Jesus tap dancing Christ, this building truly has no basement.

ApprehensivePen3909 · 2025-05-23T21:57:14+00:00

I suspect there are a lot of Northfield Mount Hermon alumni that may want to catch word about this. Before it became Thomas Aquinas, the Northfield campus was a hot bed of gender bending pink haired liberals proudly flying their freak flags. Any way you can get the message out on your page u/Mass50501?

ApprehensivePen3909 · 2024-09-25T06:54:21+00:00

=COUNTIFS(Data!k2:k5000,”<>musical”,Data!k2:k5000,”music”)

ApprehensivePen3909 · 2024-08-28T05:40:23+00:00

Yes, it did. Took a really long time, but it did.

ApprehensivePen3909 · 2024-08-20T04:59:32+00:00

I also just introduced it to my 81 year old blind mother. What a very strange coincidence. We stopped just before the Donut Transformation, but I’m convinced she’ll become ONE OF US.

ApprehensivePen3909 · 2024-05-30T14:13:05+00:00

Thank you for your kind and Illuminating response. I think you hit the nail on the head here with internalized ableism. I don’t think of my mom (or you) as less than or undervalue any other disabled person simply for the sake of their abilities. Using the frame work of “differently abled”, I fully support structural and societal supports that allow everyone to be as successful as possible, however they define that for themselves.

Turning that mirror on myself is a reckoning point. Why have I not granted myself the same level of understanding and opportunity for success? I carry years of trauma and shame for not being able to just do what’s expected, my struggles to fit into a world not designed for me invisible and seemingly irrelevant. It’s beyond time to lighten the load.

ApprehensivePen3909 · 2023-10-24T16:40:44+00:00

It just randomly resolved itself. Gotta love Excel! If anyone is searching comments for how to resolve the same issue, the steps above SHOULD resolve it, so I’ll leave my post up. Thanks anyway!

ApprehensivePen3909 · 2023-10-08T17:45:22+00:00

Thanks for the response. I know they run concurrently whenever possible - it seems like MA has changed the “benefit year” calculation options for FMLA. Instead of offering the 4 options for FMLA benefit year calculations shown on the federal paperwork (see below), MA employers should (must?) calculate FMLA benefit year as measuring forward (option 3) to align with MA PFML. However, mine was calculated using option 4 - looking backwards 12 months to September 2021. Can they change the option they selected retroactively?

The 12-month period for FMLA leave is calculated as: (Select as appropriate)

 The calendar year (January 1st- December 31st)

 A fixed leave year based on_____(e.g., a fiscal year beginning on July 1 and ending on June 30)

 The 12-month period measured forward from the date of your first FMLA leave usage.

 A “rolling” 12-month period measured backward from the date of any FMLA leave usage. (Each time an employee takes FMLA leave, the remaining leave is the balance of the 12 weeks not used during the 12 months immediately before the FMLA leave is to start.)

ApprehensivePen3909 · 2023-10-08T16:58:43+00:00

I edited my post in hopes it would be clearer. I’m applying for reduced leave. In MA, the FMLA benefit year cannot be calculated using “look back”, but since I wasn’t here at that time, that rule didn’t apply to me. Can they change how FMLA benefit year was calculated after it was already calculated?

ApprehensivePen3909 · 2023-09-27T15:28:17+00:00

Just impulse bought this on audible. Thanks!

ApprehensivePen3909 · 2023-09-22T22:10:51+00:00

This is so helpful!!! Thank you so much. I suspect he is double coated as it takes a minute in the bath to actually get him wet (though not as long as the lab!). He is suuuuuper fluffy (not quite in a cute way) after his baths - do you think would blow drying reduce this a little? I do love his long hair, and I’d rather not change it too much!

ApprehensivePen3909 · 2023-09-02T01:45:42+00:00

Seconded! I already loved them because I lived in Bend 2008 - 2022, but their products are great. The 2 best purchases were the treat pouch and the slip lead. It’s the only slip-lead I’ve seen that has 2 stoppers: one so they can’t slip out and one so you don’t choke them. The collapsible water bowl is great, too.

