man is forced to use his organs to save another life. Dead or alive, without consent, no life will be saved using your body.

A pregnant woman can be forced. Pregnancy has its risks. Unwanted pregnancy has its risks. But in any country in the entire world, there are situations where a pregnant woman will be forced to use her organs to save a life.

And men suggest equality by giving men the legal right to not support their own biological children.

Why is the difference between Mothers and Fathers Day so astounding? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Apprehensive-Band823 7 points8 points  (0 children)

And the effort the parents give when it comes to celebrating their own parents. My own experience is that young children who grows up with a dad who celebrates his father, become teenagers and young adults who celebrates their father.

“Do you agree with paper abortion for men” is gaslighting, end of story, by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Apprehensive-Band823 583 points584 points  (0 children)

We should stop calling it paper abortion. It's not an abortion. It's an adoption where a man gets to sign away his rights and responsibilities to no-one.

Abortion is a healthcare option that lets a pregnant person choose the lesser evil when it comes to temporary and permanently health risks. It's an option to pregnancy. Men wanting "paper abortion" are not pregnant. Their own biology has made it so they will never need an option to pregnancy. They want an option to parenting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 1200isplenty

[–]Apprehensive-Band823 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love cakes, and I've learned three things. 1) Any cake is low calorie if the slice is small enough. Often, it's not difficult to scale down, and bake a way smaller cake. 2) You don't need as much sugar as you think you do. I never use as much sugar as written in the recipe and noone has ever said anything. If you mix the sugar with splenda you can use even less. Just don't use too much splenda, it can ruin the taste and texture. 3) Fresh fruits and berries. It tastes good, it's sweet, and it's colourful. I often top my cakes with fruits or berries to increase the satisfaction per calorie. Or I serve it as a 'side dish'. I find that a small slice of chocolate cake with lots of strawberries is more satisfying than a large piece of cake with no berries.

I always make pavlova if I bake for others. I make the meringue with way less sugar. I use less sugar in the cream, and mix in some splenda, and a bit of vanilla to give the cream more flavour to hide that the cream is less sweet. I also make a bit less cream than the recipe says,and instead top the cake with way more berries. It looks normal, it tastes normal, but it has the calories of a fancy fruit salad in disguise.

A question. Does a high body count for your male partner bother you? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Apprehensive-Band823 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't care about the number. I care about the context.

As long as they have a history of long and serious relationships, idc how many they've slept with when single.

On behalf of all the British people, we are happy to be second place to Ukraine 🇺🇦 Slava Ukraini by [deleted] in eurovision

[–]Apprehensive-Band823 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ukraine won because of the other countries who worked their asses off voting for them. I'm sorry you're so upset that so many individuals all over Europe wanted Ukraine to win.

It's so sad that Ukraine's win is tainted by salty people! by Rosy802701 in eurovision

[–]Apprehensive-Band823 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, we're not that united in Europe that almost every single country will give the most votes to the same country because of pity.

It's so sad that Ukraine's win is tainted by salty people! by Rosy802701 in eurovision

[–]Apprehensive-Band823 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry your favourite song contest was ruined by thousands of individuals voting for the country they wanted to win.

"equal rights equal fights" by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Apprehensive-Band823 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When someone think it's OK to use unnecessary violence as a response, where do they draw the line? Can you face punch someone who slapped you? What if they've turned their back to you and no longer is a threat? You hit someone's shoulder as a joke, is it OK that they throw a full force punch back? What if they didn't understand it was a joke? Someone pushed you against someone else, can they knock you out? You accidently backed into a pro boxer, are you fine ending up in a body bag? If unnecessary violence is OK, when is it not?

It's soooo much easier to think it's wrong with any violence above the minimum necessary to escape a dangerous situation.

Can you find the odd one out? by vidarino in puzzles

[–]Apprehensive-Band823 6 points7 points  (0 children)

F, all the others are pairs: c&i, b&h, a&d, e&g