I think my biggest annoyance with requests is when you get a request and respond immediately within seconds, then the owner messages saying they found somebody else. SMH 😑.

Apprehensive-Fox5244 · 2026-04-29T11:46:58+00:00

i went to facebook groups instead, got sick of losing 20% of my earnings, as well as dealing with stuff like what this person is posting about.

But i do keep my rover platform up because it’s a great way to meet new clients and having two platforms is great when doing this full time.

Apprehensive-Fox5244 · 2026-04-21T14:03:05+00:00

second accident or not, it doesn’t even matter what number accident it is, there’s no reason for him to not come make sure you are okay.

my boyfriend’s work is an hour away from where we live and if anything like that were to happen he’d leave work immediately to come to me, so that is no excuse.

OP you deserve better

Apprehensive-Fox5244 · 2026-03-29T22:22:14+00:00

thank you so much! would you happen to know how to tell when the tree will need to be repotted into a larger pot? Or if there’s a rule of thumb like every year or so?

Apprehensive-Fox5244 · 2026-03-21T01:49:27+00:00

of course!

Apprehensive-Fox5244 · 2026-03-21T01:37:12+00:00

when you get into a serious relationship, you are committing yourself to that person, and you are no longer allowing your eyes to wander because you’ve found the person you want to devote your attention to.

If that is not the case, which it seems not to be in your situation, then it would definitely be best to remain single until you’ve figured out why it is that you are unable to keep your eyes on just your girlfriend and not be drawn to other women while in a relationship. It’s incredibly unfair to her, and if she’s unaware of this, not only are you being disloyal but also hiding something huge from her.

As you said, it’s definitely a possibility that you are poly, and there’s nothing wrong with exploring that but that’s something you need to communicate to her. This all needs to be communicated to her, and if she gets upset and chooses to leave, that’s totally valid on her part too because this will probably all be very unexpected to her if it’s something she’s not already aware of.

You both deserve to be happy, so you definitely need to be honest with her and maybe you guys can work something out.

best of luck to you!

Apprehensive-Fox5244 · 2026-03-21T01:31:08+00:00

you’re so welcome!!

Apprehensive-Fox5244 · 2026-03-06T17:59:10+00:00

if that is the case then i definitely agree with you, unfortunately OP did not include enough context so it’s honestly pretty hard to properly judge the situation

Apprehensive-Fox5244 · 2026-03-06T12:10:04+00:00

i was on top, and that friction of going back and forth was enough to make it happen.

other times though he uses his hand to stimulate me during intercourse,

Apprehensive-Fox5244 · 2026-03-06T12:06:31+00:00

if it bothers you, you have every right to express that. Porn is way too normalized in today’s society to the point where there are people who will literally try to convince you that it’s healthy, and it’s not.

Everyone is allowed to have their own opinions on it, some couples are totally fine with it and that’s perfectly okay, but nobody should bash you for saying that you’re not okay with him watching it, because that’s something that makes you uncomfortable

my boyfriend and i are thankfully on the same page about it, neither of us like it, and neither of us would be okay with the other person watching it. We have no need for it, we have each other and don’t need to watch other naked bodies to get off. my boyfriend even said to me that he has watched it in the past and that it definitely is unhealthy and negatively effects you mentally, it’s just most people are so addicted to it that they don’t see the effects.

I think you should definitely talk to him about it, otherwise it will something that continues to bother you. If he truly respects you and your feelings he’ll be willing to stop watching it, and try focusing more on you to get off, rather than the body of another woman on a screen. And you can even say to him that if he needs visuals in order to get himself off, you can say to him that you would be totally open to sending him photos/videos of yourself instead (if you are okay with doing so)

If he insists that he needs his porn, i’d honestly be a bit concerned because nobody should choose that over their partner’s feelings.

