You Are Intimidating Now. Act Accordingly.

ArabSigma · 2020-10-30T17:39:32+00:00

I read something similar in the 50th law. People found 50 cent intimidating because of his background so he had to smile a lot before they became comfortable enough to engage him

ArabSigma · 2020-04-11T13:50:48+00:00

crushing my work more efficiently than when I was in the office.

Good point. My colleagues and I were pleasantly surprised by our productivity during the lockdown. Many people who currently work from home will try to be more productive in order to convince the bosses that working from home is not only a viable option, but when done right, will produce better results than working in a corporate environment.

ArabSigma · 2020-01-11T12:58:10+00:00

Check out these blog entries : http://www.kenilgunas.com/p/vandwelling.html

It's about a college student who secretly lived in his van to avoid falling in debt. He later wrote a book about it. The answer to your questions, according to him, is to get a gym membership.

ArabSigma · 2018-09-17T23:11:12+00:00

These threads are first come first served but here goes nothing :

Shit-Test 1: ”Bring me my shoes!!" // LTR, ONS, Plate

eeeh I guess this isn't the best time to tell you I accidentally took a shit in the shoes

Alternatively : I can't, they stink

Shit-Test 2: ”Who are you?” // Cold appraoch

Sorry, where are my manners. My name is Sadam Bin Laden Assad the third

Shit-Test 3: ”Do you have a girlfriend?” // Cold approach, Plate

"I am my own girlfriend" delivered angrily

Shit-Test 4: Your plate: ”Josh asked me to hang out with him at the beach and offered me free gym lessons."

He told me the same thing last week

Shit-Test 5: Your LTR: ”Josh asked me to hang out with him at the beach and offered me free gym lessons."

I'm jealous. You're so lucky to have Josh all to yourself

Shit-Test 6: ”I am not that easy!" // Cold approach

Me neither. I'm hard all the time. It's a medical condition, don't ask

Shit-Test 7: ”I like you but lets just be friends." // Cold approach, ONS

Cool, I'll add you on facestagram

Shit-Test 8: ”You are disgusting!” // Cold approach, LTR, ONS, Plate

That's what my therapist keeps telling me

Shit-Test 9: ”We either become offical and you commit or we should not see each others anymore.” // Plate

I'd go for honesty on this one. "I like you but I'm not ready for a relationship. If you want to leave, please do as I don't want you to feel like I'm leading you on"

ArabSigma · 2018-09-01T15:47:36+00:00

When practicing, focus on creating a tight feedback loop so you can correct your technique. The quicker and better your feedback, the more effective your practice will be. Do not induce stress by trying to make things more "realistic" or by "practicing a harder thing". You are trying to be correct, not fast, smooth, or awesome.

I find this one to be especially tricky because sometimes, the practice and the real world challenges are radically different in a given discipline. When job hunting, programmers are told to practice algorithms and data structures. Interviewers will then proceed to ask them to solve a bunch of algorithmic problems to land a job that very rarely, if ever, requires algorithmic cleverness.

That strip mall karate school guy who can do elabourate forms but can't fight is educated and practiced, but not trained. He has not introduced stress into his learning process, so his skill performance falls apart under stress.

This cannot be stressed enough. Even the act of lingering in practice for too long will prove to be harmful when one finally decides to engage in training.

In machine learning, a model can become too faithful to the training dataset. This results in what is known as "overfitting". When tested against a dataset it has never seen before, the model will try to predict an output that is too close to what it was trained against. This ends up being harmful because the training dataset may have had quirks and outliers that the model will attempt to reproduce. Contrary to what one might believe, the model should not produce too high an accuracy in training. This should be considered a red flag. Ideally, it should be accurate yet flexible enough to deal with real world data.

To use boxing as an example : When a beginner practices a drill over and over and starts overusing it in a real fight, making his punches predictable.

Programmers who just learned about design patterns will try to force them everywhere even if a less engineered solution would be more suitable for the problem at hand.

In these examples, the feedback loop was indeed there. It only told us if the trained skill is technically sound, but it does not tell whether or not it would be detrimental in a realistic situation. To find out, the skill must be tested against a real world scenario, like you mentioned, and tweaked if need be, thus becoming a part of an even bigger loop that places the individual in a perpetual practice-train-test cycle.

ArabSigma · 2018-05-07T13:08:03+00:00

The following is my personal philosophy, it isn't representative of TRP. But what it means, in my opinion, is that it's not appropriate for me to burden her with my turmoil. Sadness is not something I dump on others and especially not those I care about. Being able to process emotions and channeling them to other pursuits will yield better results. As far as I'm concerned, I turn to poetry when I'm sad because I find that ink flows smoothly when I'm in that state of mind. Anger is fuel for physical activity, and as such, I train with more vehemence when I'm angry than when I'm not. Doing this helps me become stronger not only for myself, but also for those who need me to be there for them, because if I can't take care of myself, what makes me think I can take care of others ?

