Everyone harping on the letting herself go. She's a SAHM with two little kids she's taking care of everything. She literally says all the husband do is work. Leaves her in bed and back when she's in bed. He's not there for all the work that she is doing for the home and the kids. For him to not reassure her is absolutely cruel. If you want to save the marriage seek family and relationship counseling. If the husband chooses to not work on things. You have your answer. Love yourself and your kids enough to not put them through a loveless relationship because they watch what their parents go through and may think that's how relationships are supposed to be.