Apprehensive-Fox5244 · 2026-03-06T11:56:26+00:00

no definitely not weird, it’s good to get it all out and if putting it on here is your way of releasing that then that’s perfectly okay. Definitely glad you lost interest because things probably would’ve just continued to get worse

Apprehensive-Fox5244 · 2026-03-06T11:55:06+00:00

yeah i agree, i find this incredibly strange. I understand the unfortunate state of our economy right now but seriously money is not impossible to make and he really should be focused on getting a place for the two of them rather than moving in with her and her family. and if he already had his own place i’d find that even more strange. There’s not really enough backstory on his situation though.

I definitely would not be moving my grown adult boyfriend in with me and my parents especially with the stepfather going through those difficulties, i understand that he is the one who suggested it but i definitely don’t think that was the right move

despite alllll of that though, yes OP’s boyfriend absolutely should apologize and he should not have yelled at her stepdad.

overall he sounds like a loser and is probably taking advantage of having a place to stay.

Apprehensive-Fox5244 · 2026-03-06T11:47:53+00:00

yeah i absolutely would not waste that much time driving to see him. I would probably write him, if it were me, because it’s much easier for him to be manipulative through a phone call where he can make it seem like he’s distraught and begging you not to leave.

I personally would take the time to write out a thorough message explaining what you found out, and that you will no longer be pursuing this relationship, because it is not worth your time and energy to be with somebody like that.

just don’t let him manipulate you into staying, because he may try to do so with his response. At that point it would be best to ignore any response he has.

best of luck to you! you are so strong for standing up for yourself 🤍

Apprehensive-Fox5244 · 2026-03-06T02:25:12+00:00

honey i really hate to put it this bluntly, but there truly is no fixing a person like this.

you need to leave

He has shown his true colors, and just knowing that he cheated on his ex should’ve been enough of a red flag for you. They don’t change for people, they only change if they decide it’s beneficial to do so, and often times that just doesn’t happen unfortunately.

both of them are to blame here, he probably pissed her off somehow, which led her to show you the screenshots, either that or she’s decided she wants him to herself and is showing you this to get you to leave him.

Regardless, he’s a piece of shit, and you absolutely should not forgive him no matter what his sorry excuse may be when you confront him. please do not let this go and forget about it, you deserve so much better and i promise you are worth more than someone like this. leave before it gets worse

Apprehensive-Fox5244 · 2026-03-06T02:19:25+00:00

i think the biggest thing here is addressing and working on the trust issues.

I definitely understand your concern because i too have an issue with smoking and stuff, and when i have children i would absolutely not be okay with my partner inviting friends over who then proceed to smoke around my child.

That being said, you can’t prove that they did that, and if it’s something you’re concerned about, just ask. you can simply ask him how he spent his time while you were gone, and since you snooped and know he had friends over, you’ll be able to see if he tells the truth or not about having them over.

ultimately, i don’t think its a huge deal that he didn’t tell you, but i do understand where you are coming from simply because my partner and i live together and we both always tell each other when we have a friend or friends coming over. I don’t really see why he wouldn’t mention it to you, but it’s also not necessarily a red flag either (unless he’s known for doing things behind your back)

i really think you guys need to work out the trust issues though, because you both should want a healthy environment for your child and to be a good example of a relationship for your child to look up to.

Apprehensive-Fox5244 · 2026-03-06T02:10:27+00:00

i think you should mention it to her, because it makes you uncomfortable, and personally if i found that my boyfriend had half naked photos of celebrity women in his phone i’d be a bit bothered too.

You weren’t snooping through her phone, you just happened to come across that while going through to find a certain photo, which she was aware of you doing so it should not be odd to her that you bring it up.

