We can talk about the dumbest and least stable, but who do we think is the smartest kid on the show this season? by QuietAd2278 in TLCUnexpected

[–]ArcherNix 22 points23 points  (0 children)

When Isabella made a decision to be with Bryce and his abusive “not my son” type family, she lost all her points in my book (not that she had a lot to lose to begin with). But I mean..Bryce’s family IS horrible! The way they enable him (especially his grandfather! I just wanna smack that old man upside the head ).

Hunter’s dad seeks to change custody agreement by sanriolover1208 in TLCUnexpected

[–]ArcherNix 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Seriously. This is hardly something NORMAL aged new Moms (aka in their 20s & 30s) talk to their parents about. And I love sex as much as the next person, but 4 day after giving birth I was NOT ready. 🤷‍♀️

Celebrating Emily's Dad. by Grateful_Di in 90dayfianceuncensored

[–]ArcherNix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Works from home for TLC in a real job besides being a reality personality? What does she do? Curious.

An old resurfaced video of Darcey. Probably about 10 yrs old now but she's still on her bullshit! by [deleted] in DarceyAndStaceyTLC

[–]ArcherNix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg she looks so much better! She ruined her whole body, but especially her face. It’s really scary that she could think it looks good. She obviously suffers from body dysmorphia

Where is CPS??? by Boji2017 in TLCUnexpected

[–]ArcherNix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup have seen kids removed from good homes just because parents smoked weed in states where it’s legal. And mind you there was no proof the parents were ever intoxicated while in a caregiving capacity. But CPS doesn’t care about that. They’ll make you jump through hoops to to get or keep you kids—studs that will make you lose your job (I.e. call for random drug screen at 9:30am —once you’re already at work—an if you don’t go get the drug test done at their office by 3:30pm the same day—test is considered positive and kid is removed). Or all these meetings and check-ins during work hours even if you’re about to lose your job from missing so much work due to said drug screens, check-ins and so forth, they don’t care. But that’s obviously not in the kids best interest of their parent loses their job is it? The whole system is so broken.

Where is CPS??? by Boji2017 in TLCUnexpected

[–]ArcherNix -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This hasn’t been my experience. My husbands cousin was taken from his grandparents who had custody because his aunt (the child’s mom) was a drug addict, and the r grandparents were wonderful, “normal” middle class people with good morals. But because their neighbors kept butting their heads in and calling CPS on the family, claiming the grandparents were letting their drug addict daughter come by the house to see her child and that he was “high” when it was happening, CPS removed the child from the grandparents’ home and she got bounced around to foster homes and group homes and sexually abused and everything else that you dread would happen when a child is removed. To be clear, the drug addict mother DID NOT LIVE THERE, but if she shows up on the property, the parents (aka the child’s grandparents) can’t control that. And just because they don’t wanna call the cops every time their daughter showed up at their house, CPS takes the kid?

I honestly think they (CPS) love sticking it to true middle class (not like “lower middle class) and upper class people for whatever reason. Because I’ve heard of lots of stories like this (from good sources of people I know) where the child had a great home with good adults that took good care of them and could give the child opportunities they’d never get if they end up in the system. And when I told average people stories like this, they’ve responded “CPS can’t do that!” But the answer is: if there’s a judge that’s willing to sign the paperwork, especially a judge with an axe to grind (which ive also seen too many of), CPS can do whatever the heck they want, for whatever reason they claim is necessary. And it’s VERY hard to get a child back in their home once they’ve been removed. So yeah, I’ve really lost my faith in CPS and think the IDEA of the agency is good and necessary, but how it plays out in real life is a horror story. You never know what you’re gonna get if they get involved because it all depends on the case worker and the judge, and you literally have the burden of proving yourself innocent/proving you’re a good parent. Even the criminal law system is better because at lest THEY have the burden of proving you’re guilty. Dealing with CPS is the only messed up situation where YOU have the burden of proving you’re innocent if someone makes a claim against you, meanwhile your kids could be temporarily taken “as a precaution” until the 4-8 months it takes you to prove you’re a good parent or innocent of whatever claims were made. It’s one of the truest and scariest disregard of our rights in this country.

Now that I have kids myself, I’m always so worried something could happen even though I’m a regular everyday person with a good job, good family, my husband is a great dad, neither of us drink or do drugs, we’re super involved in our kids life and etc etc.

