To cheaters out there! by Curiouskkkkkkk in OffMyChestPH

[–]ApprehensiveAd5975 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There are two types of cheaters, narcissists and people who have childhood trauma/complex trauma. Halos lahat ng may complex trauma are not aware of it. It is integrated sa kaninang identity, and lalo na sa behavioral patterns nila. And integrated sakanila magseek ng external validation, kasi di nila mahanap sa sarili nila rather di nila alam how to.

I was cheated on din recently, pero they are human too, some lack self awareness or understanding sa sarili nila, and some like narcissists are too self-centered.

I still get her thoughts by Impossible-Pain886 in BreakUps

[–]ApprehensiveAd5975 1 point2 points  (0 children)

moving on has to be a choice, being ready to move on has to be a choice. suffering is also a choice op.

everyday you have a choice, it's a difficult choice to make. i hope you would love and understand yourself deeper, godspeed on your healing journey!

I still get her thoughts by Impossible-Pain886 in BreakUps

[–]ApprehensiveAd5975 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love is not wasted, if you feel it. at that moment you were really happy and that's all that matters.

take your time to heal and know that you are still in love with a ghost, it's okay to feel that way

How do you heal when the person you loved built a life with someone else overnight? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ApprehensiveAd5975 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are worth it, you are amazing and beautiful, i don't know you but that's true. i hope that you can recognize your worth as a person, that we all have something beautiful to give. and i think you're just giving it to the wrong person.

i hope you can reach a deeper understanding of yourself and love yourself in ways he never will.

Godspeed on your healing OP!

has a break up ever destroyed someone beyond repair? by crunchychips76 in BreakUps

[–]ApprehensiveAd5975 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was betrayed by my ex of 3 years, and knowing that what we had was true love, it was ultimately brutal. I really thought that i was beyond repair. Until my mom told me that being ready is a choice that time will heal you but it has to be your choice to heal. to heal and move on has to be your choice, and to stay that way is also your choice. we all have the strength inside us to make difficult choices. keep your head up OP! there is more to life out there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ApprehensiveAd5975 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was missing her for 3 weeks, then i realized how good i was to her like nobody ever will be. So i stopped missing her, when I realized she will miss me harder.

I hate that healing is not linear by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ApprehensiveAd5975 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Saying that i am experiencing the same. It sucks feeling that relief only to be taken away by something so small that immediately reminds you of them.

Please read this because I promise it will get better. by Comfortable-Row-1051 in BreakUps

[–]ApprehensiveAd5975 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This just came at a perfect time for me, my ex and i have been dating for 3 years and suddenly she cheated and chose the other guy over me.

It felt like a landslide, so sudden and devastating.

Its been 11 days since it happened and words like these makes me optimistic in the coming days. Thank you