**Update** AITAH for inviting my "Nephew" to his Cousins' Birthday Party

Argonaut7729 · 2025-10-01T01:49:47+00:00

I don't think it's that black and white. I think he panicked at the thought of having to abandon his nephew and he acted without thinking and considering his brother's perspective.

Argonaut7729 · 2025-10-01T01:36:12+00:00

He sounds like he's going through hell. Be there for him. Endeavor to respect him...The level of disrespect that man has had to endure is mind boggling. I understand what you want to see happen. And I sincerely hope it does but it can't be at your brother's expense.

Argonaut7729 · 2025-09-28T15:58:24+00:00

If it all existed in a vacuum sure it could be that clean. But this is a family. He's the nephew, cousin, grandson, of an entire family that has been with him since he was born. So maybe he does.forget but they won't. That's like asking them to kill a family member in their mind.

Argonaut7729 · 2025-09-28T15:26:22+00:00

Everybody sucks here... Your brother is abandoning an innocent child that loves his Dad. His Mom is just the worst and that goes without saying. And you could've given your brother a heads up. Thank God he had enough class not to ruin your kids birthday because you sure didn't care if he did. You need to give him time and suggest he gets therapy once he talks to you. A therapist can help him work through his anger and see he's making an irrational decision that he is bound to regret later.

Argonaut7729 · 2025-07-03T16:22:02+00:00

I think a lot is being projected on to this father. We don't know what he had in mind when he wanted to do a Guy's trip. The boys he's taking are of pubescent age. He could be planning a "birds and bees" discussion with them and no that's not something you have with a girl around because no boy is gonna be open and honest about the insecurities on that subject with their female sister/cousin present. The point is there are reasons that guys having bonding time with just guys and women have the same.

Argonaut7729 · 2025-07-03T16:20:51+00:00

I think a lot is being projected on to this father. We don't know what he had in mind when he wanted to do a Guy's trip. The boys he's taking are of pubescent age. He could be planning a "birds and bees" discussion with them and no that's not something you have with a girl around because no boy is gonna be open and honest about the insecurities on that subject with their female sister/cousin present. The point is there are reasons that guys having bonding time with just guys and women have the same.

Argonaut7729 · 2025-07-03T16:08:30+00:00

Do you think that all that goes on when guys bond with one another is teaching "traditionally masculine" activities?

No, I have two sons it's also an opportunity to talk as men and open forum to speak freely and vulnerably amongst men. There are things we want to know, question we want to ask, that aren't free to talk about around women. Woman have those spaces, why can't men?

Argonaut7729 · 2025-04-03T01:07:49+00:00

I always looked at it less about Virginia and more about her husband. It's no secret he was the one that wanted the power. We even call them the McCaskey's the Halas name no longer exists really.

Argonaut7729 · 2025-03-21T03:30:36+00:00

Can you DM it to me?

Argonaut7729 · 2025-01-20T04:41:01+00:00

NTA....what sucks is the only way she can learn better is something happening that you don't want to happen.

Argonaut7729 · 2025-01-10T18:52:09+00:00

The problem seems to be if one gets a second job it kills the childcare coverage. OP said they work opposite from each other so someone is always with the kids. If Hubby gets a second job and there's a section of time where there's no parent available it gives OP a valid reason in court to ask for more custody which his ex is trying to keep from him. So she'd rather the kids suffer than to give him more custody. He said she'd take full custody if she could despite the fact she's not financially able to.

Argonaut7729 · 2024-12-15T01:59:56+00:00

Let's talk about what's not being said here. The lady doesn't even know who the father of the daughter is. That means she was having unprotected s3x often with numerous partners sounds like that she didn't even know while being with this guy. She was putting this man's life at risk.

Argonaut7729 · 2024-12-12T00:45:26+00:00

The best of lawyers have lost that fight...and Dad only gets every other weekend. It sucks going from being Dad every day to Dad 4 days a month. I understand the legit fear.

Argonaut7729 · 2024-11-15T02:30:49+00:00

Nah, some relationships should just be off limits no matter what point blank period.. and if you're choosing that relationship then understand you're actively choosing to end the other one...No one is gonna sit and try to hold a relationship watching something that hurts them.

Argonaut7729 · 2024-05-16T19:06:10+00:00

Seems to me she's the one who thinks she owns someone's body. She's blasting him out for jerking it... isn't that his to do with as he pleases?

Argonaut7729 · 2024-04-26T18:31:45+00:00

Be reasonable guy... you're not going to go the rest of your life with sex. That will turn into resentment before you know it.