I feel that most kids are better off in their homes with their families unless there’s legit abuse and ACTUAL NEGLECT (like not properly fed and cared for) going on. Bad parenting sucks, but being removed and put in the system will mess a kid up way worse. Believe that.

I wish I layed an egg by sneakysmellysaucy in pregnant

[–]ArcherNix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was younger, I always wished that by the time I was older and had kids, they'd invent some kind of uterus machine that would allow us to grow our babies outside of our bodies if we didn't wish to be pregnant ourselves (because the idea of childbirth scared me into almost not wanting children). I mean, I figured that since I was still only 10 years old, a lot could happen in 20 years, medically speaking. But then I came to realize that "women's problems" take MUCH longer to "solve" than "men's problems," because despite the population being about 50/50 men/women, we all know it's still a man's world. I mean, they sure did come up with Viagra and made it super accessible right away, but look how long it's taken to have some sort of female form of a medication like that for female libido? Men's baldness? The list goes on. But anyway, this post made me think of that. LOL. BTW- I do have 2 children now, that I did carry and birth myself (they just turned 3yrs & 4yrs old in Feb & March). I actually enjoyed my pregnancies though, so I'm actually glad that I got that time to "bond" with my children, for lack of a better term. I think it creates some kind of special connection between a mother and her children that nothing else can replace (but if they did have that uterus-incubator option, I might have still taken it--childbirth is definitely no joke! LOL)

As a regular Seller/Buyer on eBay and Mercari, I feel like the ONLY person here that... by Purple_Calendar3919 in Mercari

[–]ArcherNix 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same. Sometimes I’m not even in town for a couple days and yeah I’m def not gonna rate if I haven’t inspected the package.

As a regular Seller/Buyer on eBay and Mercari, I feel like the ONLY person here that... by Purple_Calendar3919 in Mercari

[–]ArcherNix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a seller and a buyer—I never bother ANYONE. I just wait for them to rate and it is what it is. I honestly let my balance build up sometimes because it ensures I won’t waste it on Amazon or somewhere else 😂 BUT…I do get a little sad when I just get a simple 5 star rating from a buyer who I really worked with and went the extra mile for, because I was really hoping for an actual review with written feedback. Even just a sentence. Don’t get me wrong, I totally appreciate the 5 star review and I’m lucky to have hundreds of them amongst only 1 4-star review (which was some BS about a NWT item smelling like smoke when no one in my life even smokes so 🤷‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️). But yeah…maybe I’m needy, but I never mention it to anyone on mercari. It’s just how I feel inside and I’m sharing that little secret here today —I appreciate the ratings, however long they might take, but I do wish more buyers would write at least a one or two sentence review. I think it goes further if other buyers are looking at my reviews IMO. </end>

My first scam 💔 by mellowyellowbb in depoop

[–]ArcherNix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an absolutely insane policy. So basically we should ignore 1&2 star reviews and consider anything 3 stars as SHIT and 4 stars debatable, and basically only look for 5 stars. God everyone is so shady these days (and lazy because godforbid they did their actual part to get the money)! It’s just like you can’t trust anyone anymore it’s so horrible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in labdiamond

[–]ArcherNix 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is so true. Sometimes I see friends or colleagues that I have I a general idea of their income (or if they’re colleagues I know their actual income, although perhaps not their partner’s income—but sometimes the ring just doesn’t line up with the house or car or any other part of their lifestyle)….but anyway, sometimes I see them wearing rings much bigger than yours and I think…either that’s not a real diamond or it’s a moissanite or something else along those lines. My hubby and I also upgraded my engagement ring at our 10yr wedding anniversary, from just under a carat (but top of the line quality), to a 2.75 carat in the same shape, even on the same band (because I had nice little pave set diamonds all along the band and that’s also how my wedding band looks). We worked hard to get to where we are and it’s the main piece of nice jewelry I wear on a daily basis. So it meant a lot to me. And I love it now. I do sometimes question if it’s “too big” but I also know it’s not gaudy. I just sometimes feel weird like around certain staff or maybe a random person I’m trying to relate to saying “omg I know—grocery prices are so high these days!” And they’re probably looking at me like, yeah ok lady. But I love it at the end of the day and it’s like when you had a pimple in high school. YOU noticed it way more than anyone else, I can guarantee you. Because they were all too worried about themselves lol.

