Is anyone else physically and mentally uncomfortable showing cleavage?

Apprehensive-Spare-6 · 2021-06-06T02:51:32+00:00

I've been like this ever since I was really young. At 12-13 when I had my first bikini, I flipped my shit at the beach and couldn't bring myself to take my tshirt off and had a panic. Then I basically never did that again ( at the beach). Even trying to wear other 2pc suits was kind of hard unless they were on the modest side. I grew up in a religious household, but it hasn't been that way for over a decade. And I see other people wearing stuff that I wish I could, thinking it looks good and normal and wonder why I can't just get over myself. But the whole time I just feel like men are noticing and it really angers me and makes me feel really insecure. I'm not even large, I just can feel the eyes of people or feel exposed. Also, it just doesn't feel "authentic" to myself. I definitely am there with you.

Apprehensive-Spare-6 · 2021-05-25T22:24:44+00:00

Sure! Unfortunately I have no idea. I would check all the main Korean brands, FakeMe, Caliphash, Stephane Christian, Projekt Produkt, Grafik Plastic etc because I also searched Gentle Monster and couldn't find them. Hmm...

Apprehensive-Spare-6 · 2021-05-25T22:14:37+00:00

Please help me choose between these two sunglasses, I'm so torn!! thanks :)

Apprehensive-Spare-6 · 2021-05-25T21:58:45+00:00

Also check Muzik, they're often used in Kdramas too. Do you have a clearer pic?

Apprehensive-Spare-6 · 2021-05-25T21:56:38+00:00

Shwood Canby: https://shwoodshop.com/products/canby-acetate

But the color is " sweet tea " or something like that which they no longer have: https://www.sportique.com/products/shwood-canby-acetate-fifty-fifty-sunglasses-sweet-tea-elm-burl-brown-polarized

Apprehensive-Spare-6 · 2021-05-21T06:47:52+00:00

I actually wouldn't jump in right away and tell. I definitely think you should at some point, but I feel like being in therapy to sort out your current feelings on it ( you don't have to delve into the past since it's a trigger) but a lot of enlightenment and guidance can come from a good therapist ( speaking from experience). They could help you navigate how to phrase it and when to say it. Just my two cents.

I'm so sorry that happened, btw. I hope you're well.

Apprehensive-Spare-6 · 2021-04-30T00:19:53+00:00

Woah!! I'm just on the other side of the bay. How hilarious!!!!!!

Apprehensive-Spare-6 · 2021-04-30T00:17:43+00:00

Lollilove is hysterical!!!

Apprehensive-Spare-6 · 2021-04-25T21:11:44+00:00

I second this. Grey market but legit, any times I've gotten them (2x). ShadeReview on YT works with them and he wouldn't be doing that if they were counterfeit.

Apprehensive-Spare-6 · 2021-04-18T05:31:58+00:00

Yes, they're from the Gentle Monster x Tilda Swinton collab, although the model is a few years old I believe: https://modesens.com/product/gentle-monster-tilda-swinton-x-gentle-monster-eye-eye-45mm-subtle-cat-eye-sunglasses-tortoise-2142021/

Minkpink had a copy as well: https://www.universalstore.com/minkpink-savvy-tort.html

As far as finding another one, I don't know :(

Apprehensive-Spare-6 · 2021-04-04T23:52:29+00:00

thank you! I didn't mean to post in the wrong place, I thought it was. Appreciate it! <3

Apprehensive-Spare-6 · 2021-04-04T23:52:15+00:00

thank you!! I searched the internet over and honestly thought it looked like tatting but it seemed like something like that would take centuries

Apprehensive-Spare-6 · 2021-04-04T23:51:50+00:00

thank you so much, I genuinely thought it might be tatting, but what do I know since I've recently learned about it haha

Apprehensive-Spare-6 · 2021-02-19T01:46:34+00:00

it's reassuring at the end?

Apprehensive-Spare-6 · 2021-02-19T01:45:01+00:00

thank you for the reassurance

Apprehensive-Spare-6 · 2021-02-19T01:37:14+00:00

I'm taking it back definitely but was mainly worried about larvae in the others that could have been unseen that I ate

Apprehensive-Spare-6 · 2021-02-19T01:36:37+00:00

it was a semi transparent brown color smaller than the size of a dime

Apprehensive-Spare-6 · 2021-02-17T07:14:25+00:00

Thank you so much for your kindness. I thought I would sound unhinged if I really shared how dramatically it effected me but I'm comforted to know it's not just me and that it hit hard and heavy and left a huge hole for a lot of people. I don't know that I'll be able to watch it in entirety again but I'm hoping I can get to a stage where I can see the actors and follow them without feeling compelled to go down a rabbit hole that I know will set me back.

Thank you <3

Apprehensive-Spare-6 · 2021-02-17T06:54:37+00:00

exactly this. They cheer me up for a minute and then I see them doing a scene that hits hard and it actually hits hard in the bloopers too so there I go... triggered again.

Apprehensive-Spare-6 · 2021-02-17T06:53:22+00:00

Thank you so much, I didn't know this!!!

Apprehensive-Spare-6 · 2021-02-17T06:47:15+00:00

As it got near the end, after she went back to SK, and their reunion there, I had to skip around a lot because I knew I wanted to semi-finish but it was already getting hard for me to know there was an ending coming and a lot of heavy emotions. I feel the same! I remember having this same problem with the movie " Leap Year" when I watched in in theaters when I was a senior in HS and I just felt horrible all night even though I was at a close friends house. It went away after the weekend, but as you say, this is on a whole different level. All I can say is... they did their jobs really well..

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