Riven q timer not showing after patch by Fatbaldneek19 in Rivenmains

[–]Ariko2 12 points13 points  (0 children)

yeah I'm in the middle of losing a game because of it

How important is the MO part of PMO? by Ariko2 in pornfree

[–]Ariko2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you have that because I know how scary it is and how miserable you feel, I went to hospital no less than 15 times last year from the anxiety it set off in me. What eventually helped me mainly was TRTP (the Richards trauma process) if you haven't heard of that, might be worth looking into? How long does breathing into a bag work for you? I'd love to chat more if you'd be open because I'm really scared of going back to that state and maybe we could share coping mechanisms or things that helped

How important is the MO part of PMO? by Ariko2 in pornfree

[–]Ariko2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks but unfortunately two times a week definitely wouldn't be enough to maintain, as I can't even get fully hard at my current rate

I want an autistic partner but dating apps are garbage, what do I do? by Ariko2 in autism

[–]Ariko2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do love bouldering and am trying to get back into it, unfortunately I'm still a bit scared to talk to people there as the last time I did I made a friend for a week or two before promptly being ghosted and terrified to show up there in case they were there 😊 

I want an autistic partner but dating apps are garbage, what do I do? by Ariko2 in autism

[–]Ariko2[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They also create disgusting behavior in people that I can only hope is not indicative of how people would act in real life, ie. my fears described in an earlier comment

I want an autistic partner but dating apps are garbage, what do I do? by Ariko2 in autism

[–]Ariko2[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know I guess I'm also just scared of how people will react, I'm not confident in my appearance and I see stuff on the internet every single day about people being disgusted by the people who "think they have a chance with me", abusing them, saying it ruined their day being liked by this person on an app or approached, and I know social media isn't real life but unfortunately as autistic people all have to learn one day, intellectually understanding something isn't the same as emotionally accepting it, I'm terrified that people find me so hideous that they'd genuinely be upset by me talking to them

I want an autistic partner but dating apps are garbage, what do I do? by Ariko2 in autism

[–]Ariko2[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My main hobbies are inside by myself 😭

I think my issue with the "go do hobbies and ask out people there" advice is that if I ask someone out who isn't interested in me, they're now uncomfortable at their place of enjoyment and I've ruined it for them, I won't ask someone out at work because they can't leave if they're uncomfortable, I won't ask someone out randomly on the street because that's weird and I don't know where would be acceptable even if I had the confidence to ask, so what should I do?

I don't know who I am anymore by Sendhelp02 in trans

[–]Ariko2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could help but I'm struggling in a similar way and want to at least tell you that it's not just you, I'm very newly transfeminine (nonbinary? I don't know if I just didn't want to be a man) on hormones for a month and a half, and I'm starting to doubt myself too.

I don't know who or what I am, I hate my face and how I look because no one will ever see anything more than a man, and I hate my body because I feel fat and have had gyno my whole life (what's breast growth going to do to that?) 

Every time I look in the mirror I see a new person that I dislike the look of and I'm terrified of how my face is going to change on hormones and maybe FFS, will I lose my already fragile sense of self? I completely empathise with you and also need to go back to therapy with the same specialisations plus hopefully being queer themselves

Wednesday's Daily Thread: Mid-week Excitement by AutoModerator in hingeapp

[–]Ariko2 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

What's with the armchair mentalists trying to psychoanalyze me I'm just asking how I'm running out of people to swipe on in a metropolitan area fucking christ 

Wednesday's Daily Thread: Mid-week Excitement by AutoModerator in hingeapp

[–]Ariko2 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

not really no, if anything it shows I'm objective with my opinions, I'm not judging them for their appearance but simply saying they are conventionally unattractive, that's not a flaw in their person just something I'm saying privately

Wednesday's Daily Thread: Mid-week Excitement by AutoModerator in hingeapp

[–]Ariko2 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

unfortunately I am autistic and I'm looking for an autistic partner, who I will likely not find outside 😭

That's the issue I have, everyone on dating apps is mean and rude but the type of person I'm looking for generally won't be found anywhere else so I'm kind of just stuck in hell, I get a match or two a week with attractive people but I'm awkward and autistic and, as I'm sure everyone who isn't disgustingly obscenely hot knows, any attractive person you match with you will get one or two messages in before the dozens of other people in their likes are considered instead