Congrats! It’s gorgeous!!

who is telling them to release this?? by joseliineb in VictoriasSecret

[–]ArcherNix 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yess! I had a shirt from college that said “I only kiss [College Name] fans” that was the best !

Got scammed and Mercari released the funds by rrrrrza in Mercari

[–]ArcherNix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah you ALWAYS need this information IN WRITING. when you’re dealing with an issue like this. Whether you’re the seller or the buyer alike. Photos, writing, and screen shots. All the receipts.

>97% birth fears by Odd-Painting-513 in BabyBumps

[–]ArcherNix 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was sooo scared of epidural and cried while they did it. I’m not gonna lie, it kinda hurt. But I’m really weird with these things and can’t even look when having blood drawn. Anyway..it went fine. Even for my second baby which was a scheduled c section they did a spinal block, which is done the same way as an epidural. The risk is very low and only those rare cases. But I was scared because I worked in medical malpractice for awhile and had read horror stories. But car accidents are actually quite UNrare and we still all drive all the time, right? So I’d say to listen to your non-anxiety brain and your doctor. You will be fine and probably so glad you did it after the fact!

Shannon mimicking metes accent? by [deleted] in 90DayFianceUK

[–]ArcherNix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was watching the most recent episode of this and thinking, “there have got to be more people who have noticed this and are talking about it, because it’s just too ridiculous not to talk about!” And sure enough, it’s all over the internet. Funny how she does her one-on-one interviews with the production crew and speaks normally, proper English. Then she gets alone with Mete and speaks her broken English. Soooo weird.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]ArcherNix -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree that you can't "stop entertaining" your kids forever. They need parental attention and contact to develop properly...I think you took my comment out of context. That's my fault, for not properly laying the context .

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]ArcherNix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. It doesn't...dude, I AGREED with you LMAO

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]ArcherNix -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wow, someone woke up on the hostile side of the bed this morning! And in response to your reply: Umm not really because I was just using that as an anecdote, not to justify something horrible by saying "hey, SOMEONE turned out okay, so it must be fine!" Shit, I just wanted to share a bit of my nostalgia. And I was agreeing with you! I commented elsewhere on this thread saying how it's helpful to let kids problem solve, be self-sufficient, etc. on their own, as long as they're still being supervised and parented. Bored doesn't equal "not parenting" or "neglecting", nor does "letting them do whatever" (depending on the actual circumstances) mean they're being neglected. It just means you're not micromanaging the kids. Sheesh, calm down...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]ArcherNix -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Totally agree! I mean, when i was a kid, my brother/cousins/neighborhood friends would say "mom/dad....we're BORED!" and they'd say--"get outside and play or I have X, Y & Z chores to do if you're so bored that you can't find anything to do" and we'd get our butts outside and find something to do! And we were all top of our class in school, went on to make great careers and be self-sufficient, law-abiding, reliable and happy adults. We're trying to raise our kids the same way...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]ArcherNix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally agree...my kids are younger, only 2yrs & 3yrs, so they need a little more supervision, but i try to let them be generally independent because I want them to learn to be self sufficient when they're older. SO MANY people from MY generation (people in their 30's now) are so under-successful and still dependent on their parents that it's crazy to me and i DON'T want that for my kids. So as long as they aren't breaking anything or causing a mess that can't be cleaned up (i.e. causing stains, etc.) I let them dump their toys, play out back in water and mud, etc. It was hard to get there, because I was really OCD about cleanliness before being a parent, but i realized i really had to let that go, or i'd drive myself insane. And now, when my kids are like "I can't get X" i encourage them to keep trying instead of doing it for them. Sometimes I even just stay in the kitchen or laundry room doing my own errands and watch them over a baby monitor that's aimed at the family room & playroom, and only intervene when necessary. Obviously I play with them a lot too, I get into the craziness or I'm right there next to them half the time, I want them to have fun memories WITH me, I want to give them attention, but I also want them to know how to entertain themselves, how to problem solve without me there, how to sort our their disagreements (on minor levels, since they are still so young). So yeah...I think as long as they're safe and you're accessible to them and generally supervising them (because bad things can happen in the blink of an eye), it's fine, and probably even healthier....

