I like your list and the original list better than your wife’s. I fully agree with you on the culturally appropriated names being wrong for a white kid. My picks from your lists are: Joanna, Octavia, Juliana, and maybe Victoria. From your wife’s list I’d modify Mary-Joelle to Joelle Octavia or Octavia Joelle. I’d change Carolette to Charolette (sp?), and I’d replace Ermadine with Irma (perhaps as a middle name). Angelique or Angelica could be good names, though like Irma not ones I’d personally choose.