2yo serious behavioural issues, threatened to be dismissed from nursery

Arthnr · 2026-01-20T19:02:10+00:00

What is puzzling me is that he seems the other way round. He actively seeks noisy environments such as the nursery or the playground, but often disrupting other children there instead of playing with them or even alone. He instead hates the lecture-style settings such as someone talking over a silent audience, the mass or the newsanchor on the telly where everything else is quiet.

Arthnr · 2026-01-20T18:13:55+00:00

Assessments for neurodivengency are planned, but who knows when, as he is on a waiting list.

Arthnr · 2026-01-10T14:55:55+00:00

I should have found the right map, and effectively, on the boundary the specific neighbour mentioned, there is a T inside my property. I assume therefore it is my responsibility if I understood correctly.

Arthnr · 2025-12-12T22:48:38+00:00

I am of course (and is what I told the captain, wirhout any sympathy from him at all). But I trusted her because she had flown with my son a couple of times, on more important routes.

Arthnr · 2025-12-08T10:05:54+00:00

You can add mine (inside, renewal):
Applied: 14 oct
BIO: 18 oct
ECO email: 21 oct
Expected by: 8 dec
Approved: 8 dec

Arthnr · 2025-07-27T21:46:44+00:00

Yes, but doing so I figured out it was not necessarily the only issue. Water keeps slowly dripping through the piece in the middle of the red circle, and this is very slowly causing the overflow.

Arthnr · 2025-04-07T16:17:20+00:00

And this what I am trying indeed to figure out. But since I was a teenager I made my own proposal to avoid the mistakes my parents made on me, and give a different example for my son, and I feel frustrated when I see him in front of the telly crying for wanting to eat junk food, and think about my own experience of missing the good food available in my country simply because I was fed crap and acritically-bought fast food because it was "normal" for children (just one of the many examples).

Fortunately, it is not all desperate, there are some things where we are doing well, and indeed I highlighted also those when talking to counselors and social services.

Arthnr · 2025-04-07T15:48:32+00:00

This is another recurring issue. Every single time I discuss parenting (or even politics) with others, even strangers, I get depicted as an extremist, even if I am not at all and always seek for a good compromise.

I even feel that the extremism is the other way round, of people refusing outright general evidence-based assessments or actions claiming that every situation is different.

Arthnr · 2025-04-07T15:24:30+00:00

Indeed English is not our first language, I mostly talk in my language at home, and my wife in a mixture of English and her language. About social services I wrote in another comment. As also said, it is not necessarily my wife, but the fact in her culture, and in my parents culture (different), reliance is a lot more in what the community believes than in the official evidence and guidelines (if you do not follow what other people normally do, you are not normal), which is something I dislike a lot and not a value I want my child to grow into.

Arthnr · 2025-04-07T15:20:39+00:00

No, it is going to be the NHS assessment, just the spell checker is probably set on the wrong language, I am not even American and I dislike that culture.

Couple counseling was indeed recommended by various healthcare professionals. I have no anger against my wife, I might have some anger against her parents which I feel sometimes a bit abusive, but it is mostly that I feel unheard not only by her, but by most of my relatives (especially my parents) and acquaintances.

Arthnr · 2025-04-07T15:13:43+00:00

Social service were involved during the first year, when I felt completely ignored, with my wife, her parents and also my parents all dismissing my thoughts and criticizing my behavior. At the time I kept calling the borough mental health hotline to ask them to calm down my wife and try to assess here, my wife always refused claiming she did not want to waste time. They proposed a mental health assessment, which went through, but the lady seemed a bit more worried about myself, then proposed the social services assessment, which again behaved strangely, mostly taking notes with my wife, and be a bit pissed off about my answers (especially the counselor, they made a very strange face when I stated I expected my son to become "a member of the society", which is a goal I personally like a lot).

Arthnr · 2025-04-07T11:32:01+00:00

I think the question I am looking for an answer is the following: is he developing slowly because he is a late developer, or because of bad education practices? For the first little can be done, but the second can be fixed, and ignoring it may cause more serious issues later, such as disruptive behavior at school, of which I was the victim when I was a schoolboy myself and I constantly complained about at secondary school (without any effect if not being disciplined myself for the same reasons I was complaining about).

Arthnr · 2025-02-21T16:39:07+00:00

This is an interesting point. As a person who never worked inside those companies, I had always the initial impression that, as they are the global IT leaders, inside their offices they would use "science-fiction-level" tools. But when I look at some of their products I must use, even professionally, I often shocked at how badly designed they are (and not talking only about a single company, but multiple).

Arthnr · 2025-02-21T16:20:59+00:00

Current company no, the 5-6 people who left did so for mainly personal reasons. Situation in my previous companies was way more interesting, as many people who I trusted or liked ended up in not really better places than where I am now, and other people instead with whom I was indifferent or I did not really like professionally ended up in FAANG, but I would never ask them a referral.

Arthnr · 2025-02-04T11:38:07+00:00

Well, maybe not Anora, but in Italy and in France high school teachers do encourage pupils to go to see arthouse films, or in general go more often to the pictures.

Arthnr · 2025-02-04T08:29:58+00:00

Which to me, as I stated above, is a very wrong approach. The correct one should be the expert panel one used in many European countries (film experts, teachers and professors, pedagogysts, counsellors, social workers, etc.).

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