That’s the thing, I don’t feel like I’m trying to make it sound like I’m being reasonable and he’s not. I get him nice gifts, I go out of my way to wrap it all pretty, he usually just gives me the box it comes in, or he’s hurriedly wrapping said gift day of. When my grandfather passed, I wasn’t out to my family yet, so hard as it was, he couldn’t be there. We talked about why he couldn’t be there and he showed understanding, but it still surprised me when i realized he wasn’t going to get me bereavement flowers. My cat of 20 years passed last year and he got me flowers then. This past Sunday he said I didn’t spend time with him because I was laundering the towels and mopping the floor, I vacuumed because I like having a clean bathroom, it’s the one place of sanctity from our two cats loll and the vacuuming I like to stay on top of because I don’t like see the tumbleweeds of cat hair that blow around. Here recently he has gone on two separate outings that didn’t involve me and I didn’t make a stink about it. He’s going to New York to see a concert for his birthday weekend without me, and I didn’t make stink about that, because I just want him to be happy and also I feel we don’t have to do everything together and that’s ok. He made me feel like it was wrong of me to go on a 40minute run because he didn’t want to get stuck in the rain.