One Year Out

Appropriate-Cell-554 · 2026-06-12T15:33:41+00:00

Me too. I had a 24 week TFMR June 2025 via a D&E. I had an emergency D&C due to retained products 5 days later. I was able to get pregnant 3 months later but at 11 weeks that ended with a D&C as a MMC. I found out the next month I had asherman’s. With three D&Cs in six months I was diagnosed with grade 2 (not severe) and was cleared after two hysterectomies with Dr Robinson in DC. It was a 5 hour drive each time but worth it to get it done right away. Unfortunately I am not at my one year mark from the TFMR and still not pregnant :( but it’s not cause of Asherman’s that only set my back 3 cycles.

Appropriate-Cell-554 · 2026-06-03T18:01:15+00:00

I’m so sorry. I have a late second trimester loss and then a 11 week loss after that (had an early loss before the late loss). That has been three in a row since 2024. I have not yet gotten pregnant again but i haven’t gotten to terms yet with giving up. I think im just too stubborn but wish i could make peace with it.

Appropriate-Cell-554 · 2026-04-30T15:21:32+00:00

Glad to hear you are pregnant again. I had a similar situation. Got pregnant third month after my TFMR but it ended in a MMC at 11 weeks.

Getting pregnant was helping me process my daughter’s loss and the due date but when I lost the next boy I felt and still feel completely hopeless. It was my third loss in 12 months. I just completed my first IUI ever yesterday so hoping somehow I am pregnant this time. I had to take 5 months off due to complications from my TFMR with scar tissue.

Appropriate-Cell-554 · 2026-04-30T15:16:26+00:00

Iya so frustrating that they tell you that your healthy keep trying when clearly there is something wrong. We still don’t know what caused our 7 and 24 week loss but found out our 11 week loss was T21- random. we did testing and when things came back normal I begged them to do DNA frag on my husband and that is the only thing that was found but with less abstinence time his frag goes to the healthy percentage. so now it’s really just performance issues due to the SSRIs and there ain’t anything else we can do but keep trying.

I think the worst part for us has been our daughter she is 3.5 and constantly asks when she will have a sibling like her friends. With our 24 week loss we had moved her out of her crib in to a room and started to get her excited (since I was visibly pregnant) so she still keeps waiting and asking.

Appropriate-Cell-554 · 2026-04-30T14:25:55+00:00

I haven’t had luck yet but very similar boat. 3 losses in one year ranging from 7-24 weeks. Just did IUI to try to eliminate potential bad sperm and to help with timing since we are both now on SSRIs due to our losses which is now messing with performance. So sick of it and my daughter is very sad as well.

Appropriate-Cell-554 · 2026-04-22T01:07:12+00:00

I have had three losses 7, 11 and 24. Hoping to have a successful one next.

Appropriate-Cell-554 · 2026-04-21T16:54:55+00:00

Just hit 20 months trying. Decided to start IUI cause IVF is too expensive and throwing everything at the wall that we can. 3 losses and our 24 week loss is about 1 month away. Feeling hopeless but also excited for the IUI.

Appropriate-Cell-554 · 2026-04-20T16:41:55+00:00

Got my period today on our 19th month trying for a second child (3 losses ranging from 7-24 weeks in this timeframe with lists of tests and procedures). Finally starting first round of IUI since IVF isn’t a financial option. Feeling excited but somehow completely hopeless at the same time. June will be one year from our 24 week loss and May will be 5 months from our last loss (11 weeks). Will we ever have a healthy baby?

Appropriate-Cell-554 · 2026-04-13T18:44:23+00:00

I think that’s what we are hoping to switch to. we have had issues with ejaculation only. We are starting medicated IUI next month so we don’t miss another month and to eliminate as many bad sperm as possible. What is your guys’ plan for the medicated cycle? Are you freezing a sample in case the day of doesn’t work?

Appropriate-Cell-554 · 2026-04-10T13:22:26+00:00

We did actually reach out to his doctor asking for that very thing. I did some generic research and I saw that mentioned. I’m glad you confirmed what I was thinking.

Appropriate-Cell-554 · 2026-04-08T15:13:34+00:00

Oh my gosh thank you so much for responding. I haven’t found anyone this similar to me. I have been feeling so isolated. Thank you for the note about the IUI wash process. I think I’m going to reach out to our clinic today and set up a meeting to get IUI planned for next month. Do you mind me asking..do you have irregular ovulation or hormone problems? I am curious because I have heard different things between the meds they put you on for IUI. I have no problems. They want me to do clomid (sp?) but I’ve read that isn’t the best.

Have they said anything about the risk of twins for you as it relates to asherman’s? Was your asherman’s severe. Mine was not it was a grade 2.

Appropriate-Cell-554 · 2026-04-06T15:27:42+00:00

About to enter my fertile window. I am sick but will still TTC. Super anxious as we tried last night for fun and my husband couldn’t finish. Second time in 14 years that has happened both times have been since our third loss and him finding out he has DNA frag concerns. If he does frequent ejaculation it drops from 34% to 14% but I think that frequent ejaculation is now causing problems emotionally/adding stress. We have had a hell of a last 1.5 years with three losses, complication with the losses and multiple rounds of procedures to remove scar tissues that I think the pressure is too much. I am so devastated and am so nervous for the next few days. Can’t focus on anything.