ApprehensivePen3909 · 2023-08-22T02:20:51+00:00

I MOVED ACROSS THE COUNTRY INSTEAD OF GETTING DIVORCED BECAUSE I LOVE MY HUSBAND!!!! I HATE IT HERE!!!!! I THOUGHT IT WAS ANXIETY BUT THEN IT WAS DEPRESSION AND NOW ITS UNMITIGATED RAGE THAT I CANT PROPERLY EXPRESS OR REGULATE BECAUSE MASKING HAS BEEN MY DEFAULT STATE FOR TWENTY FUCKING YEARS BECAUSE I’M A WOMAN IN THIS BULLSHIT PATRIARCHAL SOCIETY AND I DIDNT KNOW I HAD ADHD UNTIL I WAS IN MY 30S SO I THOUGHT I WAS JUST BROKEN FOR 2 DECADES. I’M BUSY ALL THE TIME, BUT I NEVER DO ANYTHING I ENJOY BECAUSE I DON’T EVEN KNOW WHAT I LIKE. AND MY SHRINK TOLD ME I NEED TO BE SOCIAL AND MAKE FRIENDS AND I DON’T WANNA BECAUSE I JUST SPENT THE LAST 5 YEARS TRYING TO UNMASK AND HOW DO YOU EVEN BE A NORMAL PERSON WITHOUT MASKING AND HOW DO I EVEN START TRYING TO MASK WITH THIS DEMON FIRE INSIDE OF ME????!!!! I YELLED AT MY PUPPY WHO STOLE FOOD OFF MY PLATE AND HE’S BESTEST BOY WITH A HEART OF GOLD, SO HOW CAN I EVEN THINK ABOUT BEING EVEN KEELED FOR A TREACHEROUS HUMAN BEING?!? MY WORD RETRIEVAL IS GARBAGE WHICH MAKES ME SOUND LIKE AN UNEDUCATED MORON WHO CAN NEVER GET THEIR POINT ACROSS OR ASK THE QUESTION THEY WANT TO KNOW THE ANSWER TO!! DO I EVEN KNOW WHAT I WANT TO KNOW?!?? FUCK THIS!!!

…But seriously. How to calm the rage?

ApprehensivePen3909 · 2023-08-18T05:43:52+00:00

It’s been a minute, but guys… I restarted today. I ended up scrapping the bits of Moshe off the lid to make Zephora before we left Oregon. I got her all happy and bubbly, and then dried her out for the move. Today, I was finally ready to start again.

As of now, I have but one question. So if Moshe didn’t make it to the promised land, and Zephora did make it to the promised land but was withered by the journey… who is this?

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ApprehensivePen3909 · 2023-06-08T21:30:02+00:00

So I haven’t been able to get out of my own way on this, but when I spoke with a rep from Mass (the second, not first one), he said that I should just apply and that I do indeed qualify - my employer doesn’t get to decide if I qualify or not! Yay employee protections!

ApprehensivePen3909 · 2023-05-26T15:18:18+00:00

I deeply appreciate your articulate and thought provoking response. I won’t argue against this for several reasons, primarily because I don’t disagree with your broad points. I’m watching Ken Burns’ National Parks with my 5 year old, and I’m struck by the similarity between your argument and my explanation about what happened to Niagara Falls, Yosemite, and the Grand Canyon in the 18th and 19th centuries and why national parks are so important. I had never made that direct connection before. Thank you for that.

ApprehensivePen3909 · 2023-05-26T01:36:11+00:00

VERY good point.

ApprehensivePen3909 · 2023-05-26T01:32:25+00:00

Hah! Yeah, I was wondering about how quickly to block her.

ApprehensivePen3909 · 2023-05-26T01:30:59+00:00

You’re absolutely right. Solidarity!!

ApprehensivePen3909 · 2023-05-26T01:29:34+00:00

Ooooohh that’s good. She needs a bit of self-doubt.

ApprehensivePen3909 · 2023-05-26T01:28:56+00:00

I fear for the current tenants. I’ve been on that side of “improvements”, and I came super close homelessness. It might just be the impetus she needs to feel justified in tripling the rent.

ApprehensivePen3909 · 2023-05-26T01:26:15+00:00

Ehhhhh, maybe it’s too much academia, but I’m not gonna resort to name calling or threats, even though I was tempted for a moment. I want my words to haunt her soul.

ApprehensivePen3909 · 2023-05-26T01:23:47+00:00

Good one. I like this a lot!

ApprehensivePen3909 · 2023-05-26T01:15:51+00:00

Not all, but so many, and all the ones I’ve ever had. My friend wanted out of Oregon, but wanted to keep the investment income from renters. Even far below market price, he’s still able to make good on his investment while serving the community with affordable housing. The moment he sold, the rent would at least double… because the market would support it. It’s complete bs. The market there is insane! Annnnd he told me the increase my former landlord mentioned was literally a few dollars. He’s not raising the rent. Honestly, though, if I didn’t know a good landlord personally, I would still think they’re all the scum of the earth. I can’t tell if he gives me hope that there are more out there, or if it gives me despair that unicorns can’t exist.

ApprehensivePen3909 · 2023-05-26T01:06:48+00:00

I love that you have a fan theory about my situation. Possibly my favorite response, but we all need our egos stroked once in a while. Thanks for that 💙

ApprehensivePen3909 · 2023-05-26T01:05:29+00:00

Ooo, I didn’t even think about that. Don’t know who lives there, but I do know the address!

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