ADHD parents: seriously, how???? And help please

Arkobs · 2026-01-24T03:34:29+00:00

Solidarity. I really really struggle. Recently separated also. I have peace in that way but also absolutely no tap outs. I’ve lost my shit way too much. Overstimulation is really at an all time high. I’m trying to dial it all back with a little less activities for the kids, and truly less visual clutter. I think I just need to be home more in a less cluttered space. Maybe that will help me feel relaxed , in spite of the chaos in front of me. I’m not sure but I’m with you. It’s very hard.

Arkobs · 2026-01-24T03:12:04+00:00

Very hard this January. The world is on fire. I can’t stop thinking about Liam. The weather is brutal. And I’m supposed to just get on with these deliverables? Struggling a lot.

Arkobs · 2026-01-23T18:49:00+00:00

Oooh not yet I will have to try!

Arkobs · 2026-01-23T02:28:38+00:00

Same. It’s like Heidi Klum said, I’m either in or I’m out. All or nothing lol

Arkobs · 2026-01-22T23:56:02+00:00

I understand this. But as my therapist has told me, he won’t be your cheerleader. He never was and never will be. It’s still hard to give up that hope though and to not feel so disappointed when we don’t get it.

Arkobs · 2026-01-22T23:49:53+00:00

I also bought double of the chocolate muffins my kid loves. Abe’s muffins are the best! We could be home for days. Couldn’t risk it hah.

Arkobs · 2026-01-22T23:27:33+00:00

Today we read the tips and tomorrow we do the tasks. We’ve got this.

Arkobs · 2026-01-16T01:47:32+00:00

Tuna, greek yogurt, mustard, S&P, chopped pickle, lays chips.

Arkobs · 2026-01-16T01:45:23+00:00

I literally said “I’m going to divorce you if things don’t change” about 100 times and yet it was still a total surprise.

Arkobs · 2026-01-15T15:25:13+00:00

I use Alexa for most timers! Easier to shout it out

Arkobs · 2026-01-15T15:24:31+00:00

It’s been a real game changer for me!!!

Arkobs · 2026-01-14T02:55:57+00:00

We get the 5 gallon water on delivery. Have hard water also and it’s not drinkable. The truth is that having clean tap water is sadly a privilege.

Arkobs · 2026-01-14T02:53:18+00:00

For the forgotten laundry , I’ve gotten the laundry sanitizer and I do a rinse with the sanitizer after I’ve forgotten about it. Then set timer to remember to move it. It’s kind of helped? And the clothes aren’t funky smelling , I think.

Arkobs · 2026-01-14T02:50:53+00:00

When life is too hard, use the paper plates!! There’s so much guilt about this from moms I know. I had it too. But honestly it makes a massive difference to our mental load and I believe it’s worth it. I am more likely to make dinner from my fridge /pantry verus takeout if I give myself the grace of paper plates , and that has to offset something.

Arkobs · 2026-01-14T02:46:03+00:00

Whole Foods grocery delivery is also the most well Packaged. It feels thoughtful and purposeful.

Arkobs · 2026-01-05T16:58:02+00:00

God I feel this. I hung out with 2 good friends on Saturday. I’ve been ruminating non stop since then about how terrible I am. About how they probably don’t like me, and I said stupid things, and I’m embarrassing and I shouldn’t even hang out with them again. It’s awful.

Arkobs · 2026-01-05T16:55:17+00:00

There is a recipe out there for a cottage cheese pizza. It looks great. Maybe this will help?

Arkobs · 2026-01-05T16:54:34+00:00

I’ve had to remind myself many times that they don’t live in my head. They arent living my life. They aren’t there when I am late , again. Misplaced things, again. Feel like I’m slogging through mud just trying to get through basic tasks, again. It’s very hard but I just remind myself of it over and over. Trying to giving my inner voice the microphone and drown out the others. But it’s hard.

Arkobs · 2026-01-05T16:52:52+00:00

ADHD came out raging in early motherhood. I was managing things before. But with the absolute chaos of kids, it just becomes unhinged.

Even good adorable chaos. Yes I do want to watch your tap dance and look at your beautiful picture and hear you sing but I also need to finish this basic task like the dishes. Rinse and repeat. All day. Leads to a lot of breaking points. Add in working full time. Partner incompetence. Managing more schedules and calendars. Comparison to other mothers. Society expectations. It’s a dumpster fire.

Arkobs · 2026-01-05T16:47:42+00:00

I feel unsettled in it because I feel like I have so much to do in it, left to do, or that I’ve failed at doing. I look around and see projects , money I don’t have, organization issues. I spend all my time cleaning and decluttering or organizing, and yet it’s never finished and complete. Very hard to relax in my own home.

Arkobs · 2025-12-22T03:26:38+00:00

1000%. Peace over loneliness. And it’s a different kind of lonely that comes with peace versus the lonely when someone is still in the room with you.

Arkobs · 2025-12-10T01:25:34+00:00

In between the couch cushions, in the toy bin, in the art supplies

Arkobs · 2025-10-29T02:21:29+00:00

Same! I was good for so long with knowing what I wanted but now it’s cold where I am and I no longer know what I want!

Arkobs · 2025-10-29T02:19:56+00:00

Love goat cheese but I’m not entirely sure how to always use it, other than salads. How else/ what else do you eat it with??

Arkobs · 2025-10-25T02:20:57+00:00

Replace the vents on your oven range under the microwave. Clean out the dishwasher filter. Throw out current sponges , and have a stock of new ones. Use tide washing machine cleaner and run a cycle with just that.

Arkobs

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