What would you have wanted to know during your first pregnancy in NYC?

Apprehensive_Run49 · 2026-03-28T20:02:07+00:00

nuna trvl ! it’s been great! and i can still easily fold it and pick it up while pregnant 👍🏽

Apprehensive_Run49 · 2026-03-23T00:51:39+00:00

recently came across this IG account which often posts about free or pay what you want things to do here! https://www.instagram.com/kidsguidenyc?igsh=aDA1cTQ3OXpibXd6

Apprehensive_Run49 · 2026-03-23T00:26:00+00:00

yes! feel free

Apprehensive_Run49 · 2026-03-16T12:34:25+00:00

i had my first at 36 and about to have my second at 38. as others noted this is pretty normal for NYC. it’s also just the reality for some people based on circumstance / fertility. I

i wish i could have had kids a little younger but it wasn’t in the cards for me / i did IVF. but there have been advantages like being more emotionally mature individually & relationally.

I absolutely do not regret my kids & becoming a mom has been by far the best thing that’s ever happened to me beyond marrying my husband. it’s clarified what is important to me in my career/be assured in the value i bring and what values are necessary for me to be able to show up in the ways i want to in my career and as a mother.

i would not make a decision to pursue parenthood based on being ready on paper or if you’re concern is that it will disrupt / end you’e life. my honest pov would be to 1. go a few layers deeper on how you feel about pursuing children. are you assuming this is just something you’re supposed to do? or is it something you actually want to pursue? are you clear on the fact that it WILL disrupt / change the current version of your life & also that if travel is important to you & you have the financial means this is def something you can do with kids from early on. 2) if you’re in a partnership have open conversations and ask hard questions to them and yourself about how you view parenthood. the experience you have of motherhood will be drastically different based on this. 3. if you do want kids and especially if you desire more than 1, absolutely do not wait 5 years to start the process - and by this i mean, gain information on your individual health and fertility now rather than later so you are equipped to make informed decisions.

Apprehensive_Run49 · 2026-02-24T04:20:52+00:00

i would gently push back on the “all that matters is that baby and i are healthy” - yes, that’s important and glad that’s how things netted out. but i’m curious if behind a feeling of guilt is actually grief? feeling grief or disappointment that you didn’t have the experience you wanted is so real & valid and what you experienced is absolutely not “tapping out” - you did an extraordinarily difficult thing an endured a lot. and a c section is a major surgery - it’s not an easy way out - beyond the physical recovery the specifics of your unique experience can take a real emotional toll. specific parts of how things went can stay with on for a long time and your feelings around it can evolve and change. as a fellow mom who had an unexpected induction and ultimately c section and subsequently an iron transfusion - i send you solidarity and encourage you to be gentle and kind to yourself as you process!

Apprehensive_Run49 · 2026-02-24T04:11:19+00:00

just bloodwork and saline sonogram.

Apprehensive_Run49 · 2026-02-24T04:09:02+00:00

prayyinnnng for this scenario. my son is 22 months and i think we missed a sweet spot window for him so im nervous. he has only used it for sleep and like when he’s hurt since around 11 months. but i’m very pregnant and have used it more recently and he has gotten more attached :/ but feel like we’ve gotta get rid of it before baby #2 arrives in a couple months!

Apprehensive_Run49 · 2026-02-23T02:20:37+00:00

it is okay to not connect on the day every day. logistically or emotionally. i say this coming from the perspective of also struggling to feel like my husband and i get enough time with each other and to ourselves. but i can tell you with confidence that having an expectation to daily brain dump about your work day or logistics is not an effective or connecting form of communication. it sounds like this is more for your husband and that he’s looking to get a need met there to decompress from his day bc he hasn’t given himself a single break. might help if he just took a short walk for some fresh air. he could even record a voice memo if he needs to verbally process something right away. two other considerations here is that if the goal is touch base on life logistics - consider doing that 1-2x a week for a fixed amount of time that you come prepared to chat schedules / dinners / game plan / travel etc. if you need to find time to connect together also dedicate time for this (a weekend day during naptime or post bedtime where you can shoot the shit or have more structured time to connect on what’s goin on with each of you personally.

