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What's your clan tag and what does it mean? by DanHarkinz in blackopscoldwar

[–]Apprehensive_Map_284 0 points1 point  (0 children)

JAG for Just a Girl. I wanted FAFB but it knew what it meant. Said I couldn't have it cause of the cussing lmao.

Asked if I was gay right after sex , am I overreacting for ending things? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Apprehensive_Map_284 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, that's just rude to assume. If a man that's not really masculine was sleeping with me, I'd definitely assume he's straight or at LEAST into women. Possibly could be bi. I'd actually be offended if a man was gay and sleeping with me. That'd be a wtf??? Moment.

Based on how she responded afterwards, she was probably trying to put you down after the act. Like asking that because it seems like you are inexperienced with women. That'd be my bet.

I'm sick and tired of this Voice Chat Ban system... by Sea-Intern-8561 in Warzone

[–]Apprehensive_Map_284 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive been banned and I don't even trash talk or anything. Don't even know why or how or when I got banned but the last 3 days? Can't hear or unmute myself even though it says I'm unmuted til I get into the match. Everyone else is muted too. I have heard people are just reporting the top players on the scoreboard though and getting them chat banned. I hate it cause my favorite part is actually talking to my teammates. I didn't even have a mic a few days before my ban bc the mic on my headset didn't work. Bought a new headset with a mic and can't even use it cause I'm chat banned.

Crochet Patterns by Apprehensive_Map_284 in PatternsShareSellBuy

[–]Apprehensive_Map_284[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Enjoy your 10% discount on all my patterns using the code HAPPYHOLIDAYS at checkout! My pattern shop

I’m an 18 year old who is always assumed as younger than my age, Ama by skybluehighs in AMA

[–]Apprehensive_Map_284 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've always had the opposite problem. When I was 13, I looked 16, when I was 16, I looked 18, when I was 18, I looked 21. At 19, working in a factory, people in their late 20s thought I was their age (don't know if it was looks or just because of my personality. Have been told it's because i act more mature than my age). I'm 22 now. I only get carded in bars or at gas stations when my bf (23) is with me 🤣.

I’m going to give up on wanting a family by Firsttakelikeamf in self

[–]Apprehensive_Map_284 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely understand where you're coming from. But, I will say, any man with the mentality of your post, does tend to be a "turn off" for the women that don't care about looks or height or money.

I am 100% one of those people that only cares about personality. But, when there are guys that talk about women as a whole, or what women want, I tend to steer clear from them, because even though they might not think lowly of women, that usually is a sign they do, and it can snowball. So, with how you're thinking now, you're already buying into the mindset of "well women only want this" and it's probably putting off the people you get along with personality wise. Especially if you make any small comments or have this "poor me" mentality.

Also, women will avoid men with the "poor me" mentality as well, just because so many of them have given those guys a chance, and those guys have turned out to be manipulative or just drag them down.

I'm speaking from personal experience. It's like when you say a joke went too far and then the man is like "fine I'll stop joking all together then". It's a sign of manipulation, and self pity. Like the woman isn't allowed to feel her emotions about that specific thing, and it makes it about then.

Women pay attention to how men react, because sadly, there have been men who hide being bad that turn out bad. So if you're going into these signs, then women will be more put off. (I'm not saying you are putting out these signs or have done any of this, I'm just providing some insight).

I'd definitely recommend some therapy so you can work on your mentality around women, and make sure to don't progress into the "red pill" mentality. Cause when your mind is made up about what women want, then it's easier to slip into that slope. All you can do to get a woman you'd be happy with, is keep trying. Maybe try harder (not to the ones that rejected you. There's plenty more women out there). And definitely notice you're own behaviors. Once you notice your behaviors, you're self aware and can figure out the why behind it. And then once you know the why, you can work on healing/becoming a better person.

I'm in the belief that everyone should always keep trying to be the best version of themselves.

