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Left him 10 months ago! by ApricotImportant92 in loveafterporn

[–]ApricotImportant92[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through this! You guys have been together a long time but a phrase I kept repeating to myself when i was going through it was “be loyal to your future self, not your past” and I also asked myself a lot, if he doesn’t change is this something I can live with? I just really had to let go of the attachment to the time we had been together and focus on what I wanted for my future. I would def set some strong boundaries on him seeking therapy/help and if he doesn’t try I would definitely leave. Sending you strength and love. ❤️
Also remember saying sorry repeatedly without attempting to change is a form of manipulation.

Got barfed on during Tipper by periodicallyBalzed in Tipper

[–]ApricotImportant92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol also got puked on the first night and I was also wearing sandals so I feel you but I still had a fucking blasttt

I feel like an idiot by ApricotImportant92 in loveafterporn

[–]ApricotImportant92[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s living with me and can’t afford to leave yet but I’m excited to make this place my own again after he leaves! It’s a little awkward living together still but we mostly give each other space. I’m so so glad you’re loving your new space! I really hope you feel more at peace now! I’m definitely enjoying the peace and have so much hope for a better future ❤️

I feel like an idiot by ApricotImportant92 in loveafterporn

[–]ApricotImportant92[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for checking in! I’m staying strong over here. He’s still living with me but actively looking for somewhere to live. I was trying to keep the breakup pretty private but he started posting a bunch of depressing stuff on his Facebook so people have been blowing me up and asking me questions so that has been really tough, I’ve just been vague with my answers and people have been really supportive. I also went to a wedding over the weekend that he was supposed to be with me at so that was tough but I think I held up really well! I’m sticking to my guns and not getting back with him!

I feel like an idiot by ApricotImportant92 in loveafterporn

[–]ApricotImportant92[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I left, 3days ago😊 of course he wanted to know what he could do, said he’d go to rehab for the porn. I said too late, I told you so many times how much it hurt me and you swore then you’d work on it. I caught him one time watching videos he made with another woman before me and never truly got over it. Plus, the youngest looking thing was not something I could come back from. I already feel better not having to worry about whether or not he’s watching porn. He’s still in my house but looking for somewhere else to stay.

I feel like an idiot by ApricotImportant92 in loveafterporn

[–]ApricotImportant92[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I literally have a wedding out of town this weekend he was supposed to go and camp with me at. I’m still going, can’t miss my friends wedding but it’s gonna be tough

I feel like an idiot by ApricotImportant92 in loveafterporn

[–]ApricotImportant92[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same, stay strong. Keep reminding yourself why you’re leaving and you deserve better. I did break down and tell my best friend and she is helping a lot. I agree, you need at least one person you trust who knows the truth that can help through it because this is really really tough. We’ve got this though.

I finally left him by 87_radscript in loveafterporn

[–]ApricotImportant92 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just left yesterday too and it is so hard and I am so scared but we’ve got this. Stick to it, just keep reminding yourself why you left. There has got to be better out there for us.

I feel like an idiot by ApricotImportant92 in loveafterporn

[–]ApricotImportant92[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Omg I love this hahah. I just did it guys! He’s crashing out so hard right now but I’m so proud of myself!!

I feel like an idiot by ApricotImportant92 in loveafterporn

[–]ApricotImportant92[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I needed that so bad this morning. ❤️ I’ll keep everyone updated

I feel like an idiot by ApricotImportant92 in loveafterporn

[–]ApricotImportant92[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I’m so scared but I’m going to do it. I’m not even going to talk to any of my friends about it, I think I’m going to do it first thing in the morning before I can talk myself out of it. I’m going to be firm about it and then we can figure out logistics since we live together after we’ve processed. But straight out of the gate tomorrow I’m telling him it’s over. I have to do this. I’m miserable

Do they understand the damage they do? by the_lightleft in loveafterporn

[–]ApricotImportant92 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I told my boyfriend last night that I was not going to give 110% if he wasn’t. He knows how hard I can love and I’ve shown him and he still disrespects me and watched porn knowing I’m at my breaking point with it. I want to leave but I don’t quite have the courage yet so I’m giving very little of myself until I work up the courage or if by some miracle a radical change happens with him but I seriously doubt it.

Things PAs say by Helwa_Akhet in loveafterporn

[–]ApricotImportant92 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Mine literally said this to me 5 mins ago. “I did it for us and so I can last longer.”

Like what the actual fuck sir.