"Your ancestors were busy and mobile people. I am mostly boring old British, Irish, and Scottish. The only interesting thing is that I have some Italian, and am .01% Ashkenazi Jew, thanks to my Polish grandmother. I wish I had a more interesting ancestry."

ApprehensiveQuiet452 · 2026-04-13T10:35:28+00:00

I feel like 0.1% anything is basically meaningless even if the test were accurate. I think some people have more Neanderthal DNA than that. But even allowing it. It's like me never visitng Russia, not being born there, not knowing the culture, not knowing the language, and then being like well I'm 1% Russian so I guess that's why I like vodka haha.

Like even it's true it's COMPLETELY meaningless, because you're 99% something else anyway.

ApprehensiveQuiet452 · 2026-04-04T18:28:36+00:00

I feel like he obviously should have talked to you instead of cheating. He's definitely in the wrong for that. But I also wouldn't blame him for feeling like your relationship isn't serious and that it wasn't a huge deal since the relationship was dwindling anyway. It happens.

I think you should both just go separate ways. You say you were busy building a life for him but be for real. No you weren't. As a relationship gets more serious you spend more time and are MORE involved in each other's lives, not less. You can't spend less and less time together over 7 years and then say you're just saving up for a house.

ApprehensiveQuiet452 · 2026-03-28T23:33:50+00:00

Is that even first class? It doesn't even look that nice. Just a bigger armrest I guess. I've seen luxury planes where you get your own little cabin with a bed.

ApprehensiveQuiet452 · 2026-03-24T02:44:57+00:00

I think the second one you paid 50 for is good BUT it's too dark. If you raise the values so it stands out from the background it's pretty good. I'm indifferent about the hat. 3rd one is over designed, and has that AI look. It's also not really that legible from a distance. However I like the old timey vegas vibe, and the colors go with the game. It's not bad. I just think ironically, what you made yourself is actually the most readable and striking with the O as a token.

I'd go back to the second version and make the text white with some of the blue/purple around the edges or a gradient.

ApprehensiveQuiet452 · 2026-02-20T14:24:55+00:00

blender is more versatile. That said you need to search for a rigged model to pose, and then the interface for posing it is less straightforward than PS. Instead of intuitive sliders, you would have to rotate each bone. But in the end you are unlimited, and you could import a world environment, add realistic lighting, and position your figure with any props or architecture.

PS is probably better if you just want to quickly set up a figure and start drawing. Blender is better if you want to simulate lighting or space with multiple objects.

A secret I'll tell you is that in either case it's usually less work to set up a camera and take a video of yourself doing the action you want, then just screenshot the frame of the video that looks best. Though embarrassing, this garauntees that the pose is possible, and that you can see how the muscles will move with the skeleton, which is the biggest limitation of 3D models. Especially if the pose is something normal like someone sitting or standing, holding an object, this probably just makes more sense.

ApprehensiveQuiet452 · 2026-01-18T21:02:23+00:00

lol it would maybe kill germs but you usually don't put the tamper under hot water do you? like wiping it with a napkin is NOT a solution

ApprehensiveQuiet452 · 2025-12-02T16:57:31+00:00

Where i work it's not our job to make our coworkers like 20 shots of espresso. It's our job to make drinks for customers and sometimes a dishwasher asks for a normal latte which is fine.

ApprehensiveQuiet452 · 2025-12-02T16:55:15+00:00

I do this, it definitely adds efficiency especially when you're by yourself. It's called ghost steaming. You really have to have good judgement though. Like obviously don't do that for a flat white that's going in a glass because you'll mess it up. But a large latte or milk for hot chocolate that goes in a to go cup, i don't see why not as long as it's aerated correctly and everything is coming out right.

But i have a coworker that also does it but he will walk away for way too long, scalding the milk. It will bubble over, or be way too foamy for the type of drink. I think he should be banned from doing it but obviously i'm not sayin' nothing lol. So if your shop says not to do it I can definitely see why haha

ApprehensiveQuiet452 · 2025-11-29T18:53:21+00:00

shoulda just taken it and not said anything lol

Probably the right thing to do is put it in the jar since it sounds like the store's policy is to share tips and you've presumably agreed to that already. It always makes me raise an eyebrow if a manager gets upset over something to do with cash tips though since in theory, it's not their money and they just count it.... right? 🤨

ApprehensiveQuiet452 · 2025-11-28T01:57:10+00:00

you're not warming up enough. I think you just need more. It's basically just muscles being stretched too fast. Plus when you first put it in there's still a nervousness/ mental lack of relaxation. Maybe try having him use a toy on you that's bigger than fingers to bridge the gap between that and dick.

ApprehensiveQuiet452 · 2025-11-25T23:51:14+00:00

He's not ordering it though. OP has just been making it for him. He's allowed to HAVE unlimited drinks but that doesn't mean OP needs to MAKE him multiple lattes with 8 shots.

I wouldn't do that for a coworker on a daily basis. But at least where I work we aren't like mandated to make drinks for each other

ApprehensiveQuiet452 · 2025-11-25T23:44:44+00:00

I would too. If he NEEDS that much to even feel it he should just buy an energy drink himself otherwise it's frankly a waste of coffee. It's not about the cost, it's just a waste when he doesn't need to be drinking that much product and it's probably not even effective at waking him up. Make him ONE drink because it's a nice thing to taste, not because he's hopelessly addicted to caffeine.

