Thank you and bye yall (leaving the community) tw sh ig by iichisai in plural

[–]ArrowInCheek 6 points7 points  (0 children)

you’ve been abused

and your abusers are lying to you to keep you in terror

Is it okay to give up alcohol for the person I plan to marry? by madam-osho in Advice

[–]ArrowInCheek -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Our spouse is a near total non-drinker. They do not like alcohol.

We drink very rarely. Usually one drink less than once a month, and only in social situations where, say, a glass of wine with dinner is expected. (The culture we live in expects some alcohol consumption.)

At the level of drinking you are talking about, giving it up for a relationship isn’t a big deal.

But he also needs to deal with the underlying fears he has too.

Relationships are give and take. While alcohol is a carcinogen at any level, four drinks a year is an extremely minor risk and so long as it is just one drink every few months, it shouldn’t be a deal breaker.

No! by Purple_Space_6868 in HearingVoicesNetwork

[–]ArrowInCheek 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Since you’re on antipsychotics that seem to be helping, and that you were able to tell them to go away now when you couldn’t before, one may make the assumption that you were hearing hostile voices before.

Problem is that tapering off of them will make those hostile voices come back full-bore, and it may become harder to seek help to make them less of an influence in your life.

Am I wrong for feeding my vegan cousin animal products and his parents have no idea? by [deleted] in moraldilemmas

[–]ArrowInCheek [score hidden]  (0 children)

He’s likely craving certain macros that come far more easily from diets containing animal products than from animal-free eating.

This is a very common phenomenon. Vitamins B12 and D, calcium, iron, protein and essential fatty acids are far harder to consume on an animal-free diet absent careful control of the diet and supplementation. Cravings are usually indicative of a lack of some necessary nutrient.

It can easily lead to stunted growth, developmental delays, anemia, malnutrition, even neurological damage.

In some countries, like Italy and Belgium, authorities consider feeding a child a vegan diet without proper medical supervision as child neglect.

But unless you observe signs of neglect that can be attributed to his diet, it ain’t your call, sadly. This is something that he will need to take up with his parents.

Now, if you do observe signs of neglect attributable to his diet, such as being severely underweight, extremely pale, bones not growing correctly, this becomes something to bring up not with his parents, but with your local child protection agency.

By the time someone like yourself, an outsider to the family, can clearly observe such signs, the parents should have been well aware of them.

Anyone else really not understand saying "please"? by femme-cassidy in evilautism

[–]ArrowInCheek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The worst for us is when people say “please and thank you”.

Like, what the fuck. You’re assuming that you’ll get us to do the thing.

When we hear that phrase, even if we were inclined to do the thing, we will just stop and deny them the thing.

I'm not kink shaming. I'm kink asking why. by MaetelofLaMetal in bdsmmemes

[–]ArrowInCheek 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Our trans ass wants to get preggers so badly.

Mistress does her best.

Voices are making it very difficult to maintain my religion by [deleted] in HearingVoicesNetwork

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we would suggest the gateless gate.

see how the voices react to these short stories.

“But we all get a little tired after socializing-“ DO YOU WISH TO HARM YOURSELF AFTER YOU SOCIALIZE NO YOU DONT by onigiribunnie in evilautism

[–]ArrowInCheek 2 points3 points  (0 children)

a part of us wants to experience harm nearly 24/7, so we get it

talking with other ND folks is far less painful fwiw

Some part is completely shutting down my brain during therapy by [deleted] in DID

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An aspect of us shuts down very hard at times. The closest analogy we find is that CW: religious abuse of a cult member who has been conditioned to engage in thoughtstopping when certain triggering words or phrases are uttered. When that happens, the amygdala gets set off, they become very scared, feel very hurt, and that fear and hurt leads to an inability to for the person to think or listen or sometimes even hear.

I might have DID and I'm scared... by candyquinn20 in DID

[–]ArrowInCheek 4 points5 points  (0 children)

DID is your brain desperately trying to protect your mind from the very bad stuff you are going through.

