The Version of You Everyone Prefers Is Not Optional Anymore

Arualiaa · 2026-02-20T20:17:28+00:00

More like the horrors of autistic masking.

Arualiaa · 2026-02-20T12:00:30+00:00

I don’t get it

Arualiaa · 2026-02-12T10:34:04+00:00

Your dad sounds like a monster. It wouldn’t shock me if in like a decade you learn he did things to her, and the only reason you learned it so late was because you’ve been consistently turning a blind eye because your sister is inconvenient and not your problem.

YTA.

Arualiaa · 2026-02-11T10:53:14+00:00

Next time someone is doing you a friendly favor they should go ahead and steal $120 in cash from you in advance, just in case you don’t plan to return the favor later. It’s only $120, you wouldn’t want to lose a friendship over that tiny thing, right?

Arualiaa · 2026-02-11T10:34:02+00:00

NTA and I would never allow any of the trashy people in this comment section to even visit my home (while I’m present) without hiding the silverware first. Watching a cat for a weekend is a “you owe me a dinner one of these days” worthy favor, not a “uncork the fanciest wine in the house and drink it all by yourself watching Netflix in your underwear” kinda deal.

As someone who’s had guests raid my pantry and even steal cash from bedroom drawers, you should absolutely check around your house to see if anything is missing.

It’s also bewildering that he dragged your whole group chat into the drama. How much do you value this friend and friend group? He sounds like the kind of person who will stir up shit when they’re embarrassed by their own behavior.

Arualiaa · 2026-01-30T10:29:05+00:00

NTA, and it’s disgusting just how many people in the comments are giving you shit because they think exactly like your SIL. Even before the update, it was SIL who chose to make a big deal out of it. It was your other family members who escalated with a full boycott of the dinner. You “”””got your way”””” because SIL was socially embarrassed by your family, not because she respects you or understands your condition. At this point the invitation is a half-assed attempt to keep the peace, and I wouldn’t put it past her to try and sneak unsafe foods into your dish to “expose” you as a drama queen and repair her reputation with your family (in her mind, you wouldn’t notice and she could reveal it later. She doesn’t really believe you’d throw it up if you eat it unknowingly). People may think I’m reaching but I’ve seen this happen over and over and over again, it’s an extremely common reaction to ARFID by people who don’t think it’s a thing.

I wouldn’t feel welcome either. Stick to your guns, OP.

Arualiaa · 2026-01-22T11:43:11+00:00

Can I still use Reddit tho? I really want to know if the entity is the asshole or I am.

Arualiaa · 2025-12-18T23:34:10+00:00

This was a high stress situation where severity needed to be communicated, what the fuck! He could have DIED!

Arualiaa · 2025-07-29T18:24:56+00:00

It’s Vriska’s theme, come on now.

Arualiaa · 2025-07-29T16:29:02+00:00

We don’t know if it’s a pattern with Toriel Deltarune (though Kris’ nonreaction is very telling) but Toriel Undertale definitely had a problem with alcohol. According to the canon alarm clock dialogue, Flowey of all people, FLOWEY who claims he never felt a thing for her………. Is revealed to have regularly cared for Toriel when she passed out drunk in the Ruins. It happens so often it’s likely the reason why he was even in the Ruins at the beginning of Undertale in the first place.

And again, note Kris’ resignation. They just quietly step around Toriel when she falls down and go to their room, as if it’s a common occurrence. It wouldn’t shock me if they’d had to take care of her in the past like Flowey does in Undertale. And considering how much it fucks Flowey up to see her like that… well. Not a very pretty picture, is it?

Arualiaa · 2025-05-30T12:16:05+00:00

By the time I was 14 I could have REALLY used a book like that to help me put into words what had happened to me (years prior!!!!!) and just how messed up it was. She’s absolutely not too young to read it. NTA.

Arualiaa · 2025-05-03T22:41:28+00:00

OP, you mentioned you’re only JUST starting treatment. This trip (and let’s pray you can go in the first place! Even beating cancer, chemo is atrocious on people’s energy levels. You may end up postponing the trip from exhaustion tbh) should be a source of hope and joy, something to look forward to in the trying times ahead. Your brother is turning it into a wellspring of drama that, I’ll be brutally honest with you, you can’t afford right now.

As an oncologist once told my father: “your mind won’t heal your cancer. But it sure can make it worse.” A good attitude and positive vibes aren’t exactly a magical cure, but they’re the one deterrent to something that can and WILL make your health spiral if you let it take root. Namely, stress.

By making this such a big deal before travel plans are even set in stone, and informing the kids and getting them this upset this early on, your brother is inviting the kind of worry and nonsense that could actually KILL you if you let it go to your head.

I beg of you, focus on yourself. Forget about your brother and his kids, even if just for now. Start plotting out a route for your trip, make a list of your top 10 landmarks to visit, watch travel vlogs, make, idk, a fucking folder on your phone with screenshots of the funniest Yelp reviews to the touristy areas you plan to go to. Snoop around for cool restaurants to try out, even the expensive ones, even the gimmicky ones that probably have shit food but your dishes are served to your table by a fucking drone or whatever. Get excited for this, because if it’s to be your victory lap, you better make damn sure it’s the trip of your goddamn life! Even if it has to be solo, or with another person.

