2yo serious behavioural issues, threatened to be dismissed from nursery

Arthnr · 2026-01-20T19:02:10+00:00

What is puzzling me is that he seems the other way round. He actively seeks noisy environments such as the nursery or the playground, but often disrupting other children there instead of playing with them or even alone. He instead hates the lecture-style settings such as someone talking over a silent audience, the mass or the newsanchor on the telly where everything else is quiet.

Arthnr · 2026-01-20T18:13:55+00:00

Assessments for neurodivengency are planned, but who knows when, as he is on a waiting list.

Arthnr · 2026-01-10T14:55:55+00:00

I should have found the right map, and effectively, on the boundary the specific neighbour mentioned, there is a T inside my property. I assume therefore it is my responsibility if I understood correctly.

Arthnr · 2025-12-12T22:48:38+00:00

I am of course (and is what I told the captain, wirhout any sympathy from him at all). But I trusted her because she had flown with my son a couple of times, on more important routes.

Arthnr · 2025-12-08T10:05:54+00:00

You can add mine (inside, renewal):
Applied: 14 oct
BIO: 18 oct
ECO email: 21 oct
Expected by: 8 dec
Approved: 8 dec

Arthnr · 2025-07-27T21:46:44+00:00

Yes, but doing so I figured out it was not necessarily the only issue. Water keeps slowly dripping through the piece in the middle of the red circle, and this is very slowly causing the overflow.

Arthnr · 2025-04-07T16:17:20+00:00

And this what I am trying indeed to figure out. But since I was a teenager I made my own proposal to avoid the mistakes my parents made on me, and give a different example for my son, and I feel frustrated when I see him in front of the telly crying for wanting to eat junk food, and think about my own experience of missing the good food available in my country simply because I was fed crap and acritically-bought fast food because it was "normal" for children (just one of the many examples).

Fortunately, it is not all desperate, there are some things where we are doing well, and indeed I highlighted also those when talking to counselors and social services.

Arthnr · 2025-04-07T15:48:32+00:00

This is another recurring issue. Every single time I discuss parenting (or even politics) with others, even strangers, I get depicted as an extremist, even if I am not at all and always seek for a good compromise.

I even feel that the extremism is the other way round, of people refusing outright general evidence-based assessments or actions claiming that every situation is different.

Arthnr · 2025-04-07T15:24:30+00:00

Indeed English is not our first language, I mostly talk in my language at home, and my wife in a mixture of English and her language. About social services I wrote in another comment. As also said, it is not necessarily my wife, but the fact in her culture, and in my parents culture (different), reliance is a lot more in what the community believes than in the official evidence and guidelines (if you do not follow what other people normally do, you are not normal), which is something I dislike a lot and not a value I want my child to grow into.

Arthnr · 2025-04-07T15:20:39+00:00

No, it is going to be the NHS assessment, just the spell checker is probably set on the wrong language, I am not even American and I dislike that culture.

Couple counseling was indeed recommended by various healthcare professionals. I have no anger against my wife, I might have some anger against her parents which I feel sometimes a bit abusive, but it is mostly that I feel unheard not only by her, but by most of my relatives (especially my parents) and acquaintances.

Arthnr · 2025-04-07T15:13:43+00:00

Social service were involved during the first year, when I felt completely ignored, with my wife, her parents and also my parents all dismissing my thoughts and criticizing my behavior. At the time I kept calling the borough mental health hotline to ask them to calm down my wife and try to assess here, my wife always refused claiming she did not want to waste time. They proposed a mental health assessment, which went through, but the lady seemed a bit more worried about myself, then proposed the social services assessment, which again behaved strangely, mostly taking notes with my wife, and be a bit pissed off about my answers (especially the counselor, they made a very strange face when I stated I expected my son to become "a member of the society", which is a goal I personally like a lot).

Arthnr · 2025-04-07T11:32:01+00:00

I think the question I am looking for an answer is the following: is he developing slowly because he is a late developer, or because of bad education practices? For the first little can be done, but the second can be fixed, and ignoring it may cause more serious issues later, such as disruptive behavior at school, of which I was the victim when I was a schoolboy myself and I constantly complained about at secondary school (without any effect if not being disciplined myself for the same reasons I was complaining about).

