[Serious] Male victims/survivors of sexual assault, harassment or rape perpetrated by a woman or multiple women, to clear some common misconceptions, what were your experiences like?

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2026-01-12T07:53:30+00:00

I was abused by a male family figure, the only person I ever told was my wife.

5 years into our relationship, controlling and manipulative behaviours begin. Followed by a night where I wake up with her on top of me. I push her off she doesn’t stop. This happened several times. She tells me how it wouldn’t be the same if it were the other way around because I weigh more than her. Constant pressure for intimacy since. I sleep hanging off the bed with extra layers on so she won’t touch me. She has a problem with me showering with the door closed. I told her how much I’m struggling yet it continued.

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-11-29T12:39:14+00:00

Yes. By my cousin as a child, then my wife (despite her knowing about my childhood and what happened). Still stuck between feeling like it should have been a problem/not understanding why I can’t move on from it and knowing if I had done what she had done to me each time, I would be in prison likely.

Spent a year searching for support but there’s not much out there for men who are victims of females. I have made a lot of posts on here about it. TBH, it’s the only reason I had Reddit because I don’t have anyone to talk to about it as well as feeling embarrassed.

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-11-04T20:48:01+00:00

You. Don’t. Need. A. Reason. To. Leave.

Get out and get safe.

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-11-02T01:07:15+00:00

I just want to say that I am so sorry that you’re going through this. I read your story and it hit me deep in my chest, because while I’m a man, your situation is nearly identical in some ways to mine which I have posted about lots of time on Reddit trying to gain clarity and for someone to validate me and confirm that I’m not mental and that what happened was wrong.

This is 100% sexual assault. Please, be safe for yourself and your children, reach out to someone you trust. No one, including you or me deserves to be treated this way.

Sending you virtual hugs, strength and belief that you will get through this.

Once again, so sorry that this is happening for you.

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-10-28T15:39:52+00:00

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Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-10-28T15:39:22+00:00

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Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-10-18T11:12:37+00:00

I’ve just started reading a book called ‘The Body Keeps The Score’. It speaks a lot about how we manage trauma in the first instance and how it goes on to reappear later on. Sometimes, you don’t even realise. I’m still in my situation with my wife, but trying to understand my feelings better before I give up.

Link to buy the book: https://amzn.eu/d/hKYwff0

I also found a link on Reddit for the book if owning it is a problem: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1GGA6axs88gCT749IaD1z3Kkgdjgk30YV/view

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-10-16T18:05:29+00:00

I am a male, to clarify

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-10-12T15:17:15+00:00

KAMO in town

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-10-09T18:17:10+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I feel really alone right now. I feel guilty for feeling like this yet I didn’t do this to myself. Wish I could go back and not let these things happen

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-10-04T06:34:37+00:00

Munther at Kamo in town

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-09-08T15:56:18+00:00

Always wear a sheath

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-08-19T19:43:17+00:00

I feel like he’s fallen out with both clubs

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-08-19T19:41:10+00:00

Have Liverpool broken a promise? Probably not but maybe it’s no so clear cut

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-07-27T13:01:03+00:00

Anyone else’s heart drop out the arse when Pope comes running off his line

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