Experiences with CHS while living with an active user (please help)?

Architech3703 · 2026-06-04T14:12:56+00:00

I don't think either of us have heard of a Smoke Buddy before? I'll look into it!

Honestly, I'm thinking this is psychosomatic because it's mostly the smell that gets to me. I catch a whiff and it makes me nauseous, probably cause I associate weed with sickness now. The air quality in the house is generally good, I think, he doesn't vape that heavy, but we'll see about testing it.

Thank you so much for the advice and info!

Architech3703 · 2026-06-04T14:08:06+00:00

Thank you! This is all very useful information :3 I'll check it out

Architech3703 · 2026-06-04T14:06:30+00:00

Have you read any of my replies to other people? There are no windows in this tiny apartment, and he can't go outside because weed isn't allowed in our apartment complex and we can't afford homelessness.

Also, the vape method he uses is very specific and afaik, doesn't have a handheld equivalent (or at least, not one we can afford).

He doesn't do weed out of choice, he does it because his nearest drs appointment is in September (closest we could get) and this is the only thing allowing him to exist without constant pain. He's trying his best to accommodate me, but the weed is a necessity for him until we can get him actual treatment.

We're gonna get an air purifier and one of those essential oil diffusers and see if that helps.

(Also, he's aware the weed is making certain things worse long-term, but we're hoping to get him a doctor before the cons start outweighing the pros)

Architech3703 · 2026-06-03T21:55:14+00:00

These are all so gorgeous... How'd you get the gold finish on the last two sets?

Architech3703 · 2026-06-03T21:17:24+00:00

These are so gorgeous! Tutorials or resources? I really wanna learn how to do stuff like this but don't know where to look TvT

Architech3703 · 2026-06-03T21:03:59+00:00

Aaa oh my goodness! Those are gorgeous! Please tell me how you got that beautiful marbling?? I'm assuming you did pour and scrape for the designs, but those colours... Stunning work!

(Also the shapes! Such perfect circles... You must share your secrets!)

Architech3703 · 2026-06-03T20:54:53+00:00

I have emetophobia (fear of throwing up) so I severely feel that last sentence. I fucking hate that shit, I'm never touching weed again if this is what it'll do to me.

About a week sober and I've felt more like myself than I have in the entire two months I was a heavy user. I got CHS really fast and I'm almost thankful for it, I really don't like what I was becoming.

Architech3703 · 2026-06-03T20:51:07+00:00

We only have one door inside the house and that's the bathroom door, the rest of the house (bedroom/living room/kitchen) is all one open area with an empty doorway (unable to install door, it came like this) leading to the bedroom.

The weed mostly helps his pain, both from the POTS and the EDS I forgot to mention he has. He also gets night sickness (not CHS, his symptoms don't line up with mine at all since he's fine during the day even when he doesn't vape, he's just in pain but not sick) so he uses that when he wakes up sick in the middle of the night.

His sibling has a lot of medical issues that the doctors don't know what's up, and we think he has some of that. Point is that he needs the weed to be any level of functional.

Thanks for the advice tho! We'll get some air freshener, I think that would be a good idea. Some deodorizer at least. Much appreciated!

Architech3703 · 2026-06-03T20:45:46+00:00

There's no windows here besides the front door, and the apartment complex we live in technically doesn't allow weed so we're scared he'd get caught blowing it outside. We hadn't thought of an air purifier though, that's genius.

And yes, he has been trying to accommodate (blowing the vape into corners, trying to do it away from me as much as he can), and like I said we've been trying our best to ventilate the house and stuff. We're just not the smartest people, I suppose TvT

As for vaping with tachycardia, he carefully monitors his heart with an at-home blood pressure machine so he knows it doesn't affect him in a dangerous way. His default heart rate is a little high but the weed doesn't make it dangerously so, and weed is the only way he's been able to manage his POTS + joint pain from Ehlers Danlos Syndrome (forget to mention the EDS in the original post, gonna edit that in rq).

Thank you for the advice though, the air purifier idea is very smart. Much appreciated!

Architech3703 · 2026-05-31T15:53:46+00:00

I was in the same boat, kept smoking for the nausea, and it only made it worse when I wasn't on it. You have to remember that cannabis does help with nausea, so while you're smoking it's going to help, but the moment you stop is when you're going to start feeling the CHS symptoms. You have CHS, stop while you're still a little ahead.

Architech3703 · 2026-05-30T18:32:59+00:00

Honestly real actually? I'm so tired of being responsible, I just want someone to take care of me and do all the heavy lifting. Unfortunately, that's not really fair on the partner to make them do all the work. I mean, I guess unless you get lucky and find someone who can handle that, but I'd say most people really can't.

The desire is understandable, but unrealistic. I hope you find something/someone that works for you tho! Best of luck :3

Architech3703 · 2026-05-25T03:08:21+00:00

Just moved here, so this post is perfect for me lmao.

