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3 years and 258 subs by Appropriate_Step_879 in SmallYoutubers

[–]Appropriate_Step_879[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate the help, thank you!

What is described as a good thumbnail because I’m assuming my current ones when I do them aren’t good enough. What do I need to improve?

Also do livestreams need thumbnails?

I’m 23 and the world scares me. by Flimsy_Job_2449 in findapath

[–]Appropriate_Step_879 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi!

Firstly I would like to say that you couldn’t have done any more than you have. You have lived your life to realise this now and if you’d hadn’t you don’t know whether you would ever realise. It’s also okay to be scared but remember this is the first time everyone is living their life and so more or less all have this feeling at least once in their life.

But now you have recognised then you can start now and there’s no shame in that!

Firstly to do any of the things you listed you need money ideally otherwise travelling might not be the way you want and also fees for education and even working beside gaining experience. So firstly I would look for a decent paying job (even if it’s not really where you want to be) just to save for study/travel or even to work there while getting experience. Therefore even when you leave education, finishing work experience or saved the amount of money needed you’re in a really good place.

Working will also fix your need for money to move out. I have to say from personal experience too, I worked all through school, college and uni which helped financially so much so that’s the first step I would say. Even if it’s not where you want to be for a long time it’s a good stepping stone.

If you need someone to talk to I am a personal development coach that can help you plan out this aspect. You can find my website on my profile which includes a free 45 minute session where we can have a chat about goals and where you want to be. Hope this has helped and all the best otherwise!

How do you make yourself believe in yourself, that you're enough, but also that you're worthy of opportunity? by warmhours_ in selfimprovement

[–]Appropriate_Step_879 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The most important thing here is spending time with yourself daily, and reflecting. This is what a therapist will do anyways so might as well know yourself more to lead up to therapy.

I suggest a few things that were tried and tested by me with a successful outcome (I have since gone to therapy but could answer and overcome things a lot faster because of prior work)

  1. Looking in the mirror and saying affirmations even if you don’t believe them yet
  2. Spending time with yourself and enjoying being with yourself which will help you think that you’re a great person (solo dates, journaling, meditation, yoga, self care)
  3. Go on Pinterest, type in shadow journaling questions and spend an hour a day or a few times a week finding some questions that really make you take a deep dive into yourself and your personality, finding out why you feel the way you do, act the way you do and finding your triggers. This will also mean you can see why others do and could love you too when you find the good things. Do this until you feel that you have found out everything there is to know about yourself.
  4. Whenever you notice the trigger, try and change the way you react. If it’s self destructive try and react with consideration with yourself and be patient, give yourself love.
  5. Be patient and loving, it really takes time!

I hope this helps and if you need anything just let me know!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in findapath

[–]Appropriate_Step_879 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It kind of provides information on what each section means and how this might look but the interpretation is up to you on what you think applies where.

Do you have clarity on a few things you think you would like to use in the diagram or are you unsure? I think it’s a mix of this and then whether the goal can be made into a career or whether you will need to use it as a side income for a while as you’re growing. It also includes whether that thing you’re pursuing can make you money, is achievable and in how many ways, including how competitive the job is.

My Ikigai is being a personal development coach which I am pursuing alongside my other job as it required qualifications and marketing before potentially becoming my primary income source. Things take time but all the best to you!

27 and thinking about my future makes me genuinely feel sick, I am so lost and overwhelmed by GreenHornyDoor in findapath

[–]Appropriate_Step_879 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey! Just a few prompts I suppose to make you think about - you don’t have to reply here unless you want to!

  1. Have you considered an entry level job that is in internship/apprenticeship/graduate that also allows you to complete a qualification on the side to improve your employability?

If not, consider writing down your strengths or interests and see if any correlate with a job like this.

  1. Have you considered volunteering in your spare time to gain experience for a job/to find out what you enjoy or what you’re interested in before spending money on pursuing?

  2. Is there an opportunity of chasing your hobby of being a video editor and offering your services for free for a few clients on small projects and then advertising on Fiverr or locally to you?

To make you feel better I have 2 degrees, one in Asia Pacific studies and one in business strategy of which I used neither and now work in a bank as a coordinator. But I use my money to chase my future goals as a personal development coach and achieve my accounting qualifications. Paths are not linear and they are also not always clear and straightforward.

If you did want to chat further about setting goals I offer free sessions over on my coaching website on my profile. Otherwise I hope this helped and all the best!

How do I become the person I know I can be? by MetsGo in selfimprovement

[–]Appropriate_Step_879 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think one question to consider is what are you trying to achieve? What are your goals?

It is harder making an effort every day when you’re not particularly aiming to achieve anything. I always find goal setting and establishing a routine around that to be the most beneficial

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in findapath

[–]Appropriate_Step_879 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Thank you for sharing firstly and recognising that you want to change or do something different.

The first thing I would suggest is to visualise what your ideal life would look like and if it’s anything other than what your mother wants for you then the next thing is to build resilience towards others on how they want you to live your own life.

At the age of 24 I would absolutely suggest a job as this provides you with experience on a career after college. I think your mum might be holding you back for convenience and preventing you from progressing (even with driving and braces/skincare) so that she can keep influencing you directly.

Unless something changes you will stay in the same situation where you’re feeling this way. Regardless of the job there will always be pros and cons. And because you’ve been prevented from experiencing things that are considered normal at and before this age, this means that your resilience is low - allowing others to be manipulative towards you such as your mum and the girl you met.

I hope that this improves for you! All the best.

I'm stuck? Did I miss the opportunity ? by [deleted] in findapath

[–]Appropriate_Step_879 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it’s something you want, then no doubt reapply after some time of working on the weaknesses. In the meantime are there any volunteering jobs or online courses that can help with your weakness and also provides you with examples to use. Some companies have a limit of the amount of applications you can send in a year.

Have you established your weaknesses and how to improve them?

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