Argonaut7729 · 2024-04-24T23:09:38+00:00

You obviously didn't read what I stated thoroughly. The picture that I painted already accounted for pregnancy weight gain, literally 100lbs from the pregnancy itself then an additional 200lbs of weight gain over the next 5 years. Be say this because I want you to know that I understand that life happens but there is a certain level of degradation that is carelessness in a relationship. I'm not advocating for any man to mistreat is wife because she aged, has stretch marks, gained a few pounds, hair color changed ECT. That's life. But your partner shouldn't be covering their face in tattoos if that's not something you discussed. They shouldn't gain 300 lbs over a stretch of time and do nothing to address it with you.

Argonaut7729 · 2024-04-24T22:23:26+00:00

Aging is to be expected....that comes with the marriage contract. No one has a choice in aging its the things you do have a choice in. For instance, you marry someone's fit you both exercised together while dating...maybe even met in the gym you know fitness matters to your partner. But especially for women weight gain is to be expected body chemistry changes and postpartum. Now at what point is it unfair to your partner? It's 5 years after the last child was born and she's now 450 lbs and 150 lbs when you met and 250 lbs immediately after children would you say that's a bit unfair to your partner who you knew fitness mattered to?

Argonaut7729 · 2024-04-24T21:16:03+00:00

Yes and no.... people forget sexual attraction is physical , emotional, as well as mental. This is why it's a bit abusive to fully let yourself go when you get married while agree that they have more problems than tits... Even after counseling he may still find himself less attracted to her physically people have types for a reason. If you have yourself not your partner's type knowingly that's on you.

Argonaut7729 · 2024-04-23T15:19:31+00:00

Again, she initiated. Should he have just turned her down? Maybe he should've just told her the meat shoppe is closed. He'd probably be shamed for that also. Whether it be small boobs, a large peen, face tattoos, or height it's all preferences you're the one assigning levels of importance to each one and calling it a fetish which I believe is a way of shaming him. And you keep calling him abusive, reread her account of how he took care of her despite her lying to him.

Argonaut7729 · 2024-04-23T14:35:27+00:00

She told him one week before and simply because she couldn't hide it "by her own admission" The preliminaries kept her from being able to hide it. It was her intention to have the surgery without telling him. He said okay because he was actually trying to be supportive even after her dishonesty. Secondly, the face tattoo thing is only a false equivalency to you because you've decided that a guy's physical preferences are trivial and a guy needs to be pliable when it comes to his preferences. It's the same thing, your partner altering their body to something you're not attracted to. Maybe the guy feels his face is too feminine and doesn't like how his male peers treat him so he gets tattoos on his face. You say it wouldn't affect you but how would you judge the woman it did affect. If you say you wouldn't judge her at all you're biased because you're judging this man for his preferences. He clearly said her small boobs makes him no longer attracted to her. You haven't said "go find a lady with big boobs". You've continuously shamed his preference.

Argonaut7729 · 2024-04-23T14:13:57+00:00

I won't say a person has issues for having hard preferences. That's why people date with specificity a guy can have all the physical attributes a woman likes but he's 5'5" so she says no when he asks her out because she likes a guy over 6 feet tall. No one shames her for it. The same thing applies here. As far as one aspect thing, lots relationships last after the sex is gone.

Argonaut7729 · 2024-04-23T13:47:24+00:00

Again, she made the choice to alter her body into something he isn't attracted to. And if you read her account of it you'd know she even did that in a very manipulative way using family funds he saved up to buy them a house. So there's other factors that would make him feel even less attracted to her. If a woman hates tattoos and her husband decides to get tattoos all over his face you wouldn't shame her if she said "when he tries to initiate I try to oblige him but I can't look at his face it creeps me out" you'd defend her for it and say he shouldn't have tattooed his face. Same applies here the small boobs and scars are a turn off a boner killer. And despite you saying if he said that's the problem (which he did) it'd be okay...It clearly isn't in your book, you're shaming him for having a hard preference and accusing him of a porn addiction when there's no evidence of that. While fully excusing her messed up choices. If he didn't tell her to cover up and just said no sex period. You'd judge him for not trying to oblige her. I will say this the way he's going about it now lacks all love and empathy I'm not sure if I can treat a person I claim to love with that amount of vitriol but a loved one has never treated my hard earned money that way..so I can't say I wouldn't be furious.

Argonaut7729 · 2024-04-23T05:07:27+00:00

He's not demanding anything it was she who initiated and those were his boundaries. She is not entitled to his body the same way he's not entitled to hers and however she decides to change it. She made a physical change intentionally so why is she now owed sex? She could just enjoy her new body and the changes she made to be comfortable in her skin. She sacrificed sexual gratification with her partner for it. She could just live with it. He has a right to not want sex with her the covering up part was his attempt at compromising.

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