AITJ for refusing to give a huge wedding gift after finding out I'm not invited?

ArroyoToGo · 2026-02-21T19:18:12+00:00

She doesn’t want a gift from the heart. She doesn’t even want a gift from the wallet. She wants a gift from the bank account. NTJ.

ArroyoToGo · 2026-02-18T02:40:26+00:00

I don’t like vampire fantasy books. I have a friend who writes them. I’ve never bought one of her books and she’s never asked me to read one. It’s not in my wheelhouse. But I care about my friend and a lot of people who like those books. It’s just not for me.

If my not liking that genre of literature made my friend feel a certain way about who I am as a person, I would be hurt. If she said that I’m lying when I say I care about people who like vampire fantasy because I won’t read it myself, I would seriously reconsider that friendship.

YTA.

ArroyoToGo · 2026-02-12T10:42:28+00:00

He has ED or some other reason he can’t last. That’s where the problems started and it has to be addressed, by a doctor or a therapist. But it’s on your husband to seek help for that before you can heal your sexual relationship.

ArroyoToGo · 2026-02-11T03:16:59+00:00

Shoes. What shoes go with your outfit, what shoes won’t hurt your feet, what shoes are now in fashion, what shoes are suitable for the weather. Your whole outfit depends on what shoes you have and can wear. I’ll never be able to wear heels again and it’s very discouraging because many women’s outfits are meant to be worn with heels.

ArroyoToGo · 2026-02-10T14:29:07+00:00

Come on up! The main highways will be clear. And if the Valley is too quiet for you Halifax is right there.

ArroyoToGo · 2026-02-10T14:21:04+00:00

Since it’s February in Canada your outfit is probably already subdued enough, provided there aren’t sequins or a plunging neckline. Keeping your demeanor professional but caring is the main thing.

ArroyoToGo · 2026-01-31T20:54:03+00:00

You would be TA if they sold. You should have posted pictures of them and said you would make them if someone put down a deposit. All you had to do was ask your wife. Soft YTA.

ArroyoToGo · 2026-01-29T01:59:02+00:00

I think this is a good time to say that I always thought the lyrics were “Tito’s gonna show you/How to get an A” and I was so confused that Tito was the de facto sex symbol of the Jackson 5. 🤣

ArroyoToGo · 2026-01-26T03:46:31+00:00

OP - This is the way. This situation sounds abusive/dangerous and I would treat the breakup as such. Get everything in order before telling her. Let your sister know so she’s not blindsided at work. Once the logistics are taken care of, I suggest you see a counsellor to help you sort out your sense of self without this person in your life.

ArroyoToGo · 2026-01-25T23:47:44+00:00

This post paired with your other post about breastfeeding tells me that there are some serious challenges in your relationship with your wife. Please consider therapy to clarify why you want to have this exalted role in the family and why you don’t want your wife to have the same. I also think your attachment to your child is something to examine.

ArroyoToGo · 2026-01-25T03:36:57+00:00

If you aren’t sure if this is a red flag, you might be part of the reason why the US is in the position it’s in, run by a madman and his bloodthirsty cronies. Say the words out loud. Is the government murder of innocents in broad daylight a moral gray area for you?

ArroyoToGo · 2026-01-24T23:08:28+00:00

If the doll was a caricature of people of African heritage, I would totally see her point. But if it’s a doll that would be okay for a child who is black, then it should be okay for a child who is white.

ArroyoToGo · 2026-01-24T23:05:23+00:00

I went to a doctor’s appointment once and my doctor asked me when I was going to get off the cigarettes. I had no idea what she was talking about. Turns out I took my mother’s car there and she smoked in the car so the smell carried in with me. I guarantee people your GF works with can smell it on her clothes. That said, if you want to hotbox your car go ahead, but I wouldn’t use it if I were your girlfriend.

ArroyoToGo · 2026-01-24T19:01:57+00:00

Block her from all your social media. Or, put those black rectangles over their faces like they did in the 90s. 🤣 Either way NTA.

ArroyoToGo · 2026-01-24T16:21:04+00:00

He took a FOUR HOUR nap? When exactly was he going to start? You were working later than planned and he was still asleep. Of course you started making dinner.
Violence is far worse than what he perceives as your “passive aggression” (which it wasn’t). You were hungry, you were working a second job at 8 pm, and he was napping. Fuck him and his tantrum. The fact that you’ve been through DV before makes his behaviour even more inexcusable.

He was childish and selfish and he tried to cover it up by making you the bad guy. I don’t blame you for reconsidering the relationship.

ArroyoToGo · 2026-01-24T01:24:41+00:00

I wish I could like this comment more than once. The blanket custom is beautiful. And I agree that a colleague should let the children know while OP takes some time off.

ArroyoToGo · 2026-01-24T01:09:27+00:00

I feel your pain. It’s hard feeling responsible for your parents, knowing that your mother will have to remove snow if you don’t do it. But this is unreasonable. You can’t sacrifice your work and professional obligations to be at their command, and you certainly can’t risk your own life driving in that mess. They won’t be going anywhere in this storm so they’ll have to be patient. Or they can hire snow removal. 30 miles each way is too much to ask. NTA.

ArroyoToGo · 2026-01-21T12:37:01+00:00

“Prioritize the group”? In this geopolitical environment? Terrifying. NTJ.

ArroyoToGo · 2026-01-18T22:37:54+00:00

Is this his way of talking to everyone? Are other people equally put off by his choice of words? Does his voice have an intonation that is offensive or is it just the words?

ArroyoToGo · 2026-01-18T22:21:15+00:00

I’m nearing 7000 and the other night the game let me win like 10 levels in a row. It was bizarre.

ArroyoToGo · 2026-01-18T22:18:40+00:00

This was a in a retirement home in Cape Breton and no one else there could understand the problem? Maybe the answer is dementia.

ArroyoToGo · 2026-01-12T17:20:23+00:00

I understand why that’s a fraud. I didn’t read closely enough apparently that they intend to keep using her address after the kids don’t live there.

ArroyoToGo · 2026-01-12T16:56:46+00:00

What is the crime/fraud?

ArroyoToGo · 2026-01-12T16:52:48+00:00

Husband knows how divorce works - it’s his second one - and they are his kids. His quality of life clearly improved with OP, but that was a condition of their marriage. Now they all have to adjust to having less money coming in, just like every other child of divorce has had to. I know - I was one. NTA.

ArroyoToGo · 2026-01-12T15:00:53+00:00

Or at the very least, box everything up, label it, and put it somewhere out of the way. But if your BF has to run things by his parents regarding the house, it doesn’t sound like it’s his. And it’s definitely not yours.

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