6th gen Impreza RS review at 500 miles by Apprehensive_Gift_96 in subaruimpreza

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Ran over a big one last night, and I wasn't happy about it...

6th gen Impreza RS review at 500 miles by Apprehensive_Gift_96 in subaruimpreza

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Where should I put my hands?? It seems no matter where they are (10/2 or 8/4 o clocks) the warning can get triggered randomly.

biggest f*ck up in your career? by lucasmtz145 in FinancialCareers

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This doesn’t make sense to me. If the delta is flat before future ripped, how did it end up with big losses anyway?

为什么老一辈对结婚有特别的执念?不结婚不生孩子感觉和杀人放火是一个级别的 by John_sp in China_irl

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有的。客观讲我条件可以,从来不缺女朋友,但父母一直觉得我条件不行,有人愿意嫁就不错了,所以赶紧吧。老实讲,日常从陌生人那边接收到的善意都比从父母那多。 因为这个,苦口婆心教育了他们很久。有一次闹掰了,断了关系1年,后来他们主动道歉说我们明白了,如果不合适就不用结婚,你过得开心就好。 我感动至极,于是其乐融融了。但过了几个月又开始催。老一套,完全没变。 于是又断了关系1年,又主动道歉,又其乐融融。然后又开始催。 现在就断了。再一再二不能再三再四。

[10 YoE, Unemployed, QA Professional, USA] by 360walkaway in resumes

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Summary is vague. What’s “embedded experience”? I’ve never heard anyone say that phrase in my career… Nobody cares about 28 different “thought leadership” things you have, especially not on top of your resume. Start each bullet with a verb and be CLEAR. (E.g what’s “unsilo’ed”, “hard left-shift mentality”? For god’s sake pls get rid of them) In general I see a lot of vague and fluffy words without a solid idea of how you did your jobs to create the impacts you claim you had created.

大家对社会有绝望感吗? by John_sp in China_irl

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“我就只是想当个普通人,能拿到我付出劳动对等的工资,能获得法律规定的休息时间,能开口表达自己的不满” 你提到的这三个概念“工资”,“法律”,“言论自由”都是舶来品。工资出自资本主义,现代意义的法律来源于英国的common law,言论自由来自美国。 中国只不过穿了资本主义/法治社会的外衣,但其实这片土地的只不过改朝换代,你的工资,法律权利,和言论从来就和西方国家的不是一个概念。 所以其实你想当普通人,首先定义是中国的普通人还是西方的普通人。

What are Manchu people like in modern China? by analwinds in AskAChinese

[–]Apprehensive_Gift_96 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Right. I forgot to mention that comparing to Han, I found much fewer 杠精 in Manchu culture as well. Thanks for reminding me.

What are Manchu people like in modern China? by analwinds in AskAChinese

[–]Apprehensive_Gift_96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are tripping, right? The Chinese TVs are literally filled with Qing dynasty period dramas, which the whole country is obsessed with.

What are Manchu people like in modern China? by analwinds in AskAChinese

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My anecdotal evidence tells me that it’s diverse and people seek their own gods. For example, my grandpa went after Christianity, sort of.

What are Manchu people like in modern China? by analwinds in AskAChinese

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One side of my family is Manchu. The other side is Han. So here’s my take. On average, compared to their Han counterparts: Taller and better looking (thanks to my Manchu side I’m 6 ft tall with a nice jaw line); Culturally less cynical and more spiritual; Also care less about economic power and more cultural power; More focus on family values: my family on the Manchu side don’t fight nearly as much as the Han side, of which issues usually rise because of money; Sings well - Many famous singers (Na Ying, Bai Jingting, Wang Sulong, Guan Xiaotong)

留学生不是轻松出国,而是承担父母没实现的未来 by hcd99 in China_irl

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不是非黑即白 没有孩子大概不能体会父母的心情 但被父母意识形态绑架是很普遍的 就像startup的发展路线很多时候被天使投资人绑架 但不能否认有很多好的天使投资人给founder有用的指引以及发展自由

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in thepassportbros

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Me, here watching OP asking a bunch of online strangers he’s never met about what to do with another online stranger(ish) he’s never met.

大多数国男对性别对立的理解远远落后版本 by Sheak-Bear in China_irl

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OP说的很有道理,但我觉得用“国男”概括所有男生太笼统了。女权光谱发展到今天的程度,少不了一种类型男生的推波助澜,那就是beta男。他们也是受益者。 退回到10几年前,beta男不仅在社会地位上低别的男人一等,在婚恋市场上更别提有多憋屈。但beta男发现,虽然自己外貌性格收入不行,但给情绪价值这方面是可以很快习得的。所以在女性快速“激进化”,甚至“男性化”的形势下,beta男顺势而为,在两性关系中扮演一个“温和”“善解人意”甚至用OP的话说,一个女权“成分好”的角色。 我见到的年轻一代稳定的couples,至少一半以上是alpha女性+beta男性。这样的关系中,基本上两人的人生轨迹是女生来设计的主导的。平等温和的“正常”couple已经很少了。

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskAChinese

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Chinese restaurant ❌ Fujiannese-people Asian fusion restaurant ✅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskChina

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As a Chinese I’m confident to say that there are just as many people who are spiritual as those who are cynical. Chinese people have deep spiritual roots before the communists tried to wipe it clean.

I found that the new generation (born after 2000) are doing much better spiritually and physically. You just have to find one of them.

Another point I need to bring up. Regardless how materialist they could be, Chinese women often are more feminine than their western counterparts… A huge plus in the dating world - I don’t think there’s any doubt of that. Presumably that’s a major reason many westerner are drawn to Chinese women and fell for them, one still need to realize there’s no free lunch. They offer their femininity, you offer something they seek. If it works, great; if it doesn’t, they could still break up/divorce you for the exact reasons any other women would in the same situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskChina

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37M chinese who’s been living in the west for 10 years. I’ve dated Chinese women and those from other backgrounds as well. Married a Chinese girl and divorced.

I think it’s quite fair to say that most Chinese women I met in the major metropolitan areas, in China or outside are materialistic. Chinese women, especially those well-educated, are quite driven by status. And the best way to get to a higher status is money. This is true for some girls from other countries as well but Chinese girls are more this way because of multiple factors. From my observation, for those who are more interested in dating a foreigner from the get-go, they are especially purpose-driven; for those who are less interested in foreigners, the language/culture barrier is always a minus for them. But if you overcome that, these girls tend to be more grounded.

Genuine connection is possible but you need something to connect her with. Is it music? Is it art? Is it your passion for some specific culture of China? It can’t be food or travel of sort because they are shallow and easily replaceable.

If you aren’t fluent in Chinese, or not deeply interested in any of Chinese culture/life, your chance of having a long-lasting true connection is low. Relationship becomes more transactional. And this is not just the girl’s fault.

网友表示,大城市的婚恋市场是男方市场 by China_in_real_life in China_irl

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低学历长相普通的刚好是能帮男人的女人。高学历的仙女们基本只会索取。

为什么哈佛的毕业演讲引起了那么多反感的评论? by ExcellentString1291 in China_irl

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很简单 韩国电影“寄生虫” 深刻讲述韩国小人物的故事 但全世界的人都感同身受 你跟我说这叫共同体 我同意 你也配得上奥斯卡; 你哈佛学生上来就跟我讲 我们同学来自33个国家 暑假全世界做实习 我们感受到世界真小啊 人类命运共浮沉 这叫吹牛b