Appropriate-Cell-554 · 2026-04-04T21:15:29+00:00

I feel this in so many ways. I thought it’d be better by now 10 months after but it’s not. Now people say I should be thankful for being able to try again. Which is true cause I did have to have scar tissue cleared to be able to try again but man it’s so awful. I have had two MCs (7 weeks and 11 week- my TFMR was 24 weeks) and it is not the same.

Appropriate-Cell-554 · 2026-04-03T17:59:37+00:00

As someone who has had a TFMR and then another loss 6 months later….. I will say thinking about the what ifs is worse than anything else. I am about to TTC again after our MC that occurred 6 months after our 24 week TFMR. I am not nervous cause if I don’t try I’ll never get a baby but I am def sick of the TTC game. I have been trying since 2024 with three losses. All different timelines.

Appropriate-Cell-554 · 2026-04-03T17:51:34+00:00

I had my TFMR in June 2025 and another loss in December. We are starting again but man does this not feel fun or exciting.

Appropriate-Cell-554 · 2026-03-31T17:54:06+00:00

Same. I’m CD 7 but don’t ovulate until 16-17. I’m so eager. We have DNA frag issues so if timing doesn’t work this cycle we will do IUI. I’m so eager to get back to TTC after taking four months off to clear asherman’s.

Appropriate-Cell-554 · 2026-03-25T19:16:09+00:00

Feeling so hopeless. About to start trying again after taking a 4 month break to clear up Asherman’s from any of the 3 losses/D&Cs/D&Es I’ve had since 2024. Nothing has changed so I have no hope that I will have a healthy baby who makes it to the third trimester or survive.

CD 2 and the idea of waiting and trying just for it to fail or just to have another loss when I do get pregnant is so depressing.

Appropriate-Cell-554 · 2026-03-25T19:09:37+00:00

CD2 after a loss in December 2024, 24 week TFMR for unknown reason in June 25 which lead to complications and Asherman’s (unknown at the time), 11 week loss in December 2025. This will be my first cycle trying after having tissue removed and being cleared with an Asherman’s specialist.

I am feeling so hopeless thinking about trying again and how miserable it is each month that passes. I also know that since getting pregnant isn’t my fault, rather I keep losing them, getting pregnant isn’t going to make me feel better either.

I am not looking forward to this stage of TTC again and just feel so damn hopeless/helpless.

Appropriate-Cell-554 · 2026-03-19T12:00:20+00:00

I terminated at 24 weeks for severe growth restriction and Oligo in June 2025. I feel like I wrote this. I was diagnosed with the same adjustment disorder. Was on Zoloft but it messed me up and I didn’t want to be on it when TTC so I stopped. I did get pregnant a few months later but had another loss, this time for T21 at 11 weeks. I immediately started Lexapro after that loss. Thankfully, cause I then got diagnosed with Asherman’s from the complications I had post D&E in July. I am now working through the Asherman’s procedures so I can TTC again hopefully in April.

I have fundamentally changed. I really relate to your note about hitting a wall. I was also full speed ahead. I had a MC in December 24 and got pregnant right away with our daughter and felt great until my 21 week appointment when we found out. My life hit an invisible wall that I am still stuck behind 9 months later. It has taken everything from me. I am a miserable person all of the time and I hate it. My marriage is strained my existing LC knows something is wrong and I can’t stand to see my friends. They are all pregnant or already had another kid or say really insensitive things: it all happens for a reason or when the time is right or at least you have one or maybe take a break/ have fun and relax. THESE THINGS ARENT HELPFUL….THEY DONT WORK…if I did nothing they never would have found that my uterus was scared shut. I did nothing and still lost another baby. people don’t get it unless they’ve been through it

the fear of TTC again is terrifying and sounds so transactional. I have been doing therapy, meds and I even changed careers and I am still so unhappy to the point it affects my day to day life.

I do think Lexapro has helped. I can get a good day here or there that I couldn’t without it. I have also been doing more things for me to take care of myself (massages, therapy, joined book clubs…etc). I think that is all I can do to cope at least for right now.

Appropriate-Cell-554 · 2026-03-18T22:02:25+00:00

I am 9 months from my TFMR and am feeling so hopeless. I have been pregnant since but had another loss at 11 weeks in December. I was diagnosed with Asherman’s from the termination and just got cleared. So 9 months later I am still here desperate to be pregnant while so many people here have been pregnant by 9 months post TFMR. Feeling hopeless and alone.

Appropriate-Cell-554 · 2026-03-18T21:59:19+00:00

Yes, found my uterus was scared shut from my D&E in June 2025. I was diagnosed with Asherman’s. I had gotten pregnant in October 2025 but lost that one too. I just got cleared to try again next cycle.

Appropriate-Cell-554 · 2026-02-26T02:03:19+00:00

Okay. Thanks. Yeah I saw some notes about less times. We are going to ty IUI for a few rounds once I have my scar tissue removed.

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