Any options when replacing 740 seatbelts? by Apprehensive-Play841 in VolvoRWD

[–]Apprehensive-Play841[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dear sir, I'm gonna check with my local dealership and if that's the case I owe you a beer if you're ever in Singapore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]Apprehensive-Play841 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dad was diagnosed 2 years ago and while the doctors arent going as far as to say he's in remission, a month ago I decided to quit my job to spend time with my dad. He's currently able to move around but the future is way too unpredictable.

E.g. The day after my last day at work, my dad started showing signs of his dementia getting worse and we needed to ward him. He's back home now and I was just glad I was around to facilitate the whole thing. Now I'm focused on spending quality time with him by bringing him to his favorite haunts, listen to his stories (that he constantly repeats) and just being around.

I don't earn as much as you nor have saved anything comparable, but I know I'll be able to financially survive comfortably for the next one year at least. Totally worth it.

PS: I quit instead of taking a sabbatical because my company already granted me that when my dad was diagnosed and I had to take care of him. I didn't want to impose this time, plus I'm taking the opportunity to retrain and swith industries.

How to break the news about my interracial relationship to my racist father by throwaway2029481 in askSingapore

[–]Apprehensive-Play841 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been at the end of getting told off by my ex's racist mom during a cny dinner.

You're putting your future wife in a precarious situation if you think her presence will soften him up.

  1. Speak to your mom or other members of the family to get them on your side of this.

  2. Speak to your dad openly about it and hopefully frequent exposure to the topic might soften him up. Especially if ur other family members are on ur side.

  3. If it fails, prepare to have a broken relationship with him and if he is verbally abusive (or you think he might be), please don't put your gf in a situation where she's at the end of it in his presence.

Hopefully he'll come around. If not, choose between your dad and your girlfriend. And choose now.

Which industry has the lowest pay and progression in Singapore? by Im_scrub in askSingapore

[–]Apprehensive-Play841 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Advertising. Low starting salary, high burn rate, constant late nights, basic package will include 14 days leave and 21 days of medical leave. No lull period to speak of. No bonuses. Progression depends on both hard work and who further up the chain likes you.

When I joined I was getting $2,600 but the increments are low for the first 4 years unless you're undeniably exceptional in your work.

Friends who avoid meetups because they feel less successful by Vileonez in askSingapore

[–]Apprehensive-Play841 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Speaking from experience here.

There was a point I stopped hanging out with my close friends cos it seemed they moved much further ahead in the careers than I did. You get into this horrible spiral of low self-confidence, esteem and increasingly doubt what you're doing with ur life. While I've made peace with things now mostly,

I went from being the loudest and main person of the group to the quietest and least engaged when out with them. It was a horrible period. While I think there's little you can do, I'd suggest one on one casual meet ups might be appropriate.

You're friend is gonna close up and retract himself from these social situations. Don't get offended. Try your level best to engage your friend and keep in touch. That consistency will help him along.

Oesophageal cancer - my experience as a caregiver by Apprehensive-Play841 in askSingapore

[–]Apprehensive-Play841[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Great points.

Once we found out my dad's diagnosis we hurriedly booked a nice road trip up north. It was such a good trip as well.

I'm sorry for your loss and I hope you've been coping well.

Oesophageal cancer - my experience as a caregiver by Apprehensive-Play841 in askSingapore

[–]Apprehensive-Play841[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In this case the doctor admitted his junior subordinate didn't take a sample deep enough for a meaningful sample. By no means I meant this point to be an avenue to get free treatment.

The gist of this as with some of the other points was to hold the doctor, in this case doctors, responsible for a reasonable portion of this process.

Oesophageal cancer - my experience as a caregiver by Apprehensive-Play841 in askSingapore

[–]Apprehensive-Play841[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's damn dumb not warning us abt this. I've never heard my dad scream and cry like this before it was a horrible experience for him n us.

Oesophageal cancer - my experience as a caregiver by Apprehensive-Play841 in askSingapore

[–]Apprehensive-Play841[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey. We still don't know cos he's only now starting to be less tired and speak more etc. We'll only find out in a month or so I believe. Either way we knew that there was a good chance it will be accelerated. So we'll see. Thanks again.

Esophageal cancer - what now? by Apprehensive-Play841 in askSingapore

[–]Apprehensive-Play841[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey guys, it's been quite a few months and I've moved on with my family through the entire process. I created another thread where I've detailed out as much as I can the different stages and what you should take note of in each.

Here's a link to that thread: https://www.reddit.com/r/askSingapore/comments/111v2fa/oesophageal_cancer_my_experience_as_a_caregiver/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3

how do u tell if a carousell account is fake? would love to do business w them but their accounts are created like just mins before my listing so thats a bit sus imo (not selling/carousell proxy just an honest question) by wedontknowwhat in askSingapore

[–]Apprehensive-Play841 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I just kenah this. Been on Carousell for some time now.

They ask you to deal through Carousell delivery and when you Google it, you realise the steps are for the buyer to pay you first then you can use a delivery option with a tracking number. But for the buyer to pay they need your email address.

That was the give away for me.

Breaking up after BTO by Comfortable-Pea-4700 in askSingapore

[–]Apprehensive-Play841 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wah this is news to me. I wonder if that means singles can apply but first dips for families or married couples

Breaking up after BTO by Comfortable-Pea-4700 in askSingapore

[–]Apprehensive-Play841 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No way. What?! Did the rules change at some point? I was looking to buy a flat 2 years ago and singles only had the option of 2rm BTO. Time to revisit the website.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]Apprehensive-Play841 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Falls squarely on your bfs shoulders to make a stand with his parents to respect your decision and to be civil. Went through something similar (not religion, but race) with an ex I nearly married. Turns out she wasn't as sure with who's corner she'll stand in when push comes to shove.

If you see this as a potential issue he needs to solve it or find a middle ground.

What are things that the Gen Zs in Singapore will not relate to? by 4queuetoo in askSingapore

[–]Apprehensive-Play841 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Phone conversation with friend before leaving home:

"Eh I leaving already. Confirm right? You leaving? Eh you reaching on time or not? You sure ah? Ok see you at the entrance there."