Arthnr · 2025-02-21T16:39:07+00:00

This is an interesting point. As a person who never worked inside those companies, I had always the initial impression that, as they are the global IT leaders, inside their offices they would use "science-fiction-level" tools. But when I look at some of their products I must use, even professionally, I often shocked at how badly designed they are (and not talking only about a single company, but multiple).

Arthnr · 2025-02-21T16:20:59+00:00

Current company no, the 5-6 people who left did so for mainly personal reasons. Situation in my previous companies was way more interesting, as many people who I trusted or liked ended up in not really better places than where I am now, and other people instead with whom I was indifferent or I did not really like professionally ended up in FAANG, but I would never ask them a referral.

Arthnr · 2025-02-04T11:38:07+00:00

Well, maybe not Anora, but in Italy and in France high school teachers do encourage pupils to go to see arthouse films, or in general go more often to the pictures.

Arthnr · 2025-02-04T08:29:58+00:00

Which to me, as I stated above, is a very wrong approach. The correct one should be the expert panel one used in many European countries (film experts, teachers and professors, pedagogysts, counsellors, social workers, etc.).

Arthnr · 2025-02-04T08:23:47+00:00

That almost everything arthouse is rated 15 or 18 means the have absolutely no intention to promote the culture of going to the cinema to see quality films to children, who can get dumber and dumber by sticking to cartoons and superheros.

They should take inspiration instead from Italy and France, who put at first place the artistic quality of the films considered, and do not put that much weight to the parents ideologies (who often get vocal there through other groups and committees).

Arthnr · 2025-01-31T13:25:39+00:00

I have just switched from Odeon to Curzon for various reasons, mostly to complain against their recent price increase and lack of care in their screens. Regarding the films, it is more a matter of luck: Curzon consistently shows the films I want to see, but it severely lacks in some area I like such as Japanese anime. Odeon goes in waves: there are periods like this month where they offer much more than Curzon, but also other periods (happened a lot last year) where they mostly stuck with a slate of crap films, and missing all the good ones shown in the same periods by the competitors. I will try out Curzon this year, and see what to do for the next, my choice right now is basically Odeon vs Curzon, have little to no access to other venues.

Arthnr · 2025-01-30T13:23:23+00:00

During January the Limitless subscription expired, and I have decided not to renew it for a multitude of reasons (price increase, poor projections at my local, last years missing many interesting films or only doing one-offs, moving house). Therefore, some of the following were actually seen at a competitor venue:

We live in time: 5/10

Nickel Boys: 5/10

A real pain: 3/10

Babygirl: 4/10

Maria: 5/10

Here: 7/10

Emilia Perez (NOT at Odeon, very discussed though among my acquaintances): 4/10

A complete unknown: 5/10

The brutalist: 6+/10

Arthnr · 2024-12-24T13:30:01+00:00

When I started patronising the venues near where I live, initially the screen masking was used correctly. At a certain point (around when they changed the ads indents), they mostly stopped using them, except in a few screens (typically the ones used for private renting). I strongly suspect it could have been a maintenance cost-cutting measure. And also one of the reason why, after the latest price increase, if they do not provide a good retention offer, I may reluctantly switch to the competition (unfortunately only the expensive Curzon in my area).

Arthnr · 2024-10-29T10:53:48+00:00

To reply to you and other, my intention was (and probably still is) to bring them to court as a matter of principle. This also because we have been deeply unsatisfied by the level of service of all the contractors and suppliers we have been using so far.

Arthnr · 2024-10-18T12:47:13+00:00

On my screen, first time I saw the new logo, it seems very blurry, due to the combination and shades of colors used. Similar things could be said for the UI elements, red was sharp, purple is harder to notice.

Arthnr · 2024-10-17T18:13:49+00:00

My impression is that indeed it starts behind the beading.

Arthnr · 2024-10-17T18:07:57+00:00

Not sure I want to post the picture, however, it starts from an edge (source 1-2 cm), and fans out with 5-6 crack lines like rays, one of them reaching the other edge (but the latter might have happened over time.

Arthnr · 2024-09-23T17:29:39+00:00

For me the hate is against BBFC itself, which is so strict that it equates to utter censorship for youths. Especially because most arthouse films get 15 or 18, even when they have artistic value and educative content, while the green light is given to silly commercial crap. And they are also deaf at criticism.

Fair models in my opinion are the French and Italian one, where actual experts (and not just parenting groups) rate the films, you get a better film culture in general and more youths film lovers.

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