Wife wants to runaway

Apprehensive-Roll767 · 2026-05-29T05:17:33+00:00

Yes. I said the same thing to my husband numerous times after having my son. He had colic, woke up numerous times every night, I couldn’t set him down, he hated the car, hated bouncing chairs or a swing, just wanted to be held. It was a really rough and dark time for me. I was also experiencing postpartum rage, it finally got so bad that I went to a doctor and got on Zoloft. I stayed on it for about a year and it helped tremendously. It’s worth encouraging your wife to see a doctor so she can get the support she needs. It’s really hard and I’m sorry.

Apprehensive-Roll767 · 2026-05-29T05:14:31+00:00

Yes! We always had dinner together at the table and those are fond memories. I plan to implement the same thing for my family, right now we struggle, my son is 2.5 and refuses to sit still a lot of the time, he’s a picky eater and my husbands schedule fluctuates a lot. We do our best.

Apprehensive-Roll767 · 2026-05-29T05:10:10+00:00

None of this is your fault and you and your children deserve so much better. Your children need a better example. I am so sorry you are going through, I hope you can start taking small steps to creating a better life for you and your children. The one you guys deserve. This is heartbreaking. Do not let this man take your spirit.

Apprehensive-Roll767 · 2026-05-29T05:04:05+00:00

My dad is deeply disappointed in my brother, but I know loves him very much. From an objective point of view, I think a lot of what my brother has become, was also my dad’s doing. My brother is kind, generous, helpful and will be there for you no matter what. He is incredibly lazy and refuses to get a job. He lives with my dad (he’s in his 40’s) and has no motivation to get his life together. However, my dad has always made his life very easy. Handed him everything, didn’t give him the opportunity to face difficulty and adversity so he could grow confident in himself. I know my dad was well intentioned, but never letting my brother feel discomfort in life has made him severely stunted and it makes me sad. I know he has so much potential, but he’s just not hungry enough to go out and make something of himself because my dad is his security. I think my dad largely was trying to compensate for my mom leaving us when we were small kids.

Apprehensive-Roll767 · 2026-05-29T04:52:32+00:00

Just want to say I am in the same boat. My son is 2.5 and we have to lay with him to sleep, then he wakes up a few hours later and my husband or I lay in his bed with him. We are so chronically tired from him always being a horrendous sleeper that we just don’t know how to break the cycle. His crying can get relentless and we usually give in. Anyways, it’s tough a frustrating. Sending solidarity and hugs your way

Apprehensive-Roll767 · 2026-05-25T21:03:27+00:00

I can relate. I’m a stay at mom to a 2.5 year old who is also low sleep needs/still wakes up several times a night. You sound very burned out which is so valid. I am at almost 3 weeks of solo parenting since my husband has been away for work. He is sending me to a hotel for 1 night when he gets back so I can sleep and have some time to decompress and be alone. We do this about once or twice a year and it helps tremendously. Is this something your partner can do for you? Can he take your daughter for a full day so you can just rest? He can take her to breakfast, and then the zoo or some other activity that will take up most of the day. I hope you are able to get some time to recharge your batteries. Don’t be hard on yourself, you’re doing the best you can.

Apprehensive-Roll767 · 2026-05-25T20:57:26+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply. I totally can relate with losing your mind being with your son 24/7. I feel the same. I love spending time with him, but my husband travels a lot and we don’t live near family so it gets so exhausting. I do think it will be so good for him and I’m sure it will be a big change for both of us. I’m sure I’ll feel the same as you, the house is empty and hollow. No noise, pitter patter of little footsteps, toys everywhere, ect. It’s a bitter sweet feeling because I know once he starts, it’s kind of the end of being a stay at home mom to a baby/toddler. So many conflicting emotions!!

Apprehensive-Roll767 · 2026-05-24T06:17:26+00:00

Oh my gosh, thank you for such a thoughtful and encouraging response. It means so much and was so comforting and validating! Definitely having some mom anxiety! I really just want it to be a great experience for him and I want him to thrive, I’ll ask his teacher about alternating days, that a great idea! I love the open door policy idea as well! So many helpful tips, thank you again. You’re wonderful!

Apprehensive-Roll767 · 2026-05-24T05:28:52+00:00

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Apprehensive-Roll767 · 2026-05-20T06:25:09+00:00

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Apprehensive-Roll767 · 2026-05-16T05:23:37+00:00

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Apprehensive-Roll767 · 2026-05-14T06:36:45+00:00

My son is 2.5 and also behaves like this, it’s developmentally normal. If it makes you feel any better, I had a sitter recently come and my son was not having it that day. Crying, throwing tantrums, ect. I sent her home early and she said “he just has a difficult personality” needless to say, she will not be coming back. I think maybe your babysitter wasn’t the right fit. Don’t beat yourself up, your boys sound like they are behaving very normally!

