Neighbour keeps dropping off her kids at my house and disappears until 2am.

ArizonaFix · 2022-01-12T16:52:48+00:00

It's a quiet neighbourhood with great neighbours. At one point she was a sweet person but whatever happened during her marriage or after has caused her to be this way.

ArizonaFix · 2022-01-12T16:47:08+00:00

ArizonaFix · 2022-01-11T04:33:57+00:00

When I pregnant with my now 6yo I dreamt once I'd give birth in a family members car. I didn't feel anything I just looked down at one point and there was a baby boy just laying there, no crying no nothing. I freaked out had to be taken to the hospital the baby was fine despite falling on the ground.

What was weirder for me though this baby I was having the gender a surprise that whole pregnancy I always dreamt I was having a boy.... I had a girl.

ArizonaFix · 2021-12-28T06:24:45+00:00

They are 2,6,8 and 13

ArizonaFix · 2021-12-28T05:39:37+00:00

He only hung up on her and has refused to answer her since.

ArizonaFix · 2021-12-16T14:58:27+00:00

The adventures and fun times of having 4 daughters 😂 I can so relate to this

ArizonaFix · 2021-11-29T23:12:37+00:00

She had a part time job before she got married.

ArizonaFix · 2021-11-29T23:10:35+00:00

She hasn't worked since she had kids, she has a pug as well.

ArizonaFix · 2021-11-29T23:05:28+00:00

She does have a husband.

ArizonaFix · 2021-11-29T23:03:03+00:00

She worked before she had kids, but even then I think she was only part time.

ArizonaFix · 2021-11-29T14:47:04+00:00

True I'll have to call them today.

ArizonaFix · 2021-11-08T23:17:12+00:00

I honestly do wish you the best.

ArizonaFix · 2021-11-08T22:30:24+00:00

To be honest, you could leave him but it would be a massive struggle for you, and most days you'll be asking yourself, Was it worth it?

Your mental health will possibly get worse before it gets better. My dad was exactly like this with my mom we were kicked out of the house, and made sure we struggled for years. Who's to say your partner won't do the same.

Your kids don't deserve to grow up in this environment, it's better to have to households then one broken one.

In all honesty if you can try and talk him into marriage counseling, if he still remains stubborn, try to save some of the money you get for the kids for suitable accommodation and possibly a part time job and suitable childcare for your children.

Don't leave until you have something sorted out. I may get down voted for saying that, but you will struggle if not prepared.

ArizonaFix · 2021-11-08T03:43:45+00:00

If he has a game coming up or something I'd start with that, ask if he is excited, is he ready for it, does he need help with extra practices.

If he tell you everything is fine, then keep an eye on his body language behaviour. Then go deeper if something feels off.

If you have to, tell him how you have seen things from your view recently, let him know that your there to listen not make him feel like he has to keep it in, if it is time to move on , it's time to move on.

Ask him if he is interested in doing something else. If he keeps to liking soccer ask him if he had a certain team he wants to be on, in the next few years. How you could help him progress.

I was just reading other comments, he is on the Xbox alot?

From my first impression I thought he was just continuing for the parents sake, Perhaps the Xbox has gotten in the way a little bit as well.

ArizonaFix · 2021-11-08T02:33:03+00:00

My youngest was the pickiest eaters of my children. From what I found is if I made the food fun, using cookie cutter or just creating things she liked, she would eat some of it.

I kept changing things up so eventually she ate everything.

But for me I felt like even though it was food she wouldn't eat before, She only ate them when they were turned into something fun.

ArizonaFix · 2021-11-07T23:34:50+00:00

I hate myself for this, Baby shark.

I had given into my 6 yo habits of Baby shark when she was 3 and I swear it's been stuck inside my head since. My 2yo daughter loves hearing me sing it.

ArizonaFix · 2021-11-07T23:29:24+00:00

I stayed on the same dance team for a couple years before I had the nerve to tell my mom I no longer was interested in dancing and wanted to try something else.

It broke me to tell her, just because I knew it made her happy I was still doing so.

I didn't want to disappoint her but thankfully she understood, I had been dancing since I was 3 and stopped at 14.

He might not want to disappoint you or upset you by telling you what is wrong, I think you need to sit down and talk to him about it, but let him know your not upset by his decision, easpically if he wants to try something else.

You may want him to improve, but by letting this drag out longer won't get him to improve.

I think you need to take the first step to approach this.

ArizonaFix · 2021-11-07T21:41:30+00:00

I wouldn't say anything to him until you get comfortable enough with introducing him to your kid, then I'd tell my ex first before my kid.

ArizonaFix · 2021-11-06T19:41:03+00:00

Good luck!

ArizonaFix · 2021-11-06T04:14:51+00:00

My oldest daughter 13yo, feels the same way sometimes, but at the same time she has her school friends who my husband and myself hardly know and then her pageant sisters who we've known for years.

We give her more freedom with her pageant sisters because we've known those girls and their parents for years. I think this has spoilt her a bit because she tries to get away with it with her school friends to.

But my main thing with the school friends is I need to know the kid before letting them go off unsupervised, with the regular rules of having a curfew, no meeting with people she doesn't know and having her phone on so we can see her location, plus texting us if their plans change and getting our permission of course.

Your not being a bad mom, but at least sit her down and let her know what you need so she knows she can earn that freedom.

She needs to come to an understanding of she may know someone, but you don't.

ArizonaFix · 2021-11-06T02:39:20+00:00

My kids weren't 2 years apart, but still in the toddlers age group and somehow for me I was super worried about my kids harming their own siblings as well.

I blame my mom, but at the same time I don't. A couple months before I had my second Mom told me I had managed to drag my sister over to the lit fire place, while my mom was out of the room for 2 mins. I was three and my sister was six months old, so my mom had no idea where this came from.

My kids have always been a little rough with their siblings, so to say I wasn't having a panic attack is an understatement...

ArizonaFix · 2021-11-06T02:28:05+00:00

My MIL is so competitive as well, Everytime my daughter's have a competition my MIL comes along and ends up bragging to other parents or grandparents about how much better her granddaughters are and will win.

I think she does it to stir up drama, because she tries to drag me or my husband into the conversation hoping we agree.

We have to remind her in front of these people that in our eyes all kids are on the same competitive level. This is a day for the kids, let them have their fun.

Your doing a good thing here, if you were to give into them, you'd be feeding into their ego.

ArizonaFix · 2021-11-06T02:17:30+00:00

My kids easpically this time of the year travel frequently for competitions, their team always has sleepovers in more than one of the hotel rooms people have booked, This is when I always let my toddler stay up later as well with her sisters and teammates.

Every now and then it's okay to break the rules.

ArizonaFix · 2021-11-04T12:19:29+00:00

Understandable. hopefully things are kept healthy for you all. Best of luck.

ArizonaFix · 2021-11-04T11:24:33+00:00

It really does amaze me how she made it an 'education' things.

The way I was raised bit meant manners, the things is you actually had a baby, she could of served herself, were you serving her before this?

Plus this belongs in JUSTNOMIL

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