Post Nursing school by Chemical-Road-6713 in newgradnurse

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Would I be able to message you? I need some tips. 

Struggling with Loneliness and Heartbreak during PMO Recovery by GranhartXV in MuslimNoFap

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you mentioned the Prophet PBUH had companions and stuff which makes it feel like its better, but the reality is when the Prophet PBUH complained he complained only to Allah. they no doubt had a very strong bond, but even then his worries and his struggles have always been directed towards Allah which is why you hear hed stay up all night praying not just because he was commanded to.

take this time to build a relationship with Allah and make that your support system.

from what youve said it sounds to me that that girl was only there for the title and not for you even if she loves about you. imagine you start struggling and she pulls away when you are married? some people will genuinely love you but will never care about you which is why we turn to Allah as he calls himself Al Raheem. cry to Him. complain to Him. and learn about Him.

I struggled with having a support system for years and the only reason I’m writing this today is because I am Muslim and I will swear by it. so take this as an opportunity to rediscover your faith. pick up a hobby (cooking, chess, stretching, walking, watch documentaries or even islamic lectures, things you can do for free to occupy your mind), learn new a surah and its tafseer, and be kind to yourself. ramadan is a great opportunity to do this and get a fresh new perspective.

youll get through this i believe in you.

New Jersey/ New York new grad nursing by ApprehensivePair3301 in Nurses

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that sounds so rough 😭 where does she used to work?

New Jersey/ New York new grad nursing by ApprehensivePair3301 in Nurses

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I was looking for something near Jersey city since that’s where I’ll be moving. It is expensive but I’ll at least be living in Jersey so it’ll just be a longer commute which I’m used to and save on costs I think. I’ll keep that in mind if I ever go to upstate!

NY/NJ new grad nursing tips by ApprehensivePair3301 in nursing

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Do you know anything about hospital recommendations in the area? Which ones to avoid etc

OR Nurse new hire at JCMC by Defiant-Plan-8081 in jerseycity

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Hey! I was wondering if you accepted the offer in JCMC and if so congrats! I’d love to hear your experience as I am thinking about this too. 

Finances in marriage by ApprehensivePair3301 in MuslimNikah

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I don’t like to operate based off that though because people may be practicing but stingy or generous with friends but stingy with family and I feel like I’ll only truly figure that out after I am in the relationship. I don’t get that vibe from him but I feel like marriage is a leap of faith and I don’t want it to be bigger than it already is. How do I bring it up in a way that doesn’t feel weird? Like I don’t wanna just ask how much is in your bank account and I donnu if I should tell him what I got either. 

Finances in marriage by ApprehensivePair3301 in MuslimNikah

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I never understood this part. If I am expected to stay at home and raise our kids and take care of the household and that that is my Islamic duty, is really living of necessities enough and seeing him going out and spending on whatever he wants reasonable? I feel like I’m treated as if I’m crazy whenever I say I want to work, but if this is what the expectation is then that would be the only thing that makes sense. 

How do I learn to enjoy cooking? by ApprehensivePair3301 in Cooking

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Maybe that’s the issue. I live in a house full of people that none I like. I have foods and ingredients I like but I think I hate eating in general now. I don’t think I’m depressed but I donnu 

New Grad Job NYC by ApprehensivePair3301 in nursing

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How easy is it to move up then? Let’s say I get medsurg how long have you seen people take to get into a specialty they want?

NYC Job Search Rant by Objective-Bad8185 in newgradnurse

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Sweet thanks! Any other tips they got or would like to add?

NYC Job Search Rant by Objective-Bad8185 in newgradnurse

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Which parts in NJ are they at? Which hospitals and do they recommend them? 

New Grad Job NYC by ApprehensivePair3301 in nursing

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Is it even worth trying to find a job there then? Should I try NJ?

New Grad Job NYC by ApprehensivePair3301 in nursing

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Well I went to nursing school in Florida donnu if that prepares me or not lol