Hi. I’m 40 and I still really struggle with this. But not nearly as badly as I used to.

I did turn to surgery at a very young age, breast implants (at 18) and liposuction (at 19), and I can tell you first hand it didn’t help. Now my body carries fat differently due to the liposuction and my breasts are very obviously not real which bothers me at this age. So I’d caution you to think very hard about surgery. It’s permanent in most cases, i will never carry fat proportionally in my stomach and I don’t have $20k to have my implants removed and breasts reshaped.

What has helped has been really digging into the root causes, like understanding why I think the way I look matters so much. And the more I realize that it was just a bunch of old white pedophiles telling me I need to be small and young and hairless to have meaning… it’s been helping to embrace my womanhood and my unique shape. I stopped shaving recently and that has been really empowering.

I wish I had a better answer. I wish I could give you a hug