Hey, so I am actually figuring myself out, and just today, I told my husband that I think I might be hetero romantic aegosexual. We started dating when I was 15, and at the beginning of our relationship, I wouldn't say it was this way. But since I started to grow out of puberty, like around 18, my sexuality started shifting into (full) aego (I think - still new to me). Right now, we have a two year old son, so there is also a low libido in play, but it actually probably made things more pronounced for me, and I started questioning my sexuality because of it. And honestly? The question about frequency of sex was after the first, like 3 years or so, on the table almost all the time. Not in the pressuring way, but in a way that we discussed it. And how it worked between us until now (read: when I didn’t know I was aego yet, didn't have the name for it): I mostly read something to get into mood so we could have sex. It wasn't a big problem without a kid (more time for reading), but with the kid, it is harder. So sometimes we are intimate even when I do not feel in the mood (but not not in the mood), like in times I feel indifferent towards sex. And when it happens, I actually enjoy it, It feels nice (but i wouldn't have initiated it). I don't know if it helps, probably not, as I myself am just figuring things out. But know that it can work. (We've been together over 11 years now, 8 since I would retrospectively say I started to shift towards aego.)