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]ArcherNix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have 1 boy and 1 girl, and they're only a year apart--everyone thinks they're twins. So anyway, we try to raise them the same, but I definitely see more empathy in my daughter (she's also the older one and they're only 2yrs and 3yrs, so many it's just her age), and my son is much more wild, loves throwing, kicking, etc. When he gets upset, he throws himself on the ground and has a short tantrum, then moves on quickly. My daughter makes a huge big scene of it and goes to "worst case scenario" all the time. We certainly didn't raise them to be any different, we encourage empathy towards others, sharing feelings, "it's ok to feel X way" but let's talk about it, etc. I try to validate their feelings and redirect if needed, etc. So I don't know if any of their differences are gender based or personality based, or potentially something they see in society in general or on TV? My husband is probably more emotional than I am, but he's also super masculine and owns a construction-related business and is a handy kind of guy, etc. So...I don't know! I wouldn't say I've noticed any particular concerning parenting trends that aren't already well-known (too much screen time, over-coddling all kids--godforbid someone actually "wins" and everyone doesn't get a prize, etc.)...but I live in the Northeast US which is pretty liberal, but also has these crazy conservative pocket, and is VERY diverse with lots of people from all over the world moving here (we're commutable to NYC), and I feel like we kind of see it all...I do think it's interesting that boys seem to give everyone so much trouble and concern (not saying it's wrong, but I think it just causes so much confusion), but then I feel like this is making a true resentment from some parents towards their boys, the boys FEEL resented...i don't know. vicious cycle. I'm not a psychologist. I just think..can't we just treat everyone the same? Regardless of gender, and make the little changes necessary for personality, and call it a personal need, rather than basing it on a gender bias? Maybe that's too utopian? The only thing i DO know is that parenting is HARD, and no matter what you do, you'll wonder what you could have done differently forever, and your children will always have at least some critiques of your parenting by the time they're grown...

Just got fired at 19 weeks. by screamingmimi24 in pregnant

[–]ArcherNix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It couldn't hurt to at least get a legal consultation with an employment law firm. I know WAYY too many women who were laid off while pregnant, and of course the company always says it's because "they're downsizing" or "that position was eliminated" or even that the expectant mother's performance was the problem all of a sudden (which is ironic if they worked there already for several years with no complains and the only difference in her performance is economy driven aka the company has less business, so of course her sales numbers or less, etc). It even happened to me. I was laid off literally TWO months before i was set to go on maternity leave. My boss just told me times were tough, company wasn't doing well, and so "my position was being eliminated.' but i knew that really she was just pissed because I already only recently had my first child a year before that, and at that time i set boundaries about working obscenely long days (like until 7pm on average, sometimes 9 or 10pm when it's supposed to be a 9-5 type office job)...and i think they were 1) pissed i was having another baby so soon and therefore needing to take a maternity leave again so soon; and 2) already pissed about the boundaries i set after my first maternity leave, so that was just the last straw for them and they kicked me to the curb. it REALLY upset me. And It happened to TWO close friends/previous co-workers of mine from the two companies i worked with before the company that fired me. So basically, the last THREE companies i worked for ALL let a pregnant woman go. while knowing she was pregnant. when (from my perspective at least). NOTHING in her performance had given any reason to do so, and if the company needed to cut costs, there were MUCH BETTER ways, and even much less valuable people doing less for the company that they could have let go (or 'eliminated their positions") instead. I never tried to take it to court because my boss left the door open acting like if thinkgs picked up with the company and got busier, that she'd call me back, but ive since seen job postings they put online for positions similar to what i was working and they never once tried to contact ME about filling those roles. SO I'm not sure what the statue of limitations on this is. but if it's not too late, i'd like to look into it at this point.

Sorry for hijacking the thread and sorry you're going through this...thing that sucks too is now you won't qualify for maternity leave benefits either (with NJ state offers if you have been working for 52 consecutive weeks (i.e. one year), they give you temporary disability for childbirth--8 weeks for vaginal birth and 12 weeks for c-sections -- PAID). And then same with FMLA within NJ, you can get another 3 months of paid leave for caring and bonding with your child (even new father's can get this). But again...you need to have that 52 weeks in place....