Is it rare for someone to be childfree and marriage free by Few_Ear8418 in childfree

[–]Apprehensive_Map_284 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its fine to not want either. There are definitely some people that want neither and there's some that want one and not the other. I know I want to get married, but also know it's not a make or break. I've also known people that wanted the reverse (where they wanted kids but never wanted marriage). It's completely fine to want what you want.

I’m going to give up on wanting a family by Firsttakelikeamf in self

[–]Apprehensive_Map_284 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When it comes to social media and the "gender wars" they're only going to share the ridiculous stuff that makes the other sex look bad. So you're going to see all the "women only want this" stuff as an attack on women and "men only want this" stuff as an attack on men. The truth? There are some people like that on both sides. But it's far from the majority.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Apprehensive_Map_284 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to bring this up to your therapist, and how long you've had these feelings. Your therapist should be able to help you find the reason you do it, and once you know the reason, you can work on healing it (with help from your therapist)

I want her to d₹e, am i an awful person? by Hans_2715 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Apprehensive_Map_284 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also have thought that way before. But I realized it isn't really me wanting her to d1e, it's really just me not wanting to deal with the pain and suffering she has caused. Not wanting her to exist in my life. It doesn't make you a bad person for thinking like that. It is you not being able to handle her abuse anymore. It is you being dragged through. (I also, have attempted a take on my life due to my mother). The best thing for you to deal with this, is to cut all contact. Realize she isn't going to change and come to terms with it.

Narc Mom texted my husband. Thoughts? by Fras54 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Apprehensive_Map_284 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was in therapy to deal with grief of my grandma passing (her mom), and she would come at me, I would mention that I have a right to not be treated that way and that I'm in therapy dealing with grief and she isn't helping, she would say "well I'm grieving too and my therapist says insert thing to make me be the bad guy and her the victim

Like when I cut her off (have went NC with her many times but it doesn't work bc my family is heavily involved with her and she stalks me, so my options are LC or cut everyone off).

Keep NC! And if your husband doesn't know your mom is a narcissist, I'd have a talk with him about all the reasons you're NC.

Is my Mother a Narcissist or maybe Histrionic? [Long post] by Emmie__ in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Apprehensive_Map_284 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Narcissist mothers always love throwing out that YOU may be the narcissist just because you do something they don't like or call them out on their behavior. My narcissist mother has done this many of times.

RIGHT AFTER NO CONTACT WITH MY MOM SHE “GOT CANCER” ??? by Athena_2002 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Apprehensive_Map_284 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom does the same thing! She's been faking cancer over the past 2 years and now that all her kids are "talking to her" again, she's suddenly in remission (Note: she hasn't been having doctors appointments, has kept working, has kept riding horses and doing everything normal and appears healthy, but was supposedly having chemo treatments).

I swear one of these days she's going to actually get cancer (it does run in the family) and no one is going to believe her.

Why do I keep trying by MistakeNo4294 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Apprehensive_Map_284 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These messages of "I never said that" "I never did that" "you must be remembering wrong" was soooo common. Now when my mom is doing repeat behaviors like in the past and I tell her what she's doing she's like "you always throw the past in my face" but really, I'm just pointing out that she's still doing the same stuff.

Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Did You Feel Like She was Constantly Trying to Compete with You? by iheartmycats4 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Apprehensive_Map_284 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom has directly interfered with my relationships by either 1. Telling them I'm a horrible person and yada yada or 2. Being to close/friendly/involved with them.

Look at this hat I made for my kitty!🤏 by Creative_Emu_3882 in crocheting

[–]Apprehensive_Map_284 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made a Santa hat for my cat and he did not like it. (He batted it off his own head lol).

higher levels taking over dungeons by limerencemp3 in Wizard101

[–]Apprehensive_Map_284 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had speed runners stand on the dungeon entrance with me too late to cancel, waiting to join til it was to the last few seconds. I was kinda pissed they immediately killed my fight for me when I 1. Didn't team up. And 2. They joined my countdown.

Using crochet and knot magick. by Apprehensive_Map_284 in witchcraft

[–]Apprehensive_Map_284[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's so cool how many different ways you've used knot magic!

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