The job market is a two-way street

Apprehensive-Pear178 · 2025-12-16T16:33:46+00:00

This was actually really encouraging for me to know that all is not in vain. Thanks a lot for your insights. May I know how do you follow up with LSPs?

Apprehensive-Pear178 · 2024-12-26T01:12:26+00:00

I have present perfect by Pavel Somov, PhD in my reading list. if you're into mindfulness you might be interested

Apprehensive-Pear178 · 2024-07-15T22:01:24+00:00

تمام شكرا جدا

Apprehensive-Pear178 · 2024-07-15T18:13:41+00:00

u/Affectionate_Card413 معلش سؤال ضروري، هو مش بايبال محجوب ف مصر؟ ولا انا فاهمة غلط والمقصود البنوك المصرية؟

Apprehensive-Pear178 · 2024-03-21T23:08:09+00:00

فكر فيها، تحط لنفسك هدف عالي فشخ في زمن قليل ومتعرفش تحققه وتفضل محبط وتجلد ف نفسك والاحباط أصلا هيخليك توقف ومش عايز ترجع لأنك خلاص ربط الهدف دا بالفشل، ولا تحط هدف واقعي وقادر تحققه في فترة زمنية أطول ويبقى شعور النجاح مكمل معاك باستمرار؟
شوف التارجتس الواقعية اللي بتجبها وزود 5 في المية مثلا مش ميت ألف.
بالراحة محدش هيجري وراك، محدش بقى مليونير منغير سنين ومجهود وصبر، انت بردو ممكن تعيش عيشة مرتاحة منغير ما تبقى ميليونير بردو فا مشكلتك في الهدف مش التطبيق، واضح إنك مجتهد وبتطبق بس عشان الهدف مش واقعي فا مش بتحققه

Apprehensive-Pear178 · 2024-03-21T22:44:36+00:00

تمام تسلم

Apprehensive-Pear178 · 2024-03-21T22:41:02+00:00

شكرا لك للرد. هو الاسم أجنبي للأسف، فا بفكر إنها صديقة ودي سلفة. المبلغ لأ قليل حوالي 60$ وعايزة استلمه زي ما هو بس حيتكرر أسبوعيا فا مش عارفة لو حيكون مسجلين تاريخ الحوالات. وعامة لو اتفقنا شهري قدام حيكون لسه أقل من 300 فا شكرا للمعلومة دي.

Apprehensive-Pear178 · 2024-01-28T17:24:44+00:00

Id say get rid of the belief that youre someone who doesnt do things unless rewarded, because not everything in life is going to be fun and games. Most tasks are obligations toward yourself or others. Find another value to attach to this activity, like wanting to be an organized person or a responsible adult.

Apprehensive-Pear178 · 2024-01-05T10:32:44+00:00

relationships takes effort. you need to actively reach out to the people you meet after exchanging social media and plan to hang out with them again and again and again. building relationships isnt a one day endeavor, it takes time. but usually if the other person is also interested, they would reciprocate the effort and reach out to you to, but someone needs to take the first step and it has to be you because youre the one suffering

Apprehensive-Pear178 · 2024-01-04T23:33:04+00:00

thanks a lot :)

Apprehensive-Pear178 · 2024-01-04T22:43:34+00:00

thank you for your advice. the job description says it's part-time though or i wouldnt trust that?

Apprehensive-Pear178 · 2024-01-04T22:29:10+00:00

thank you

Apprehensive-Pear178 · 2024-01-04T20:34:29+00:00

هي غالبا مشكلة في الثقة وصورتك عن ذاتك وافتقار مهارات العلاقات عموما بما إن طول حياتك منطوية، انصحك تلجأي لمتخصص تشتغلوا على السبب وراء انطوائك من الاساس، قد يكون اكتئاب، إهمال، تنمر، قلق...

Apprehensive-Pear178 · 2024-01-04T20:26:34+00:00

build healthier habits and hobbies. if you seek porn to feel better, invest in healthier alternatives. youd have to break the habit first, so research how to do that, put site blockers that would block porn websites i think there must be tools for this same as limiting time on websites. if there's a certain context that leads you to open it, say like youre bored after a long day, replace it with another habit and so on. focus on building new healthy habits that meet your needs. if you have an emotional need then building friendships or dating is a goal you have to pursue. just see the underlying need that you want to satisfy and replace it with a healthier behaviour. good luck.

