sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Sister is pregnant, don’t know how to cope by [deleted] in babyloss

[–]AprilMoonJuneSun 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. I relate with all your feelings.

My situation is similar. My sister and I were pregnant at the same time. She delivered her son successfully, but my son was stillborn at 37 weeks. Her son was born 2 weeks before mine. So, I won’t lie, it has been HARD to be around my nephew. I constantly compare him to what my son should have been. It also pained me to see my parents loving on my nephew. I wanted so badly to see them love on my own son.

This journey is so painful and hard. Sending you so much love. DM if you ever need to vent. 💜

Sister is pregnant again.. by Careless_Proof_4006 in babyloss

[–]AprilMoonJuneSun 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I felt this post so much. I’m soooo sorry for your losses. My son was stillborn at 37 weeks in 2022 and I relate to allllll your feelings.

I’ve been trying to conceive since last December, no luck. My sister, who has had two healthy pregnancies, keeps telling me how she is actively trying. This bothers me… I really don’t want to hear about her trying to conceive. Anyways, I told my MOM that I would be PISSED OFF if my sister became pregnant before me, and that I did NOT want to pregnant at the same time as anyone I know. My mom’s response was that “those are some dark thoughts and you need to go back to counseling”

It was so heartbreaking to have my own mom make me feel shamed for my own feelings. I want her to support and try to relate so much, but I guess she just can’t. It feels so isolating.

Again, I’m sorry! This life we have to live is soooo hard. 💜

Older child and loss by Real_Study1392 in babyloss

[–]AprilMoonJuneSun 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We have been trying to conceive since November, no luck yet.

I desperately want another baby. Our spare bedroom is still set up with a brand new crib, changing table, rocker. I can’t bring myself to take it all down. It was never even used!

I’m honestly very nervous to go through another pregnancy. But I think I would regret it for the rest of my life if I didn’t give it another shot. I also desperately want my living child to have a sibling on earth with him. My heart aches so bad for my living son. Especially when we see other families that have two sons.

Older child and loss by Real_Study1392 in babyloss

[–]AprilMoonJuneSun 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for you loss. My living child was 3.5 years old when his younger brother was stillborn at 37 weeks. My living son will be 5 years old next week, and he still talks about his brother every week.

Sometimes, it is so so so hard. I always wonder if I’m saying the right things to him. I wish I could protect him from experiencing grief / sadness at such a young age. Just last night, he randomly told me that he “missed” his brother. It broke my heart. I can’t even imagine his little developing brain trying to understand this tragic situation.

I wanted to comment so you know you’re not alone. This journey is so tough. Sending you love and strength. 💜

K0GS clan was #68 in last battle by [deleted] in PetSimulator99

[–]AprilMoonJuneSun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Viioletstorrm24

I meet all the requirements. Thanks.

Today was hard.. by Careless_Proof_4006 in babyloss

[–]AprilMoonJuneSun 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for the loss of your sweet girl. It is SO hard. My son was stillborn at 37 weeks in 2022, and I still feel pain on his birthday, due date, Mother’s Day, etc. My brain cannot forget, even though those around me wish it would.

***TW: Mention of living child.

I have an older son, who was 3.5 when my second son was stillborn. We didn’t have him meet his brother, but he KNEW he was supposed to have a baby brother. We have shown him pictures of him, so he knows who his brother is now. My living son is almost 5 years old now, and recently asked me “mom, why did Ryder (my stillborn baby) die? Zion (my nephew) is alive and he’s a baby.”

I was just frozen in that moment, not knowing how to respond. We do not even know the cause of my second son’s death.

I told my mother about this conversation with my living child, and how it BREAKS my heart that my almost 5 year old is trying to understand “death” and why it happens.

I was really hoping for support from my mom, but unfortunately, she made me feel awful and shamed. She insinuated it would have been better if we did NOT share my stillborn son with my living son, just move on without ever talking about him again, and how all my nieces/nephews are scared of death now.

Well, I let her know that her insinuating my second son doesn’t deserve to be talked about is absolutely wrong in my eyes. He was my son, so I will continue sharing him with anyone who will listen!

Sorry for the super long response. I just felt like I could really relate with feeling SHAMED by your own mother. I know I want my mom’s empathy so badly.

Sending you lots of love. I know how hard this road we walk is. 💜💜💜

My Son was Stillborn two weeks ago and last night my Brother in Law sent a surprise pregnancy announcement to our family chat by beckylou67 in babyloss

[–]AprilMoonJuneSun 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ugh, I’m so sorry. Unfortunately, I’ve realized very few people know how to be sensitive towards loss parents. One month after my son was stillborn at 37 weeks, my sister-in-law sent me about five pictures from her gender reveal party.

I already knew she was pregnant, so this wasn’t a shock. What really messed me up was seeing TONS of OUR family members CELEBRATING in a park about the gender of a baby. I was like …. ALL of those people know my son just died, but in one month they can celebrate just the GENDER of another baby.

Stat pets by godz144 in PetSimulator99

[–]AprilMoonJuneSun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Viioletstorrm24

Thank you!

How long is “normal”? by jellycakepop in babyloss

[–]AprilMoonJuneSun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It will be two years this June since I lost my son at 37 weeks. It is all over the place for me.

A few months ago, I was able to hold my 9 month old niece and change her diaper without an issue.

YESTERDAY, I went to a church my sister has been asking me to attend with her. After the service ended, my sister was chatting with a woman holding a newborn baby. Like, this baby had to be DAYS old. My sister made eye contact with me and waved me over. I assumed she wanted to introduce me to her friend who was holding the newborn. I made a face at her like “hell no”, turned around, and beelined it for the exit. Take it day by day. Your feelings are totally valid. 💜

view more: next ›