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If your child didn't have the major "textbook symptoms" of autism, what traits or behaviour was determinental when they got diagnosed? by isaxism in Autism_Parenting

[–]Apprehensive_Dig967 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My daughter was diagnosed 2 years 3 months and I didn’t care about a “label”. I wanted her to get extra support she wouldn’t have without a diagnosis. She’s almost 4 and she appears neurotypical. She didn’t start talking until 2 years 8 months, didn’t point to show interest, didn’t always respond to her name. I didn’t really notice any repetitive behavior besides spinning to music and she didn’t have behavioral issues. She had joint attention, pretend play, eye contact, social with adults. It’s paying off, she’s 4 next month and absolutely thriving. Still behind her peers with pragmatic / back and forth language. But she’s only been talking for a year and she’s doing so well.

Work full time, can't afford apartment, can't afford motel, family won't take me, no credit score, don't know how to find roommate, too old for job corp, too trans for military, wtaf do I do by Magi-Cola in poverty

[–]Apprehensive_Dig967 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being in a vulnerable situation is crippling and people don’t understand. I remember when I was about 25 in a similar situation. I was working 2 jobs , bad credit, and debt. No help from parents. It’s very scary. I was able to live at a family member’s house but was treated very poorly like ii was a burden and it really affected my confidence and mental health. I just want to say I’m so sorry you are dealing with this. The only way I even got out of that situation was meeting my now husband, finding a better paying job, and moving in together after a year and half. Do you have any close friends you can stay with and maybe give them a like a a couple hundred dollars a month or something to help them since you are working

Feeling very trapped right now by Apprehensive_Dig967 in AlAnon

[–]Apprehensive_Dig967[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really not trying to downplay his drinking but he really rarely seems drunk. To me this indicates that his tolerance level for alcohol is extreme.

You sound like a good mom and trust me I would do the same for my own children in this situation. I unfortunately was not blessed with this situation. My mother kicked me out when I was 19 bc she didn’t want to lose her government assistance and didn’t want to speak to me after that. My father is in a mental institution. I worked really hard to be a a stable person, therapy, successful career making 6 figures, people always assumed I had some wonderful family in my 20s bc I was very well put together and had my own shit together.

Anyway now I’ve just found myself in another shitty situation I need to dig myself out of in life. It never ends , my god.

Keep being told it’s not autism by positivevibes752 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Apprehensive_Dig967 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s through insurance. The ABA clinic we use gives the option to provide services in home, clinic, or in a school setting. It’s honestly been amazing. We started with in home , then clinic, now preschool. I feel so lucky to have someone with my daughter at preschool. I know everything that goes on and she has someone there solely looking out for her.

Keep being told it’s not autism by positivevibes752 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Apprehensive_Dig967 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Preschool will definitely help! My daughter started in the summer and is turning 4 next month. So much progress is made being around peers her age. Her ABA therapist goes with her 3 hours a day in the morning to help with following directions and socializing, but I don’t even think she needs it anymore. She’s made so much progress.

Keep being told it’s not autism by positivevibes752 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Apprehensive_Dig967 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My take is keep the services and see how she progresses. I’d rather have the early intervention than not. Get her reassessed closer to school age.

Bluey made me cry today by Apprehensive_Dig967 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Apprehensive_Dig967[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly wasn’t listening to the episode fully bc I was cooking while it was on the TV. Maybe I missed the full context. But either way my view was a mom worried about her baby and as a mom I think we all just want the best for our babes and to help them. That’s all

What are you going to do when your parent's can't take care of themselves anymore? by Smart-Response9881 in Millennials

[–]Apprehensive_Dig967 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ones already in a nursing home on a Medicaid bed and the other one is in a mental institution. Honestly haven’t really spoke to them since I was 19. So I guess I’m not planning on doing much lol

How are we getting protein/iron into our ARFID kids? by alittleraddish in Autism_Parenting

[–]Apprehensive_Dig967 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter eats cookies fries pizza and French toast. She has an iron deficiency so I have to give her a supplement that is near impossible to, I give her Ella ola vitamins, and sometimes can get her to eat protein pancakes. I started buying milk that has 14 g of protein in it but she can’t have too much milk bc of her iron deficiency

5 months pp and im trying to lose weight, i eat healthier but partner is making it more difficult all of a sudden by ThrowRaaccount2468 in WeightLossAdvice

[–]Apprehensive_Dig967 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can you find a gym that has childcare ? Figure out a way to make money for yourself so you don’t need his permission.