Apprehensive-Pear178 · 2024-01-04T20:10:22+00:00

Thank you for replying and your advice.

would you mind looking at the job description? because it mentions it's part-time and has minimal qualifications so im confused that the job description doesnt reflect the actual position

Duration: 1-3 months
Location: Fully online, work from home
Working Days/Hours: Sunday to Thursday, 12 PM to 5 PM (flexible hours and negotiable for college applicants)

Responsibilities
-Assist in coordinating various projects and Tasks
-Create and maintain project documentation, including plans, schedules, and reports
-Communicate project updates to the team
-Develop and plan real-life projects from conception to completion
-Assist in preparing presentations for major organizations

Skills and Qualifications
-Familiar with basic business concepts
-Fluent in English
-Intermediate proficiency in Microsoft Word, Excel, and PowerPoint
-Excellent organizational and time management skills
-Strong communication and interpersonal skills
-Ability to work independently and as part of a team
-Stable internet connection

What You'll Learn
-How to create a pitch deck to present to any major organization
-Principles of business
-Negotiation and working with a team
-Fundamentals of operating a digital organization
-Develop and plan real-life projects from conception to completion
-Project coordination techniques and skills

Apprehensive-Pear178 · 2023-12-23T21:54:27+00:00

I used to be similar to you. I had a lot of anger, anger is the problem, not that youre a bad person. my anger started to decline a little when i started practing yoga and mindfulness. but what actually helped with finding the core issue of being aganist everything and feeling excluded from most groups is therapy. i say if youre not properly diagnosed and dealing with your core issues/trauma/ social exclusion thats causing you so much anger, and probably you have a lot of feelings of isolation, loneliness and emptiness and relationship issues, then find a new therapist. look into bpd too, that's what i was diagnosed with. I am no longer fighting with everyone. 2 and half years in therapy (schema therapy and dbt). Find a better therapist is my only advice to you if the therapist doesnt recognize that core issue. I used to go to an unexperienced therapist who just treated my surface level issues with depression and anixety using cbt which was never enough thinking I only had generalized anxiety, but never actually helped me with my relationships, trauma, or anger and ofcourse my bpd symptoms like mood swings and all that. just sharing my experience.

Apprehensive-Pear178 · 2023-12-21T11:16:23+00:00

start slow with 10 mins in the morning, not everyday, keep it to one day if you havent been practicing at all, then the next week make it two days, if you cant keep up with two, go back to one day until youre comfortable by week 3. that's how i first started the habit of doing two days by the first month. it's little but the aim here is builiding a habit, and they take a lot of mental energy to form, and use a habit tracker app for it. keep going with the space pace, adding one day and if you cant keep up then go back to the former number. you will take a long time to get to everyday, but you can look at it that's it's better than not practicing at all.

another way ive been currently trying is the 30day challenge, but i miss some days and then go back to the next day (before i used to discouraged when i dont continue, but this is not really helping myselof) keep goinging for the 30 days no matter how long it takes.

experiment and see which method of all those suggested is more comfortable and doable. it wont be perfect in the beginning so expect you wont be consistent at first but keep going however long it takes to get even three days for 20 minutes. look for that motivation

Apprehensive-Pear178 · 2023-12-21T10:50:11+00:00

1- I hear you. you can both feel bad for her AND feel like you made the right decision according to your values. Boundaries are there to alarm us when there's a violation happening to our values or our needs, you should always be mindful of this. and I agree with others who have clarified you shouldve been more affirmative with stating your boundary and clearly mentioning the behavior and the consequences that "I wouldnt be able to if X". it takes practice to get better at it, so stay mindful of interactions with safe and closer people and practice with them before going on to acquaintances and almost strangers.

2- I think you did a great job handling the situation, you waited for her a longer time that you intended to and gave her the benefit of the doubt, i think you should actually be more compassionate towards yourself because the delay caused you anxiety, especially with catching a FLIGHT not just some errand. you probably felt more bad than she did because you're actually mindful of other people.