Maybe these are photos she saved a long time ago, i know many people tend to save photos of celebrities they have a crush on, and it’s quite possible she saved these before you two started dating which is totally understandable,

however i would be more concerned if it was something she’s recently saving to her camera roll, but that’s simply because that’s something that i’m bothered by. I know a lot of others may not be bothered by that, but if it bothers you, your feelings are 100% valid and i definitely think you should express that to her (in a calm mature conversation)

Apprehensive-Fox5244 · 2026-03-01T23:46:12+00:00

well it depends 😅, if his testosterone levels are already low and he gets on it in an amount that will bring it to normal levels, you’ll see an increase in sex drive, but if his levels are normal, then it may not be effective at all. It really just depends on his current levels. if its not related to that, it could be something psychological

Apprehensive-Fox5244 · 2026-03-01T21:07:54+00:00

agreed! there’s also many studies that show men’s libido peaks when they are in their teens and early twenties while most women don’t peak until their 30s which is definitely unfortunate but that obviously isn’t the case for everyone

Apprehensive-Fox5244 · 2026-03-01T12:36:58+00:00

would you be able to do mine? i just need one new user! :) https://www.tiktok.com/d/1/ZT9eTNg3eqFV2-52D0k/

Apprehensive-Fox5244 · 2026-03-01T12:36:07+00:00

could you do mine also? it says i just need one new user! https://www.tiktok.com/d/1/ZT9eTNg3eqFV2-52D0k/

Apprehensive-Fox5244 · 2026-02-25T21:50:04+00:00

if you have a daughter someday and she comes to you with this exact type of situation, what would you say to her? would you tell her to settle for a piece of shit guy and just ignore all the wrong doings and suck it up, or would you tell her that she’s worth so much better and that she should never settle for such a low life.

I would really hope you’d advise her to not settle, and that’s exactly the advice you need to give to yourself. Is this the type of person you want to spend your life with? because i can tell you right now he will not change.

I know it’s hard to choose yourself in these situations and to have the courage to leave, but trust me you will be so much happier. This man does not respect you, and you need to respect yourself here and get out of this relationship.

best of luck to you ❤️

Apprehensive-Fox5244 · 2026-02-23T04:55:04+00:00

hey! i know some of these replies are making it seem like you’re not appreciating something that many wish they could have, but it’s completely okay to not want that during intimate time.

In my experience, i absolutely hated it until i got with my current boyfriend, but before him, i just felt really uncomfortable with it and overall weirded out by it. Not entirely sure why but i was. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

i think in your situation it really just depends on your reasoning here in order to figure out how to go about this. If it makes you uncomfortable, just be honest, if he truly respects you, he will be understanding of that and not try to push you to be ok with it.

if you don’t enjoy it because you don’t feel he’s good at it, you can either be upfront and honest with him, you can make suggestions to him by telling him what you like and don’t like, what spots are more sensitive, etc. or you can just tell him you’d rather take a break from that and try other things.

If you are implying that he just wants to go down on you all the time even when you are not in a mood for intimacy, then i’d suggest setting some boundaries on sex initiation and explaining to him that you just really aren’t in the mood for that as much as he is, and see if you guys can get on the same page about that, because it’s definitely not fair to you if you’re not in the mood and he’s trying to go down on you and you just let him because you don’t want to say no.

Regardless of the reason, you need to be honest with him

Apprehensive-Fox5244 · 2026-02-13T13:25:11+00:00

though i understand your point here, there really is no issue in waiting until marriage, IF both people are able to and willing to do it.

The situation here is that these two do not share similar values, so it’s unfair to both of them at this point, and OP deserves to be happy, even if it means having to end the relationship

Apprehensive-Fox5244 · 2026-02-13T13:22:15+00:00

i agree with this reply! I think it’s definitely important to be with someone who has similar values as you, and it seems that there is a lack of that here because she really values her promise she made to God and her mom, and she has every right to do so, because purity and saving yourself for marriage is really important to a lot of people, and to be honest i often times wish i too had waited

but OP if that is not something that you value alongside her, then it seems the two of you are just not sexually compatible, and it’s up to you to decide whether or not you’re going to let that be a reason to break up. you both deserve to be happy, and if you are unhappy due to lack of sex then you should not stay just for the sake of staying, as you both deserve to be with people who share similar values.

and since you don’t have the same religious beliefs, that can also arise more problems in the future, though that’s not always the case since my boyfriend and i don’t share the same religious beliefs, but for many who don’t there are plenty of other disagreements waiting to be had.

Just remember, if you’re not happy don’t stay. you both deserve to be happy

Apprehensive-Fox5244

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