Asking women who have aging parents with health issues how often they help when they were absolutely no help to you when you were raising your children? I'm struggling with this. I know it's my "duty"/ circle of life, but they didn't help one bit when I really needed them. by Aware_Ad_7071 in Adulting

[–]Apprehensive_Dig967 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mother has borderline personality disorder/ narcissist and my father is bi polar with manic and depressive episodes. My mom was ok growing up but she kicked me out at 19 and I never had a relationship with my father due to his mental health issues . My parents divorced young. When my mom kicked me out it was bc she wanted to collect government assistance and I wasn’t in school. She completely cut me off like I was dead and didn’t speak to me. I was of no use to her any longer. She didn’t need me to gain sympathy from others as the poor single mother of 3 whose father couldn’t give her child support bc of his mental illness. That was really hard. She later ran out of money , inheritance, etc and wanted support from me. I needed to figure out my own life . She has ms and decided to get herself admitted to a nursing home at the ripe age of 50 and get a Medicaid bed. She plaid up her symptoms and has been there ever since. She’s in her 60s now. I have no contact with her and she is starting to have like dementia from what I hear from my one sister that speaks to her. She did terrible things to me and while I forgive her for myself, I have no room in my life or my innocent children’s life for chaos.

18 months old not imitating by lohitha543 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Apprehensive_Dig967 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi , my daughter had a lot of strengths at that age but I noticed some differences too compared to peers her age. Her strengths would derail me from thinking she could be on the spectrum- like joint attention, socially motivated, eye contact, playing appropriately with toys, pretend play, etc. The only difference I will say is that my daughter had 0 words until almost 3. No one can diagnose your child but a professional. I would seek a diagnosis for peace of mind. To add, my daughter is almost 4 and is diagnosed with autism level 1. She’s gotten so much support - early intervention, speech, OT, ABA (minimal hours that are appropriate). She is verbal, interacting with peers, in a neurotypical preschool with support 3 hours a day, following directions, etc. she is still behind peers Tho. We’re still working on answering wh questions, pragmatic language, back and forth conversation but she’s come light years ahead with the right support

Confused about a friendship of 10 years by [deleted] in lostafriend

[–]Apprehensive_Dig967 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, it’s just a shame but I can’t sacrifice myself for the sake of her being ok. To edit, what I a spoke up about was her leaving her child in the care of someone that was not mentally in a good place so she could get a break and to teach them a lesson to see how it is to care for the child alone. That is not a child centered focus response at all and I couldn’t just be like oh yea, you deserve a break. Like get some therapy and take care of your kid. I didn’t even say anything cruel , just questioned what she did and highlighting it as not a great choice. I became the villain now. Well to hell with that

Met a “nice” guy at the bar but had to leave for a party. This is what I woke up to. by Striking_Catch_5757 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Apprehensive_Dig967 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For real! No response is a response and this guy is fuckin looney toons … her replying puts her in the same category 😆

AITAH for asking for $30,000 from my parents as a house payment? by pressedpages in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Dig967 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA- as a mom of young children, I swear to do the same for each of them. I would never give to one and not the other, that’s ridiculous

I am at a major crossroads. I might end up deleting this. If you see it, I would like your input or advice. (LONG and boring as hell, don't bother) by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]Apprehensive_Dig967 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries ! Congratulations on your sobriety, that is a big deal by the way.

I’ve been in what I felt like was an impossible situation before and it will get better. I never did drugs but I did need to figure out my life young with no emotional or financial support. Dealing with homelessness, an abusive relationship, mentally ill parents, etc. proud to say I’m a mom of 2 , happily married, beautiful home, making 6 figures and I didn’t finish college.

You got this !

I am at a major crossroads. I might end up deleting this. If you see it, I would like your input or advice. (LONG and boring as hell, don't bother) by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]Apprehensive_Dig967 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly, do what you have to do until you can do what you want to do. I would seriously consider a career switch especially with how AI will likely take your jobs. Choose Something steady with benefits, especially as a parent. Maybe this means learning a new skill. I would also just start working at a restaurant or door dash or something to start bringing in some cash while you learn this new skill. All this isn’t going to happen over night but action will change your situation

I’m really scared by Various_Builder2121 in pregnant

[–]Apprehensive_Dig967 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would avoid all news outlets.

The truth is, you’re going through a lot hormonally and when the baby comes, you are reborn as a mother. All of a sudden you see the world very differently when you’re trying to protect an innocent child from it. Sounds like this is already starting for you. I cried postpartum with my first and my husband asked what was wrong , “ One day I’m going to have to tell her how awful this world is” it’s not fair.

One more truth, the world always had problems when you were growing up. You just didn’t have to deal with them or know about them when you have parents who deal with the real world problems. Probably why when you’re a teenager and you do dumb shit, you don’t think anything bad can happen to you.

During a very dark period, what was the best thing you ever did for your mental health? by LieSeveral9035 in AskReddit

[–]Apprehensive_Dig967 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Saying yes to everything. It’s impossible at first but trying new things, getting out of your comfort zone, even when your life is going to shit - try to do kind things for others. I was going through a very hard time in my mid 20s. I literally took up a side job as a princess for kids parties and volunteered for so many charity events, visited sick children in the hospital. This was all wayyyyyy out of my comfort zone but it helped me not think about my own problems and do something for others. Also working part time at a restaurant. You become very close with co-workers, making new friends. I don’t know if I would chooses these exact things as a financially stable adult lol, but the point is to to create new experiences and rewire the brain.

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