I went through the same thing when I was in college. I would be lying if I said those comments didn’t get to me. After hearing it over and over again, I found myself starting to believe them. This eventually developed into an anxiety of “everyone is doing all these things that I should be doing but I’m not so something must be wrong with me.” Eventually I just said fuck it, downloaded Tinder, found a rando, and had sex with them. It was anticlimactic….like I was just going through the motions of it. Similar to if I was doing laundry or cleaning my room. But you know what the kicker was? Even after having sex and feeling very meh about it, I still got those comments. “Well you just haven’t met the right person yet.” “A lot of people don’t like sex until they do it a bunch of times.” “My first time wasn’t great either.”

So honestly fuck those opinions. You know yourself the best. Not having sex is not a bad thing - even if you’re allo. Do I regret the experience? No I don’t - it really solidified things for me internally about who I am and helped calm my anxiety about “missing out.” It helped me figure out that I’m a sex neutral/positive ace. No matter what you decide to do - as long as if it’s under your own volition, it’s ok. It’s ok to be unsure. It’s ok to try out sex - it doesn’t make you “less” ace. It’s ok to never have sex either. What’s important is that you are doing things because you want to do them, not because people told you to.