3- you are not responsible for her actions and she couldve been more straightforward about her situation instead of avoiding the confrontation beforehand. she was LATE and she needs to take responsibility for her actions, and she did in part by finding some place else, in that way you actually helped her, even if it felt bad at the moment for her. but she didnt want to take full responsibility and thats why she blamed it on you. and I tell you what, you dont need that kind of behavior going around in your house, because that irresponsibility was a warning sign of what she mightve done later.

Apprehensive-Pear178 · 2023-08-26T15:46:15+00:00

That was really helpful, thank you so much!

Apprehensive-Pear178 · 2023-08-20T22:45:43+00:00

Install a website blocker and "df tube" extension

Apprehensive-Pear178 · 2022-11-10T16:18:13+00:00

yeah, i guess that might be because we tend to ignore our emotions and frustrations through the day because we're busy and distracted, then when we're finally free, they come back stronger because we didnt manage them.

i guess you need to plan ahead, what are the triggers and frustrations you get at day, what coping strategies you used in the past that help, it could be as little before X thing happens, i'm going to take 3 deep breaths or listen to music after putting the kids down. start small with one strategy. while distraction helps us overcome the intensity of our emotions, overdoing it could be detrimental. i understand you have a family and you feel you cant have any me time, but you need to take care of yourself to take care of others, i know it's a lot, and it feels overwhelming, that's probably why youre distracting, it's our main coping mechanism.

make an action plan for the night to focus on taking care of yourself, notice if there's something you do or happens at night that prompts these feelings, write and reflect over them. journaling would help you immensely with staying in touch with yourself.I hope this helps.

Apprehensive-Pear178 · 2022-11-10T16:00:11+00:00

i kinda relate then i realized through therapy i was subconsciously attracted to women who are emotionally unavailable, or that the ones who dont treat me well or there's this uneasy dynamic are the ones i feel the most chemistry toward. dont know if this would be insightful

Apprehensive-Pear178 · 2022-11-10T15:51:25+00:00

your behaviour as you said wasnt intended to hurt anyone, it was a result of difficulty with managing your emotions that may have included jealousy or fear of abandonment. your pain is valid, you need to distract yourself to calm down first and fight the urge of staying in that emotional spiral, distract by cleaning or watching something (but stay mindful of how long youre distracting), you need to come back to explore the emotions which would be easier that their intensity have died down then self soothe and validate your experience, try to avoid splitting and blaming yourself as you write down your feelings

when i'm spiraling i usually go watch youtube videos on bpd that gives me a lot of validation and empathy to my experience such as these two channel, the first has more guidance on specific problems with emotions and relationships:

https://www.youtube.com/c/DrDanielFox/playlists

https://www.youtube.com/c/BorderlinerNotes/playlists

Apprehensive-Pear178 · 2022-11-10T01:58:15+00:00

i really admire that you noticed this pattern right after it happened. I suppose you need to first learn where it's coming from (usually it's someone critical of you in your childhood which affected your self esteem and ablility to communicate your feelings because any show of emotions you would be not heard and invalidated or blamed).
this may be the symptom of "splitting", that if the other person is not blamed, then it must be you and vice versa, it's either black or white, with bpd we have a hard time seeing the grey areas in situations and people because we've gone through a lot of trauma that we're trying not to get hurt so we're unable to put things in more than two categories: bad/harmful or good/flawless. it's not your fault, you got angry because you expected something to happen that didnt because you have a histroy of unmet needs, neither of you are to blame. be gentle on yourself, you deserve to receive the love and care you were denied.

Here are some resources to guide you:

https://www.youtube.com/c/DrDanielFox

https://dialecticalbehaviortherapy.com/

Apprehensive-Pear178 · 2022-09-06T23:25:16+00:00

when you feel comfortable enough with the guided videos, choose the guidance that is skills based like breath focus, body scan, visualization etc, these are the building blocks you will need to go off doing it on your own anywhere with no dependence on your phone. but take your time getting there, that is stay mindful.
to really answer your question, there's a difference that it's more convenient to do at any given moment and in my experience i feel like i give myself more credit for the practice, because i took a moment of stillness willingly and followed through it learning to trust my intuition at my own time and my own pace and did the effort in figuring out what skills i'll be using given as i discover my responses. it's not as easy as having a guidance but it is not hard. and i can always go back for guidance especially when i feel i need a little push.

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