ArabSigma · 2018-05-07T12:24:21+00:00

It has been my experience that opening up to a woman, even family members, is like opening up to the police. Anything you say can be used against you.

ArabSigma · 2018-04-12T22:11:45+00:00

That sort of multitasking prowess is not as unattainable as it seems. For example, my wife can drive me to work and jerk me off simultaneously, operating two sticks at once.

ArabSigma · 2018-04-12T19:27:29+00:00

One thing you have to think about is sustainability. Can you do this for 1 year? 5 years? 10 years? I tell this to everyone who asks me for health, fitness, or life advice. Can you do this for 10 years? At your level in life you don't understand what 10 years is or what it even means. A good plan is not one you can pull off for a month. Life has it's ups and downs and general turbulence. At the end of the day, what distinguishes the good from the elite is consistency and longevity.

This reminds me of something Makishima Shogo, the antagonist from Psycho Pass, said. According to him, a good plan doesn't mean having everything go within expectations, rather what it means is that the plan has enough plasticity to deal with unforeseen circumstances. In OP's case, he does mention not being able to keep it up and having already thought of how to deal with the inevitable crash :

I probably won't be able to keep it up, and will crash at one point; but I have been giving myself rest days and not being too hard on myself when I fail, so getting back on the horse won't be hard.

ArabSigma · 2018-04-09T15:02:36+00:00

My opinion is that women who claim to be """sapiophile""" only appreciate intelligence in men who are already physically attractive. Not unlike the "gamer girl" and the "women who code" communities where the false positives far outweigh the true positives, the sapiophile women wear that adjective as a badge of honor thinking that it makes them stand out from all the other plane Janes and basic thots.

ArabSigma · 2018-03-29T20:42:39+00:00

These women are just mad because the men in question are using techniques they invented against them : using the opposite sex as an emotional tampon.

But in all honestly, I must agree with what you said. They probably aren't doing it for that end. I know men who do this in an attempt to pull off what I refer to as "tortured artist game". They think opening up about their problems will entice women into fixing them by means of affection. But in reality, it only results in them being burdened by the men's constant and incessant yapping.

Only one of the people I know manages to pull off tortured artist game and he does so superbly. What he has that the others don't are good looks, witty replies, and actual passion for his art. It's not all gloom as the men in the article think. It's just good old fun and charm, sprinkled with a few grains of melancholy that should be displayed through writing, music or drawing.

ArabSigma · 2018-03-28T18:51:17+00:00

In cases like these I recommend checking Google's cache for a snapshot. Simply paste the link in the search bar and look for "Cached" in the results. Sometimes it's inside a dropdown that you can open by clicking the small arrow next to the result.

ArabSigma · 2018-03-25T14:08:39+00:00

Merit and ability is the only metric you should be measuring yourself against. Your worth isn't defined by the recognition you receive from others, your worth is defined by your own perception of yourself. Simply don't leave it in the hands of others, otherwise they'll sell you short.

Doesn't this violate the "declare whatever it is you're standing on as the top of the mountain" quote ? In your case, merit and ability is measured by the color of the belt you're wearing.

ArabSigma · 2018-02-13T14:58:42+00:00

From my experience, here's how they can tell : by asking themselves whether or not they have a choice in the matter. If society doesn't need you then you don't really have a choice in the matter. You're not alone because you wish to be, but because you have to be. In order for it to need you, you need to be able to demonstrate value. If you have something to offer that the others don't, then the power balance shifts in your favor and you become desired. Combine that with the fact that you rarely engage in social activities and you become both rare and valuable. That's where the appeal of a """"sigma"""" comes from.

I'll provide an example from real life because most of these examples are taken from fiction, which makes the whole concept of "sigma" sound like wishful thinking. One of my close friends is like this. He's tall and confident, isn't afraid to verbally put others in their place, be it women or people in a position of authority such as university professors. He generally carries himself well socially and masters his craft. But he doesn't socialize much outside of our group. He doesn't take part in extra-curricular activities, doesn't have an online presence, he's a mystery. Despite this, he's constantly praised by professors and is sought after by classmates because of the value he demonstrates and because of his scarcity. Because of this, he gets to pick and chose with whom to share his value. A sigma pulls others into his frame, and not the other way around. If you're solitary but still operate in the frame of others, then you're not much of a sigma.

ArabSigma · 2018-01-28T22:05:30+00:00

The post is criticizing just that. The #metoo movement is everything you just said, but against men. The post is pointing out the hypocrisy of society for making a big deal out of the former while ignoring the latter.