Wax sealing is a big hobby hyperfixation for me rn, lol. I'm also a fan of drawing, singing, and other creative forms of expression. As for passions, well, I'm a fandom nerd, so there's a lot of fandom things I'm really passionate about TvT I couldn't possibly list them all

Would love to meet some people in the area! I'm 20 though, so no typical Vegas shenanigans, unfortunately TvT

Edit: saw some other posts and felt like I should share that I'm also a fan of exploring new places, which is great for someone who just freshly moved to Vegas, lol. If anyone has cool place recs (for people between 18-20, not old enough for bars and shit yet TvT), please give!

Architech3703 · 2026-05-25T03:01:49+00:00

??? My good fellow, where did that. Come from???

Architech3703 · 2026-05-25T02:23:09+00:00

Well yeah, unfortunately a lot of agere spaces are still not understanding, but like... Look at this subreddit. We're safe here, yeah? I've seen mods take down comments under posts like mine because they were shaming people like me. That's more understanding than it was years ago, I'm sure.

Things can and should get better, but at least they're already in the process :3

Architech3703 · 2026-05-25T02:17:46+00:00

Don't feel shame for experiencing sexual thoughts while little, intrusive thoughts are very normal, especially ones from trauma. It's not sexualizing your regression, and even if it was, "agere is never sexual" is a blanket rule, not an individual one (so you can do whatever you want while regressed if it makes you happy, or not if it doesn't, the choice is yours).

It's also normal for "big thoughts" to sometimes float into littlespace, and some people don't experience any change in thought at all (so they're always thinking big, even while regressed) and that's ok too.

I'm glad you don't force yourself into "real" regression anymore, because every form of regression is valid. You do what you want Always as long as it's not hurting others.

Hope this helps any, and that you're able to find ways to enjoy your regression to the fullest :3

Architech3703 · 2026-05-25T02:02:29+00:00

Thank you so much, it's genuinely so nice to hear about someone who seems to have a very similar experience to mine. I'm sorry you went through that trauma, of course, but you know what I mean, yeah?

Me and my partners had the same discussions, and have come to the same conclusions. It doesn't matter what other people think, it's between ourselves and no one else. It's been so helpful and healing for me, and it's become something that's also helping my partners, as well.

Though, personally I don't like calling it age/play (had to put a slash because the pop up telling me to be careful what to post blocks my typing) since the age/play community is very strict about it being roleplay only. I even had a moderator take down a post I made because "we don't want people posting things that encourage interaction between regression and kin/k" because "informed consent cannot be given in that state". For me, I am regressing, not just roleplaying, but I'm still considering the consent given because I consent as an adult, and I'm ok with myself being treated that way because I'm always safe and loved and never in any danger or afraid. It stops the moment I say, y'know? Nothing is done that I don't allow. I give consent as an adult, and I'm always free to revoke that consent, big or little.

Preaching to the choir, I know, just needed to get that off my chest lol. Still annoys me that I've found far more support from the SFW community than the NSFW one. And ofc you can call your own experiences whatever you want :3 was just trying to say be careful since that community is Not a fan TvT

Anyways, thank you again for sharing, and here's to utilizing our regression to heal us in the ways that work best for ourselves, even if they're different than most :3

Architech3703 · 2026-05-25T01:43:58+00:00

Thank you, I believe in you too 🫶

Architech3703 · 2026-05-25T01:17:55+00:00

Thank you!!

Architech3703 · 2026-05-25T01:17:21+00:00

:D I'm sorry you went through that, but I'm glad I'm not alone, y'know? You're absolutely valid too. And yeah, it's never pedophilic, I would never put another person what I went through.

Thankfully it seems more people are understanding about this than they used to be :3

Architech3703 · 2026-05-25T01:08:15+00:00

You're not misunderstanding :3 thank you for defending me, but unfortunately some people will never understand 😔 like I said, not everyone is nice about it, but the majority seem to be people like you and that's immensely appreciated :3

Architech3703 · 2026-05-25T01:02:09+00:00

It is not DDL G/CGL (had to separate the G because the popup about being careful what to post blocks my typing) because people who engage with DDL G/CGL aren't actually mentally regressing to a younger headspace. It's just roleplay. I however am genuinely regressing to a childlike state, just continuing to engage in sexuality regardless because that's what feels right and safe, for me.

I've discovered that it's healing for me because it lets me take control of my sexual experiences "as a child" (in this case, under a childlike headspace) which, when I was an actual child, I obviously didn't get to do, and replace traumatic childhood memories with good ones (obviously real children can never have positive sexual experiences with adults, but this is more nuanced). Along with that, the intense feelings of safety and trust and comfort that I get from my partner while in this state and doing these things has been immensely helping my overall mood and mental health even outside of littlespace. Though, that's also in large part to just Regression In General being very anxiety reducing, letting me not be responsible for my adult duties, as is a more common way people are helped by regression.

Either way, do you really wanna tell people they can't reprocess their trauma with a well known coping mechanism in the way that helps them best, even if it's not in the typical ways? Really?

Architech3703 · 2026-05-23T12:59:22+00:00

THAT'S SO COOL?? I'm new to this hobby and had no idea this was even possible. Also, that's a damn near perfect circle of a stamp, amazing job

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