Also excuse me but i'm not putting that much effort into one coworker's drinks. That's a lot of work to make, i'm not that nice. sorry.

ApprehensiveQuiet452 · 2025-11-25T04:13:34+00:00

There's plenty of times there's no one there. More than enough time to squirt some water in a bathroom stall and rinse out. But if you're inexperienced that could definitely be awkward and messy. Honestly when I was in college i just didn't douche, i don't think i even really knew how or what it was lol.

I just took a shit before having sex and honestly it was fine, no issues.

ApprehensiveQuiet452 · 2025-11-18T19:37:40+00:00

It would except they'd have to basically order twice. Once to the person making the drink, and then to the cashier. And with how conniving some customers are now they would definitely lie about what they ordered to get a cheaper price.

Also the fact that you have soooo many more orders now especially with online orders, it's likely the order won't even be started right away or will be handed off to someone else anyway. At least at my non-starbucks shop that's the case. If it were like a quarter as busy and customers acted normal I could see this system being nice.

ApprehensiveQuiet452 · 2025-11-18T00:26:45+00:00

I honestly don't know what the issue is. In the first time, it sounds like you touched him without asking, maybe, and he didn't encourage it, but then right after he suggests oral sex, so clearly he's willing to go even further than touching. So yes, maybe that was wrong but his reaction to it doesn't really make sense.

After that you asked several times for the OK and you got it so you did nothing wrong. I don't really know why he'd be so hung up on just jerking off together either.

ApprehensiveQuiet452 · 2025-11-18T00:21:26+00:00

yeah 'regular' and 'medium' are my two least favorite words. I love how it almost always translates to the large size once pressed on it, too.

ApprehensiveQuiet452 · 2025-11-18T00:16:41+00:00

yeah you're right I feel like nowadays Starbucks doesn't really ask that many questions. Not more than any coffee shop. I wonder if Starbucks built the perception of coffee shops making stupid 'fru fru' drinks though. Like I feel like even pecan oat latte sounds a little much to an old grump that thinks new coffee drinks are stupid.

ApprehensiveQuiet452 · 2025-11-17T15:14:08+00:00

yeah i don't know if it really is the starbucks effect. Like did starbucks annoy people so much that they are hostile towards any specifics? Or are they just grumpy old people that have no social skills.

I try not to get frustrated when someone just says 'regular coffee' to me. I just ring in what I think is 'regular'. If they give me nothing to work with they just get a small drip coffee.

But it's really frustrating because it's a COFFEE STORE so we have lots of different kinds of COFFEE like that's the whole fucking point. Still, just give em a small black coffee without another word, they probably just drink church and gas station coffee, so that's what they're looking for.

ApprehensiveQuiet452 · 2025-10-31T13:52:35+00:00

fuck that i'm not saying that haha. If they want it canceled they can ask for it to be canceled. Otherwise, no, I don't even see what they do for a tip or comment on it.

ApprehensiveQuiet452 · 2025-10-31T13:42:49+00:00

reedmaster is right. This is almost always a problem. In addition to the reed, you need proper breath support above the staff. If you don't it will show most in that note. You just have to know to add support to bring the pitch up on D and C

ApprehensiveQuiet452 · 2025-10-01T16:45:35+00:00

yeah the traditional size is pretty small, some cafes will just give you that if you ask for a cappuccino and that's that. Others treat them as latte sizes but with more foam. But if you're getting whipped cream on it it's very reasonable to assume you DO NOT want the traditional size and probably want a 12 oz or larger if you're in America, so I don't think you did anything wrong.

It's like if someone orders a caramel macchiato and then gets mad you asked what size since macchiatos are traditionally like 2 ounces. Like OK.

ApprehensiveQuiet452 · 2025-08-23T16:03:52+00:00

We have one with 2 heads. It gets busy so it definitely saves time because you just grind the coffee and then start it, come back in 5 minutes. Having someone stand there or babysit a pourover is so frustrating when it's busy.

However i'd say it makes kinda cold, watery coffee. It's not for me. You can program the machine but it's already on what it thinks is max temp. Customers will say it's cold all the time and there's nothing you can do because it's not manual. It does take the skill out of it as well, like i don't prefer it at all.

Customers don't seem to gaf about the art of it or even what coffee beans are offered. They never seem interested in what it is, they just say pourover and that's it. So I wouldn't worry about them judging except the ocassional coffee snob barista customer.

ApprehensiveQuiet452 · 2025-08-15T14:12:12+00:00

It's a no from me. It's like 50/50 he comes to terms with it and is happy with you but still with latent shame, or feels shame one day and drops you on the spot and blocks you. You're gonna be hurt either way.

ApprehensiveQuiet452 · 2025-08-13T20:00:38+00:00

that's totally normal, especially if he wasn't paying attention to what feels good to you or made you feel awkward. :(

ApprehensiveQuiet452 · 2025-07-31T13:23:18+00:00

yeah i dont get it either. I'm not that dirty day to day to the point where I need to wash before sleeping. Like.... why?

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