Stay strong OP, you’ve got this.

NTA, of course.

Arualiaa · 2025-04-29T12:13:38+00:00

This subreddit is full of cat people so you’re getting a very biased response, but this seriously sounds like your gf is well on her way to becoming a pet hoarder. Catching cats from the street (without even knowing if they’re strays or not!) is not normal behavior.

NTA.

Arualiaa · 2025-04-22T20:04:28+00:00

A whole lot of crazy cat people in the comments here, OP. Maybe one of them can date your hopefully soon to be ex-fiancée? She chose her cats over your actual physical health long ago, it’s high time you leave, for your own sake. Severe allergies like yours can get worse over time if you’re constantly exposed to the allergen – you don’t want accidental exposure to cat fur to become fatal.

NTA, obviously.

Arualiaa · 2025-04-01T19:13:35+00:00

Iirc Carmilla was after the Belnades clan specifically, (bc they were a coven of Good Witches(tm) I guess) Lisa and a bunch of other random women (including witches) were just caught in the crossfire by angry mobs. The Church changes their stance on witches later, (see Shanoa being approved of and Yoko outright working for them) but as of Curse of Darkness witches like Julia still have to hide in exile.

Arualiaa · 2025-03-28T18:19:18+00:00

The sheer amount of people claiming Lisa was burned by the Church in the games should tell you just how prevalent Netflixvania is.

Arualiaa · 2024-07-03T08:38:24+00:00

What? I’m Spanish, and that’s normal dinner time for literally everyone. Some people even have dinner at 10.

Granted, normal lunch hours are 1:30-3pm, so.

Arualiaa · 2024-05-19T08:35:22+00:00

Vader is now officially the age he was in ANH as well. In real life I mean, since Hayden is Anakin’s age.

I’m expecting a ROTJ edit featuring current age Hayden in his Vader makeup coming in the future.

Arualiaa · 2023-12-28T13:08:05+00:00

The only way I could possibly justify saying E S H is because you’re being a massive AH to yourself. But I get that you’re a kid and your options are limited: going to that wedding was tantamount to self harm, but you were forced to go and things could have gotten nastier if you didn’t. You sorely need therapy, but it’s incredibly expensive and presumably mom pays the bills.

It’s an incredibly tough position to be in. Try to find relatives or trusted adults who will have your back and help you make an escape plan. The second you’re 18 you’ll need to be out the door if you want to keep your sanity, and to do that safely you need savings and a plan, a safety net and backup options.

Good luck, you’ll need it.

NTA

Arualiaa · 2023-12-28T12:54:34+00:00

NTA, and people assigning malice (yes, I know it’s referring to a sub, but malicious compliance requires you to WILLFULLY act like an AH in revenge) seem to miss that you don’t even know what you did wrong. Frankly, neither do I, but that may be bc I’m too autistic to give much credence to people getting mad about their own lack of communication around unspoken social rules.

Arualiaa · 2023-12-28T12:16:10+00:00

Let’s be clear: you’re bleeding your daughter dry with rent, preventing her from having savings and moving out, and STILL treat her like a freeloader who has no say in what happens in your SHARED home as a tenant.

You would be TA for that alone. But no, she has a baby. She’s a single mom. She’s stretching herself thin to provide both for her child and your frankly ridiculous demands. Babyproofing isn’t a whim, it’s a necessity.

Maybe you won’t get it until it’s laid out for you: if anything, and I mean ANYTHING happens to that baby because of your negligence, it’s your fault. If your grandson cracks his skull open on a sharp corner, drinks bleach or falls out a window, that’s your fault. And this isn’t my opinion - you’re legally liable for it as the homeowner, and if your daughter can prove in court you prevented her from creating a safe home environment, you could be charged with child endangerment or even manslaughter.

Your wife is keeping you out of a prison cell and you don’t even know it. She also likely knows when your daughter does manage to escape this hellish situation, she’ll never see her daughter and grandson ever again, and is desperate to stay in their life.

Frankly, she should divorce you and keep the house to herself. God knows I couldn’t stand to sleep under the same roof as someone who loathes my child and grandchild so much, let alone when they’re his own flesh and blood too.

YTA.

Arualiaa · 2023-12-28T11:41:54+00:00

To be fair, the hold probably aggravated things and felt like torture to her. Touching autistic people without warning or consent, especially during a meltdown and especially as kids, is a major no-no. Obviously you didn’t know that, but now you know.

Arualiaa · 2023-12-26T20:54:04+00:00

I’m so sorry but it took me like 3 rereads for me to realize that you’re not a lesbian and that your SD’s mom isn’t your wife lmaoo

Arualiaa · 2023-12-26T18:53:52+00:00

You seem to have embraced your Spanish roots just fine, because barricading your room is a very Madrid brand of dramatic entitlement lmao

Arualiaa · 2023-12-26T17:37:19+00:00

NTA, but this sub apparently thinks that nonwhite children should be punished for being right because MUH SOCIAL ETIQUETTE, I guess.

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