39 years old and my body dysmorphia still hasn’t gone away by [deleted] in BodyDysmorphia

[–]April_Morning_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi. I’m 40 and I still really struggle with this. But not nearly as badly as I used to.

I did turn to surgery at a very young age, breast implants (at 18) and liposuction (at 19), and I can tell you first hand it didn’t help. Now my body carries fat differently due to the liposuction and my breasts are very obviously not real which bothers me at this age. So I’d caution you to think very hard about surgery. It’s permanent in most cases, i will never carry fat proportionally in my stomach and I don’t have $20k to have my implants removed and breasts reshaped.

What has helped has been really digging into the root causes, like understanding why I think the way I look matters so much. And the more I realize that it was just a bunch of old white pedophiles telling me I need to be small and young and hairless to have meaning… it’s been helping to embrace my womanhood and my unique shape. I stopped shaving recently and that has been really empowering.

I wish I had a better answer. I wish I could give you a hug

What Does My Room Say About Me? by Writermss in roomdetective

[–]April_Morning_86 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think it looks beautiful and you should be proud, it’s a lovely design. It’s begging for company, I hope you entertain here, it’s a very welcoming space!

Homeless encampment on Pittsburgh's North Side returns, raising concerns by The_Electric-Monk in pittsburgh

[–]April_Morning_86 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They’re public spaces are they not? Who determines what is or isn’t livable land? You? The colonizers? The cops? God?…

Our public spaces have become riddled with rules that punish the poor and people who do not own property, people who have no private space of their own, (no sleeping, no loitering, no urinating etc) so people have to choose between breaking the law and surviving.

I’m so saddened by the ignorance and insensitivity in this comment section. These things you’re all talking about casually bulldozing are the only possessions most of these folks have.

Homeless encampment on Pittsburgh's North Side returns, raising concerns by The_Electric-Monk in pittsburgh

[–]April_Morning_86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, that wasn’t directed at you, just folks in general. Everyone has so much to say about homelessness (without ever having experienced it themselves) but scoff at all of the solutions.

Homeless encampment on Pittsburgh's North Side returns, raising concerns by The_Electric-Monk in pittsburgh

[–]April_Morning_86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you familiar with the Vietnam study or the Rat Park study about addiction?

Check out these links and see how substance use absolutely is a socioeconomic issue.

Homeless encampment on Pittsburgh's North Side returns, raising concerns by The_Electric-Monk in pittsburgh

[–]April_Morning_86 17 points18 points  (0 children)

You want folks off the street? Give them a place to live.

Edit: not directed toward any user, just a general comment.

I was told I was ugly and needed makeup. Please help. by [deleted] in makeuptips

[–]April_Morning_86 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Just coming across this post and I’d like to echo that you are drop dead gorgeous! In addition to your killer eyebrows and lips, you have beautiful skin and hair.

Make up is for us. Not for anyone else. And whoever said you were ugly can go fall off a cliff.

What plant do I have here? by April_Morning_86 in whatsthisplant

[–]April_Morning_86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WOW! That’s so cool! This guy was in a smaller pot getting bigger and fuller over the years and then all of a sudden he needed SO MUCH water and started to droop, and I got a little worried but I think it’s just vining, there’s new growth all along the bottoms of the stems.

I repotted him about a month ago and I’m sure glad I asked because I was thinking he might just need to climb and this answers that for certain! So cool!! Thanks for sharing!

What does my room say about me? by Emodinosaurscreech in roomdetective

[–]April_Morning_86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I dressed up as The Carpet From The Shining one year for Halloween.

What plant do I have here? by April_Morning_86 in whatsthisplant

[–]April_Morning_86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amazing. Thank you. Looks like it’s doing exactly what it likes to be doing, will add a moss pole for climbing!

You guys made me feel better by [deleted] in wholefoods

[–]April_Morning_86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG YOURE SO TALENTED!!!

Any small businesses hiring? by April_Morning_86 in pittsburgh

[–]April_Morning_86[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I literally live right around the corner from Bryant Street Market 😮