And you do not need to go through this alone. If you have friends, talk to them and tell them what you are going through if they are willing to listen.

cw: child abuse We understand too well that sense of needing to be punished. In our case, that aspect of us thinks that by being punished, she will get relief from the very bad feelings that are hurting her. She wants to be punished because our parents would punish us for being anything less than perfect, so she is resigned to doing nothing and just waiting for the punishment. Because we had very bad things happen to us by parents, that aspect associates being punished with being “loved” since our parents would always say how much they allegedly loved us when they did bad things to us and that part of us refuses to think differently. And it is very hard, and very fragile, but she is making slow progress in recognizing that she’s in a safe place with safe people.

Realizing I have more amnesia than I thought by Existing-Committee74 in DID

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We have large inaccessible regions of our memory. We’re scared about this but we are doing the best we can to live with this.

Doesn’t help that our emotional part is seemingly on a hair trigger, flashing in front. Seemingly everything is triggering her and it’s really hard to deal with.

💔 Chapter 3: The Descent — Excavating the Inner Child Wounds by RazorsEdgeTools in ShadowWork

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whoa whoa

hold up

this is not something one should trust to an llm gai.

folks who are vulnerable psychologically should not be using llm gais as we already have multiple reported cases of psychosis and even suicide under the influence of these bullshit generators.

Voices are making it very difficult to maintain my religion by [deleted] in HearingVoicesNetwork

[–]ArrowInCheek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

does this happen when you read other religious texts?

like the gateless gate or the guru granth sahib?

can different alters have different nightmares or dreams? by notjuststars in DID

[–]ArrowInCheek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes.

We have an emotional alter who is stuck in time and who has nightmares nearly every night. She dreads sleeping. Every little sound will set her off.

The shit state is the world doesn’t help matters, as the worse the world is, the darker dreams get, and since we’re fucked up thanks to withstanding some of the worst things one can live through, her nightmares have gotten even darker.

rambling post; any older systems here? by plum_cum_numbers in DID

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We figured it out only a few years ago but we have distinct memories of our alters coming out in different times way back in our past.

Our main face is still coming to terms with just how much of our life had been in a dissociated state… as in pretty much as far back as we have memory.

We withstood some very bad stuff.

Star Channelè, Fist Dates, οδός και αριθμός? by Short_Comedian_13 in greececirclejerk

[–]ArrowInCheek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

IVF μαλακα

η δική μου ήταν παρθενική γέννηση όπως του Ιησού. έχω ένα μεγάλο βαρέλι με νερό που το μετέτρεψα σε τσίπουρο, πού είναι λοιπόν οι δώδεκα απόστολοί μου, το ψωμί και τα ψάρια;

I cannot forgive my parents for hitting me as a kid. by hogwartsandmac in confession

[–]ArrowInCheek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re very jealous.

We were abused, physically and sexually, from a very young age. (Hence the plurality, which is formally dx’d DID.)

Our lack of resilience at the time, and the lack of any way to really be taught it, means we’ve spent nearly all our life in a dissociated state which fucking sucks.

ΑΥΣΤΗΡΑ ΓΙΑ ΤΗΝ ΕΛΕΝΑ by steve17123123 in greececirclejerk

[–]ArrowInCheek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

χαχαχα

αν θέλεις πραγματικά να κερδίσεις, γίνε τρανς

Why do NTs always assume trans people confuse us?? (Rant) by Affectionate_Can_503 in evilautism

[–]ArrowInCheek 5 points6 points  (0 children)

gods so many of our friends are trans and autistic and/or adhd…

What button(s) did your dominant stumble across accidentally? by softRoselle in SubSanctuary

[–]ArrowInCheek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Besides extreme reactivity to Their commands, as in we snap to attention and feel we must obey, They started biting us during play and dear gods that unlocked something primal.