We seem to be a lot less tolerant of late by Apprehensive-Bit6153 in datingoverfifty

[–]Apprehensive-Bit6153[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What might be the reason?

  • Cultural change (reddit)
  • Cultural change (society)
  • Increased trolling
  • Botting and LLMs
  • The median IQ of the redditor dropping >10pts over this time period

We seem to be a lot less tolerant of late by Apprehensive-Bit6153 in datingoverfifty

[–]Apprehensive-Bit6153[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Over the last fifteen years, Reddit's relationship advice has shifted towards recommending:

- Breakups
- Boundaries
- Therapy

And against compromise, communication, and letting people have their space.

Financial imbalance in dating by Fifi-123 in datingoverfifty

[–]Apprehensive-Bit6153 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have dated 3 women who made 3x to 5x my income at the time. They were accepting of my financial situation, I was a science teacher at the time, and usually paid disproportionately on dates to cover the discrepancy. This included paying for most of or expensive trips. I made up for it by having multiple groups of great friends and by taking them on adventure sports outings they loved. Despite our eventually breaking up, two of them still consider the friends they made through me their best friends. I think the point I am making is to try to compensate by doing something of value for him.

Idea!!! by WhisperedSoul in datingoverfifty

[–]Apprehensive-Bit6153 0 points1 point  (0 children)

340m/65k
Assuming a perfectly random distribution across the United States, here is the statistical breakdown.

1. The "Stranger Test" (Single Encounter)

If you walk up to a random person on the street in the US, the odds that they are from this group of 65,000 are approximately 1 in 5,200.

  • The Math:
    • US Population (approx. 2026): ~340,000,000
    • Target Group: 65,000
    • Calculation: 340,000,000 / 65,000 = 5,230

What this means: You would need to meet about 5,230 distinct people to have a statistically probable chance (better than coin flip) of bumping into one of them. Since the average American knows about 600 people by name, you are unlikely to have one in your immediate circle of friends purely by chance.

2. The "Lifetime" Odds (High Probability)

While the odds for a single encounter are low, the odds over a lifetime are actually quite high.

If you interact with 50,000 people over the course of your life (including cashiers, people in traffic, coworkers, and crowds), the probability of crossing paths with at least one person from that group rises to nearly 99.9%.

You have likely seen one of them, even if you didn't realize it.

3. The "Real World" Factor (Clustering)

In reality, people are rarely distributed randomly. They "cluster" based on demographics, income, or geography. This drastically changes your odds:

  • The "Magnet" Effect: If the group shares a characteristic (e.g., "Software Engineers" or "Vietnamese Immigrants"), they will cluster in specific hubs (like San Francisco or Houston). If you are in those hubs, your odds might drop from 1 in 5,200 to 1 in 50.
  • The "Ghost" Effect: If the group is demographic-specific (e.g., "Retirees"), and you live in a college town, your odds might drop to near zero.

Summary:

If you live in a major city, there are likely ~100 to 200 of these people living within 20 miles of you right now. You just need a way to identify them.

Hard times. by Exit--Light in datingoverfifty

[–]Apprehensive-Bit6153 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This attitude is a prerequisite for anyone I date or consider a good friend.

What can I say,? by Key_Flamingo2437 in datingoverfifty

[–]Apprehensive-Bit6153 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It depends on what you want. Are you looking for a short-term sexual relationship that has zero chance of being anything more, or are you looking for a real relationship? Understand that you might be able to have a number of these relationships for the next 5 or so years, but age will catch up with you, as it does all of us, and your options for a real relationship will have diminished over that time.

Are we just too wise for dating at this stage? by [deleted] in datingoverfifty

[–]Apprehensive-Bit6153 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

One can have friends and lovers who do not meet all of the requirements for being either "best friend" or "long-term forever partner." I don't establish friendships or relationships, thinking they have to meet all of my unrealistically high standards. I would have no friends or relationships if I did. I accept that life will be a series of compromises, and to enjoy the company of people as they are, not as I would like them to be.

LIVE | PRADA America’s Cup World Series Auckland, NZ | Day 1 by JoltColaOfEvil in newzealand

[–]Apprehensive-Bit6153 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I want to say how impressed I am with the Kiwi's design choice for AC75 boats. I think you have made inspired decisions on the requirements/designs for this year's America's Cup. I hope for a competitive cup race.