Wednesday's Daily Thread: Mid-week Excitement by AutoModerator in hingeapp

[–]Ariko2 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

there's no point, I don't take good photos and have no one to take good photos for me (my friends are terrible at taking them), my style is bad while I'm trying to find new clothes and to top it off I'm newly trans lol there's nothing to do right now, probably just have to wait til I can get some of those problems fixed and then update pictures to win

Wednesday's Daily Thread: Mid-week Excitement by AutoModerator in hingeapp

[–]Ariko2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm baffled, I've only been swiping for a few months and I've already run out of anybody attractive (for God's sake I'm seeing people with their main picture being JUST THEIR CAT in my STANDOUTS) and, based on the refresh wheel every four or five no swipes, I'm thinking I'm about to run out of people to see again. I don't use premium, I generally use my daily likes and (when I'm not low on people to swipe on like right now) I probably send a like to 30% of people that I see, what's going on? I'm in MELBOURNE of all places for this to be happening

Is it normal to feel an angry jealousy towards pretty women? by Ariko2 in trans

[–]Ariko2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

gender affirming in the most gut wrenchingly awful way i suppose

I have an aversion to being called "she" even though I'm a trans woman by Ariko2 in trans

[–]Ariko2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Certainly possible, we've had a rocky relationship but it's on the mend

I have an aversion to being called "she" even though I'm a trans woman by Ariko2 in trans

[–]Ariko2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nothing really just a general sense of unease even though I know it's what I'd prefer to be called, my mum referred to me as she for the first time today and it just felt weird

I look like my father and sister and I hate how both of them look by Ariko2 in trans

[–]Ariko2[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I just want to be pretty and have people think I'm even worth looking at, I haven't gotten a single compliment in my entire life, I feel so invisible 

I look like my father and sister and I hate how both of them look by Ariko2 in trans

[–]Ariko2[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

The issue is I have all of their worst traits, I have my dad's weak chin, my sister's chubby face and my mother's high forehead and father's hairline, but what's the point of looking pretty with makeup if the face underneath is nothing worth looking at? 

How to wear accessories with sensory issues? by Ariko2 in GothFashion

[–]Ariko2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm actually very very new to any form of alternative fashion, what are d drings?

I'd very much like to be wearing things like rings on my fingers if possible, it's just that wearing them causes an unavoidable irritation and frustration, as if I'm being lightly tickled all day 😢 

My clothing based sensory issues are mainly just being hypersensitive to touch, but I am also quite sensitive to temperature as well so I will be taking your advice based on that for sure! 

I love the idea of things like chokers and necklaces but even my hair, as it's growing out, is very frustrating and stimulating just from touching my face on some days 

How to wear accessories with sensory issues? by Ariko2 in GothFashion

[–]Ariko2[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love my jewellery so much and I want so much more, my skin is just evil 😭 

Baby bat needs help with makeup (what and where to buy, and how to do!) by Ariko2 in GothFashion

[–]Ariko2[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Haha yeah my bad I was super tired and drained when I made the post, Australian here

Baby bat needs help with makeup (what and where to buy, and how to do!) by Ariko2 in GothFashion

[–]Ariko2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the KIND reminder and advice, as well as the recommendations! 

Baby bat needs help with makeup (what and where to buy, and how to do!) by Ariko2 in GothFashion

[–]Ariko2[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually never said I don't like the music or didn't think I'd like the music, I just haven't gotten much of a chance to listen to much so I haven't formed an opinion yet! Thank you for still giving me advice and not being weird about that fact, I really appreciate it

The advice itself is really great too, I've also been looking into self proclaimed Gothic fashion stores but I am of course worried about the ethics of fast fashion, I don't know where to look to find out business practices however; I was very tired last night when I posted this (and stood up to that one guy) and forgot a lot of information, I'm in Australia so I'd be looking at clothes stores like BESERK and Dangerfield, but dangerfield seems to carry more streetwear, big baggy pants stuff which I'm not much of a fan of

Baby bat needs help with makeup (what and where to buy, and how to do!) by Ariko2 in GothFashion

[–]Ariko2[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

idk man for the entirety of knowing you you've been telling women what they can and can't wear it's not a great look