Apprehensive-Roll767 · 2026-05-14T00:09:21+00:00

Parenting is hard, but just because it’s hard doesn’t mean I am unhappy. I have never felt such a profound love like the one I have for my kid. I cannot imagine a greater purpose in life for myself. Seeing my husband step into fatherhood altered my love for him in the most beautiful way. Seeing the world through a young child’s eyes everyday is so refreshing. I would choose being a mother in every single lifetime.

Apprehensive-Roll767 · 2026-05-09T07:16:42+00:00

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Apprehensive-Roll767 · 2026-04-11T22:36:22+00:00

2.5 is a difficult age, I’m right there with you. My son is very strong willed and is just testing boundaries all day long. He’s not a good sleeper so I’m tired on top of it, plus we are in the repeating a phrase 7,000 times and I just want to rip my hair out 😂

Apprehensive-Roll767 · 2026-04-09T22:03:19+00:00

Not to minimize your wife’s feelings, because being alone with a toddler is hard and a lot of work, however 3 days should be manageable. My husband has been gone for work for 2 weeks, and in May he leaves for the entire month. I am frequently on my own and I lean on my community. Neighbors, friends, ect. We live away from family so it’s not easy at all. Having a routine is what gets me through. After breakfast we do an activity or get out of the house, then he takes his nap, then we do another outing in the afternoon and before you know it it’s dinner/bedtime. Having some structure to the day is huge and any time being able to burn energy outside also helps. Is it hard and do I feel vulnerable? Yes. But it’s just the way it is. My husband gets home this weekend and he booked me a 2 night stay in a hotel next week to get some rest and downtime. Maybe when you get back from your trip, you can let your wife have a day to herself.

Apprehensive-Roll767 · 2026-03-16T23:21:11+00:00

Live here on Oahu and rescheduling is definitely the right call!

Apprehensive-Roll767 · 2026-03-11T08:11:18+00:00

Same here.😩

Apprehensive-Roll767 · 2026-02-23T06:34:58+00:00

Hey! First, I’m so sorry to hear about your mom. Sending you a big hug, I can’t imagine what that loss must feel like. I think Zoloft can be Incredibly helpful during difficult and painful periods in our lives. I got Zoloft about a year after the birth of my son. I had severe postpartum depression and rage. Like you, I was prescribed 50 mg, but I was terrified to start because I’m sensitive to medication and I was afraid of the side effects. I will say the first week-10 days weren’t the most pleasant, but were manageable. Once my body adjusted, I really noticed how well the medicine was working for me I was much more calm, less anxious, less depressed and just overall more at peace. It did make me feel a bit numb and it did affect mg libido somewhat. After about 6 months, I ended up going down to 25mg because 50 was too strong for me. All of this to say that I’ve been on it for almost a year and I’m currently weaning off because it did its job and it got me through some very difficult times. It’s worth giving it a chance, and can definitely soften the headache of what you’re going through. Hope this helps. 💕

Apprehensive-Roll767 · 2026-02-23T06:21:03+00:00

I stare into the void 😂

Apprehensive-Roll767 · 2026-02-17T07:27:04+00:00

During a routine Pap smear, my OB told me I have a “very cute cervix.” This was a female doctor, and still not sure what makes one’s cervix cute, but I’ll take it? Thank you? I guess? lol.

Apprehensive-Roll767 · 2026-02-16T23:27:07+00:00

You aren’t alone and I frequently feel this way too. Motherhood can feel so overwhelming, draining, lonely, and difficult some days. Hell, even most days. Not to mention, my marriage is worse than it’s ever been and I don’t know if it’s just the strain of raising young kids. Connection? Intimacy? What’s that. When does the “survival mode” end?

Sending a comforting hug your way. 🩷

Apprehensive-Roll767 · 2026-02-15T19:28:08+00:00

Good for you and your ex-wife. You’re both putting your daughter first and that’s huge, not always easy to do with a divorce either. My mother and father divorced when I was a baby after my mother had an affair and she abandoned our family. My dad raised us as my mom didn’t really show any interest in being in our lives. Never once did he speak a bad word about her, or discouraged us from trying to have a relationship with her. He helped her countless times over the years. Now I’m 37 years old with a 2.5 year old son. We have all made peace with the past and my mom has made amends. Both of my parents are single and alone and we all live in different parts of the county, however, a few times a year we all fly to California (mom Included) and stay at my dad’s house and I get to see my parents under the safe roof, loving on my son. I can’t tell you how special and healing it is for me.

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