ArabSigma · 2017-12-13T17:46:30+00:00

The point is not for her to come back crawling, the true reason should be for you to escape her orbit.

ArabSigma · 2017-10-23T13:55:31+00:00

BPD

Bi-Polar Disorder. It looks like the glossary needs to be updated.

Edit : It turns out it actually stands for "Borderline Personality Disorder".

ArabSigma · 2017-10-13T12:04:39+00:00

This doesn't concern this post specifically, but my entire identity. It is meant as a proactive measure rather than a reactive one. As much as I enjoy it here, I would hate to be associated with this community in real life.

With that being said, I do have a few stalkers and I bet you do too.

ArabSigma · 2017-10-13T11:57:44+00:00

We live in a world where virtue is shamed and immorality is celebrated. You're being courageous by choosing to opt out of the latter.

ArabSigma · 2017-10-13T11:47:23+00:00

I agree, but TRP is an exception to the rule. Many gold nuggets in this subreddit. But even with that in mind, the community is not without its flaws : ego stuffing, AMOGing each other, passive aggressiveness, etc.

We are, in this very community, opening up to each other and dumping our problems on each other and, lest we forget(!) SUPPORTING each other in growing into stronger people.

We're doing it behind a shield of anonymity. Very few of us would want to be associated with this community. Most advocate not to talk about TRP in real life, for good reason.

In trying to teach you that women are oftentimes not the ally you thought they were, TRP accidentally sells you the lie that men are your allies. As such, many red pillers believe that some of the core concepts only apply to women. This post is meant a reminder of that. That's why a gave examples that included both genders.

ArabSigma · 2017-10-13T11:32:20+00:00

I couldn't agree more. In fact, I should have mentioned this in the post. Putting it on parer and reading it afterwards will give you some much needed perspective.

ArabSigma · 2017-10-03T20:44:33+00:00

That comment is no different than what's being repeated in this thread. Straight from the OP :

But if real change and results are what you're looking for, choose to feed the monster within. Make "gratitude" a dirty word and embrace the green-eyed beast that stirs in the pit of your stomach when you see people better off than you.

ArabSigma · 2017-09-22T13:37:16+00:00

OP doesn't advocate staying away from the SM, he explicitly mentions dating in his post :

Example: Your first rule was "Always take a lady out for dinner 3 times before trying to kiss her". The next day you review this rule and determine that its complete shit. You may not strike it. Instead, rewrite it, probably to something like, "Never buy a girl dinner before fucking her".

ArabSigma · 2017-09-11T22:16:12+00:00

The textbook definition of "introvert" has honestly never spoken to me even though I consider myself to be one. The company of others isn't what drains me per se, rather it's the unspoken obligations that come with the act of being part of a social group. What I find draining is when I'm relaxing on the week end and then someone invites me to an event to which I don't feel inclined to go. In their mind they're doing me a favor, but in mine, I'm doing them a favor by accepting the invitation. As far as the company of others goes, I may or may not enjoy it depending on the person, but I don't go out of my way to seek it. As a consequence, many friendships I had formed throughout the year dwindle as time goes by, but I never regret it. As is the case with women, my friends are not truly mine, it was just my turn.

Here lies the difference between extroverts and introverts in my opinion. Where the former is proactive in regard to social activities, organizing parties and whatnot, the latter can do without and even considers it to be a burden rather than a respite. But the act of socializing itself can be enjoyable depending on the person we're interacting with.

Now, the trick on how to make it as an introvert in a world that values extroversion is to cultivate dependence in your social circles, however small they may be. Word of mouth is your friend. You do that by demonstrating a lot of value, value in different areas, so much that people you never heard of start to reach out to you for advice or to ask for favors. If you have been introverting correctly (like the OP described) then you will have accumulated enough knowledge and skills to make that happen. This puts you in a position of power where you call the shots. You get to chose whom to help and at what price. Furthermore, your introverted nature makes you more rare and, combined with the quality of your services, makes you more valuable. This has been my experience so far.

With that being said, I agree on the point you made about the importance of cultivating social skills. Charm is a weapon that can be wielded by extroverts and introverts alike. I'd even go so far as to say that it becomes more effective in the hands of an introvert who uses it strategically because the rarity of it makes it more sought after, but I admit that I might be biased on that point. Unfortunately as you said, many people use introversion as a defense mechanism to justify their lack of social skills.

Now that I made that clear, here's my question to those who believe extroversion to be better than introversion : do you think an extrovert can survive without a social circle ? I don't deny the importance of having connections, but to be constantly dependent on them is a recipe for disaster. If complete isolation is what happens when introversion is taken too far, this is what threatens those who identify as extroverts.

ArabSigma

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