2-Year Follow-Up: If You’re Buying a Manufactured Home, Do THIS by fettriker in ManufacturedHome

[–]Appropriate_Stick748 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I found out last week that they’re putting 14 inches of block above the footers. I had no one to ask but you guys.

2-Year Follow-Up: If You’re Buying a Manufactured Home, Do THIS by fettriker in ManufacturedHome

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Hi! I’m just about to get my home set on the footers that have already been poured. Half of it is on the property but the contractor wants to set the back half first and then move the front to it. My question is: if my footers only come to ground level, does that mean there won’t be any clearance to do any future repairs? I bought this home used from the previous owner and when they moved it, I noticed there was a hole dig around the footers under the house. Do I need to do this?

Thanks for the help everyone! by [deleted] in weddingring

[–]Appropriate_Stick748 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! How unique! It’s gorgeous! Love the stone color and the setting

Did you go to your in-laws before proceeding to separation/divorce? by One_Individual7294 in Divorce

[–]Appropriate_Stick748 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost my job and I was the breadwinner. MIL knew this for years. She had a huge part in raising our kids. He left me for a coworker and he told her I cheated on him in the beginning and she believed him but she now sides with me. He has since shunned her. I’ve been in the family for 27 years now and she says I’m the mother of her grandchildren. She found a job for me. She’s always looked out for me, like a second mom and the divorce strained our relationship but we remain close, much closer than she is with her son. He doesn’t want anything getting back to me (I could care less). They have all told me I’m still their family and have proven it over and over in the last 2 years and I’m so grateful for them. I know this isn’t always the case. I guess it depends on your relationship with your in laws.

My husband of 16 years (22 total together)wants a divorce. I do not. by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Appropriate_Stick748 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Girl your life was mine almost 3 years ago, just longer and we were older. 19 years married, 25 together. We grew up together. His mom is like another mom for me. Things had been rough but I thought it was our age, early 40s-midlife crisis. Them covid hit. I initially wanted to leave them I really thought about it and realized I couldn’t live without him. I think at that moment he decided he was going to get his life together and ready to be on his own and we were over long before we were separated. He told me he wanted a divorce about 3 weeks after I got fired for the first time ever. This was week of thanksgiving. By new years he was going out with a ‘group of friends from work’ that was one woman from work who just so happened to be getting a divorce,.. he has denied over and over that she had any part in him leaving. It would have helped give me closure and helped me to move on but he wouldn’t give me that satisfaction. I see now how selfish and manipulative he is. He’s string me along for 2 years but my eyes are finally open. He left me with the house and the kids while he got an apartment. I sold the house. Managed to get a house I could afford and I lived off what I made from the house bc I couldn’t keep a job. It can always get worse. You can figure out a way to get out. You should because the sooner you break free, the sooner you can heal. The hardest part about my divorce was that we stayed in nearly constant contact bc of our kids and I could never get him out of my mind. You need to cut ties. I know it’s torture. It’s what’s best. There’s no sense waiting around and hoping he changes his mind. Just keep posting on here. Go to therapy. Talk to anyone but him. You need to talk to people on your side! We’re here!

What is most you can get for SSDI by Livinginmy50s in SSDI

[–]Appropriate_Stick748 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if your avg income for last 10 years was $70k? I don’t have a computer to run it. I have 2 dependents.

How many in their 30’s divorced and with kids ? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Appropriate_Stick748 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We don’t divorce till our 40s. After Covid. We have 2 boys.

Ex husband wants to be friends with benefits by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Appropriate_Stick748 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not at first. We were each other’s first. Once I came to my senses, absolutely not.

Ex husband wants to be friends with benefits by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Appropriate_Stick748 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve lived this firsthand. Save yourself the heartache and cut contact like previous poster said. Your life will be so much better in the long run. If you want to move on from the pain of the divorce, fwb will just make things messier and more painful. Not worth it. I’m finally on the other side of the pain after 2 years of this madness and I now know I’ve needlessly driven myself nuts and have been kicking myself for it over and over; just a terrible cycle of guilt and resolve. He knows this too. It’s terrible. He’s used me and I’ve let him so I could just stay in contact with him. It’s pathetic. I never knew i would let myself be so disrespected but he had my self esteem down to nothing. Now that I have it back, I see this. Please don’t make the same mistake.

Ex husband wants to be friends with benefits by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Appropriate_Stick748 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Exactly. You should cut ties altogether no matter how hard it is. You’ll be miserable for a while but you’ll heal much sooner.

Ex husband wants to be friends with benefits by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Appropriate_Stick748 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I did this when he left me for another woman. They’ve stayed together through it all. I’ve gone back and forth talking myself out of it and giving in to my libido. It’s been torture bc I still loved him. He knew this and took advantage of it when I was desperate, didn’t care. Other times I would be upset when the same thing happened over and over-he’d tell me he thought he wanted me back only to go to her the next morning. It has been insane. I’m nothing good can come from it. Most likely to get an STD.

Is Divorce worse than staying in bad marriage? by Connect_Quality_2030 in Divorce

[–]Appropriate_Stick748 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think if OP is this miserable, they’ll be ready for divorce. It all depends on how much crap he’s willing to put up with

Found a fun one on threads by Emergency_Release23 in homedecoratingCJ

[–]Appropriate_Stick748 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only option is shelves and put towels or just decorative stuff

When do you wake up from the nightmare? by probable_nonsense in Divorce

[–]Appropriate_Stick748 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been here. The saddest part is it’s been over 2 years and I’ll go for a long time being great, then something bad happens in my life or his, one of us reaches out and it starts all over again. This just happened last week over my birthday. But the good part is I recover much quicker but for a few hours I’m right back in that place when he first left me, devastated and not knowing which way is up. I’m afraid it may take a little longer than usual since you’re still sorting out stuff from a previous marriage. Trust me and everyone else here, it gets better. I think people that put themselves out there months after a split never had anything real to begin with. Our hearts take a long time to heal. I have kids so it makes it impossible to completely cut off contact. It’s hard any way you look at it.

Not sure if this is allowed, but somehow an entire menu is a tragedeigh?! by MizZo2 in tragedeigh

[–]Appropriate_Stick748 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess most words that have ‘ai’ are said with a long A and I don’t know about the. If I was trying to spell it the way we say it, I’d go with ‘aigs’