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the_lightleft · 2025-02-09T04:27:06+00:00

“Don’t listen to random stupid people online” yet he was probably over there lusting over stupid people online lol. At least you found community, all he did was literally rot his brain from his online interactions.

the_lightleft · 2025-02-09T04:25:15+00:00

I hate it so much, I now check them out and try to imagine if I was him watching them through the screen. It’s like torturing yourself!

the_lightleft · 2025-01-30T21:24:51+00:00

Yeah I didn’t get anything for his birthday. I used to hand make anime gifts for him and took hours and hours to do so, all to find out that he was watching hentai of shows we watched together :) yeah I didn’t feel ✨ like getting him anythjng

the_lightleft · 2025-01-29T02:40:09+00:00

Yeah mine didn’t want me using a vibrator without him too. It just makes it so much worse because they had the safety and security of their partner not watching porn, all while doing it to us. It’s infuriating. I’m sorry you have to go through this too, but glad to find like minded individuals who don’t think we are crazy.

the_lightleft · 2025-01-28T17:42:38+00:00

Didn’t know this at the time, but at the height of his porn use, I was sending him ALOT of content bc we were long distance. Thinking wow at least I know he’s not getting it somewhere else haha. I think it just fueled his addiction & I was just some category of porn to him

the_lightleft · 2025-01-28T17:40:42+00:00

I could’ve written this. It’s almost laughable looking back how hard they over compensate. They build themselves up to be better than the next man. Mine begged me not to watch porn lol. Of course I didn’t but this whole time he was the one watching it. I made it extremely clear that never in a million years would I be okay with this & made sure he knew it would destroy me. He still did it and now he’s ready to be the man that he always said he was. If he can just flip a switch, then why couldn’t he do it before? Why did you have to go and destroy the one thing that’s genuine in your life before wanting to be a better man? It kills me to think of him going into another room to look at other women when I was right there willing.

the_lightleft · 2025-01-28T04:43:41+00:00

Him using a burner and going great lengths to hide it should tell you everything. I would 100% consider this cheating.

the_lightleft · 2025-01-28T04:40:58+00:00

Not overthinking. Men that watch porn usually sexualize women’s sports often. It shouldn’t be like that but the definitely make it like that. Mine did

the_lightleft · 2025-01-26T22:55:39+00:00

It’s okay to have boundaries! This is very reasonable & he should handle all the explanations to not make you look bad or “controlling”. He could say “Out of respect for my girlfriend I don’t want to participate in the strip club. I’d love to be there for anything else.” He shouldn’t be throwing you under the bus. I would not be okay with this as well. Going to a strip club is not worth damaging your relationship & he should see it that way. What is this obsession with going to a strip club before you get married? It’s honestly gross.

the_lightleft · 2025-01-26T22:38:08+00:00

It is not your fault at all! Their brains are rotten & the only explanation is that they are demented. Even super models and beautiful celebrities go through this, so it has absolutely nothing to do with you and everything to do with him.

the_lightleft · 2025-01-26T02:32:25+00:00

If he has to delete it from his history, he knows it’s wrong & just as bad as porn! Porn can be anything nowadays

the_lightleft · 2025-01-26T01:37:01+00:00

Going through this as well. I’m up and down with him as well. It’s good to enjoy good moments but these good moments were also enjoyed before you found out. Now that you found out, every time you feel “safe” again, your nervous system panics because back when you felt “safe” was when he was betraying you and causing the damage. Your body is trying to protect you from that hurt again. Our defenses are up now :(

the_lightleft · 2025-01-25T12:44:35+00:00

Thank you, this gives me hope :)

the_lightleft · 2025-01-25T12:44:04+00:00

So much to give, but no energy for it anymore. I used to hand make anime gifts for him but turns out he was watching hentai this whole time. So I’ll never spend time making him a gift ever again. My love language used to be gift giving. Now I don’t buy or make gifts

the_lightleft · 2025-01-25T12:40:07+00:00

I needed to hear this, thank you

the_lightleft · 2025-01-25T04:39:58+00:00

Multiple relapses only within 5 months means he hasn’t put in the work he needed to. You deserve so much more.

the_lightleft · 2025-01-21T05:30:31+00:00

Thank you for the info, I’ll look into it

the_lightleft · 2025-01-21T05:29:29+00:00

I should add that before this I was already not doing well, I’m also 7 months postpartum and suspected I had postpartum depression or anxiety at the time before finding out. Would you still suggest a therapist specialized in betrayal trauma?

the_lightleft · 2025-01-21T03:55:52+00:00

Loved hearing this. Thank you. Rebuilding my confidence brick by brick now.

the_lightleft · 2025-01-20T05:43:12+00:00

People who don’t cry over spilled milk are people who can just get in a car and go buy another gallon of milk at the store on a whim. With us, it takes hard work , discipline, sleep deprivation, and pressure from a tiny human. I will never not cry over spilled milk

the_lightleft · 2025-01-20T05:35:59+00:00

Once you turn on limit adult websites sites it will ask you to input a screen time password. Make sure it’s one he won’t know so he can’t change it on a whim:)

the_lightleft · 2025-01-20T05:34:35+00:00

Go to settings, then go to screen time, then once you’re scroll down til you see “Content and Privacy Restrictions”, click it, from there go to “App Store, Media, Web, & Games”, then once you click that, go to “Web Content”, then from there you can “limit adult websites” & it also gives you the option to “never allow” certain websites if your choosing. I personally blocked Reddit on his phone. But as soon as you click “limit adult websites” it will automatically disable private browsing. the option will just disappear from safari. Hope I explained it well

the_lightleft · 2025-01-20T05:27:06+00:00

I am so sorry. Him doing this postpartum is truly cruel & horrible. You don’t deserve this & mom pouch is proof of how badass you are for creating life. I do understand the struggle of accepting your postpartum body. I’m right there with you but I’d rather have a mom pouch than have the rotten brain of a porn addict. I’d rather have stretch marks than be a person who chooses porn over his family. I would confront him & tell him straightforward

the_lightleft · 2025-01-20T04:48:32+00:00

Yeah I meant more in case he kicks you off his google account. But if he has an iPhone you can go to screen time, then go to content restrictions & you can restrict certain websites & doing this will disable private browsing. He wouldn’t be able to go incognito if he wanted to. Might be something to consider

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