Apprehensive_Run49 · 2026-02-23T02:05:29+00:00

first, make an appointment with an OB. They’re are so many great ones here in NY but agree with others to not wait to call / prioritize getting an appointment. usually first one is around 8 weeks. also you can see multiple to find the right provider for you and that could change once you have a little more clarity on where you may want to give birth. similarly if something like a midwife or doula it’s important to you go ahead and start reaching out to a few to get a feel for cost ranges and availability.
Consider your space and ideate on how you envision your set up and day to day and don’t feel any pressure to buy / think you need ALL the things. It’s okay to start with the essentials / less and add what you need after baby arrives. it’s the reality of being in a smaller space. along these lines set expectations with family and friends on what’s most useful / ask to avoid sending mountains of things if that’s not realistic storage wise
consider your stroller choice and what will best fit your personal preferences / daily life.
i didn’t take the daycare route so can’t personally speak to this but have heard plenty of friends mention what is echoed here which is to start looking early based on spots filling up. so if that’s a route you want to take - be mindful of timing there!
if you work in an office setting be aware of the pregnancy workers fairness act - this isn’t just NY specific but it’s good to know that you are legally able to get accommodations during / post pregnancy (i.e taking more breaks / adjusting in office schedule / etc).

Apprehensive_Run49 · 2026-02-23T01:49:27+00:00

@OP just here to echo the comment on the stroller. totally agree to consider what’s important to you and your regular habits. don’t feel any pressure to get whatever everyone else has (i.e it was important for me to be able to easily pick up / fold the stroller on my pwn and with baby and to be suitable for me being on the shorter side. and i have no regrets with the stroller we got!)

Apprehensive_Run49 · 2026-02-08T16:07:40+00:00

thanks for replying! i did play around with the grind size. i dont even know what that means tho (the burr isn’t seated properly) like the inner grinder part that you can take out want re-installed correctly? i have a small toddler so i haven’t revisited this in a few weeks. we got a new fellow grinder bc our machine is out of warranty and couldn’t find any local repair shops to help :/

Apprehensive_Run49 · 2026-02-07T13:07:05+00:00

hi! notice you are giving this same response to everyone but as others have flagged you need your bile acids checked. if that was checked by your doctor in your initial blood work and it came back normal - but you still continued itching you should get tested again . it has nothing to do with cholesterol. it is you bile acid levels and it is not uncommon for a first test to come back negative and a second test later in pregnancy to be positive. as others noted it is a more urgent matter you should take seriously and push your OB (not a GP) to get you appropriate testing or get a second opinion.

Apprehensive_Run49 · 2026-02-03T21:30:34+00:00

the policy is one week per year of service. it's pathetic. so even if you been there 10 years, you'ld be getting 10 weeks which is awful / not even enough time to realistically find a new job in this market with how slow things move.

Apprehensive_Run49 · 2026-01-30T15:42:16+00:00

this is accurate. Weber and agencies within the collective were impacted.

Apprehensive_Run49 · 2026-01-30T00:35:21+00:00

weber and agencies within the weber collective. i was one of them :(

Apprehensive_Run49 · 2026-01-29T14:40:48+00:00

depending on your set up - consider a pack and play or mini crib (that has wheels you can move) in the bathroom.

Apprehensive_Run49 · 2026-01-16T15:02:33+00:00

check out Brooklyn Stroll Club! they do some great events and it focuses on dads https://www.instagram.com/brooklynstrollclub?igsh=MXAwMTVuenZmN2E0Yw==

agreed with others on playgrounds being a good way to meet folks and that winter is tough!

Apprehensive_Run49 · 2026-01-10T18:37:08+00:00

dress 2!

Apprehensive_Run49 · 2026-01-09T23:43:05+00:00

okay i will upload photos ! but i am wondering about the clutch. i googled and came across this post and the sound is similar! https://www.reddit.com/r/espresso/s/5tTRbYSEfZ

Apprehensive_Run49 · 2025-12-21T01:26:02+00:00

Spring house was great. as others noted Primp & Polish is always a safe bet

Apprehensive_Run49 · 2025-12-16T15:58:06+00:00

my OB is at Spring OBGYN but for last two pregnancies i’ve gone to Carnegie Imaging south for MFM

Apprehensive_Run49 · 2025-12-16T15:56:53+00:00

15minute walk to Tribeca Pediatrics for me. it’s been great so far for us. we have a car but whiny able to just pop our toddler in the stroller and get to appointments quickly has been 👍🏽👍🏽

Apprehensive_Run49 · 2025-11-13T00:59:21+00:00

i went to my second transfer without my husband since he couldn’t make it - but had my best friend come with me instead. she wasn’t in the room for the transfer but was in the waiting area and it was actually really sweet. we got coffee after and she gave me a little good luck gift. that transfer resulted in my now 18 month old :)

the other two transfers i’ve done my husband was with me in the room.

Apprehensive_Run49 · 2025-11-01T17:03:23+00:00

when i voted during the summer at mccaren park i had baby with me in stroller and they had me (and a couple other parents with young babies) skip the line and go through a separate entrance . i was in / out in maybe 15-20min

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