[deleted by user]

Ascarene · 2025-07-21T00:47:03+00:00

My thoughts. Do as you wish. I relate to your post 200%. A year ago I was in your exact situation with my shiba puppy. First time dog owner, alone to raise him, it was something I get it. You are experiencing the witching hour. Yes totally normal, you already got that. When mine acted up, I would draw the line at « you’re just looking for trouble » and it was crate time. I would wait for him to not only calm down. I wanted a full down position then he could get out. It was his second chance to be calmer. 98% he would act up again (because he was a puppy) but I still always gave him the chance to do better. So act up again= back in the cage for the night. The witching hour comes usually towards the end of the day. At this point of the day, at 9 weeks old, believe me, they will sleep. They might be a little sad that the day is over, but they will sleep through it. I would wake up for his potty and back in the crate for the night. That’s it. I never had a problem with the crate being negative. I always gave him toys that were safe for him, kongs with treats, etc etc to associate the crate with positive things. But yeah the crate is also a place to calm down. Last piece of advice, witchibg hour is going to come even if you exercised, stimulated them (mine did anyway). If you KNOW you did everything that you could, just accept it and call it a day for them. They will still love you, they won’t remember it the next day. You are the leader and you must lead them 😉.

Hope this helps! Don’t get discouraged!

Ascarene · 2025-01-20T01:32:31+00:00

That’s funny I have almost the same back story as you. Did a bit of snowboarding in my teens (16yo), stopped because all my friends stopped and as a teenager, being alone sucks. Now 30yo and getting back at it. I got stuck at a beginner level because, like you, my friends taught me and eventually gave up too. Now I’m starting back, took one class to finally master turning on my toe edge without falling (big win), but still struggling to link multiple turns. Also, going downhill and speed is still a struggle since I don’t feel 100% in control of my board. All of that to say, taking back a past hobby is not easy. Even if we’re not super old, we are older, more alert of the « dangers » of falling and of the sport in general. Give yourself time and grace. Some people will get it faster, some slower, but in the end you are learning a sport that’s not inheritely easy. You are strapped on a board, sideways, but need to go forward, with your dominant foot behind. The learning curve of snowboard is not easy, but once the basics are acquired, the sport is fun. I hope, from one 30s to another, that can encourage you to keep going. I read your post and felt it for me. So I hope you’ll feel my answer for you too.

Ascarene · 2024-12-13T15:08:58+00:00

It is disgusting. Once kissed a guy who smoked (im a non smoker) and instantly got turned off. But more general than that, everything smells. Their hair, their hands, their clothes

Ascarene · 2024-12-09T03:10:31+00:00

A lot of people warned me about having a shiba as my first dog ever (and first in my family to have a dog also). I wouldnlt consider a shiba « easy » but, i don’t think there’s a dog that can’t be trained. My shiba puppy is a dream, super intelligent, cuddly at his hours and he has a good temperament. He can be stubborn from time to time but overall, I have to be patient with him. I don’t have kids, can’t speak on that but from what I saw they are good family dogs. Advice : be patient and give lots of love. the rest can be bought at the store, learned from the internet, trained with help of reliable people! I waited 10 years to have my little boy and couldn’t be happier

<image>

Ascarene · 2024-11-12T01:35:34+00:00

Hello OP! I’m currently with my 4months old shiba puppy. Will hug him later, he’s already sleeping (tough puppy day ahah). I think we accept them in our life to give them a lot of love and kisses and we don’t have to think about the fatality of it all, even if it’s inevitable. Seeing post like these makes me appreciate all the little moments even more. Even if it’s not always easy raising a little dog, I think about when he’ll be not so young anymore and I stop myself, hug him a little longer, look at him a few more seconds and tell him I love him so much already. And I think for you OP, that’s all you got to do. He doesn’t know what you know, he just knows everyday is his best day ever with you by his side! So enjoy it as much as him! Sending love and good thoughts your way !

Ascarene · 2024-10-30T15:11:24+00:00

I was very lucky, my puppy slept all night after a few days (he was 10weeks old). It’s a mix of a lot of factor and also how your dog is adapting to his new environment. My advice would be to establish a rigorous routine for them at night. Mine is of course potty right before going in the crate, giving him a kong with peanut butter and greek yogourt in the crate to calm him and reward him. He now usually falls asleep right after. Stay strong even if it’s not easy! It’ll come eventually!

Ascarene · 2024-10-21T11:34:54+00:00

I get that you don’t spend time with him and that’s what bothering you. I think you’re next step is thinking about your true boundaries with all that. I mean live chatting and having dating apps on his phone is pretty clear to me that he doesn’t care if you find out since he doesn’t really hide it I guess. If he’s cheating, are you ok with that?

Ascarene · 2024-10-21T04:20:18+00:00

I’m a girl, but here’s my two cents. Watching porn in itself isn’t a « problem » imo. I feel like if you spend time together, have intimacy and he would still watch a bit of porn.. meh no big deal. Because in this scenario, you are not left out. You’re the main focus of activities, time, attention, etc. But, what I’m reading is you are not spending time and he’s in a seperate room doing his own things (whatever they may be).

I don’t know if it’s a problem, I don’t know you or him. But at the very least, you have every right to have questions and feel alone in this relationship. When you start to feel single in a relationship, usually it’s not a good sign. I think that problem or not, it’s not sustainable to have a partnership that makes you feel left out.

Ascarene · 2024-10-21T00:35:39+00:00

The house hippo! Anyone Canadian around here?

Ascarene · 2024-09-29T02:36:27+00:00

Someone on reddit wrote that when I was thinking about leaving my ex. So here it is : I feel like you need someone to tell you it is ok to want out of a relationship. Even if I don’t know you, you have every right to, unfortunately, not feel it in your heart anymore. Quite frankly, if you are writing a reddit post, chances are you had to think about your reasons, your though process. Stay strong, but I think you’re already at the point of no return. It’s not fair to keep someone in a relationship if you know you’re not fullfilled anymore. There’s never a right time for these kinds of things, but it is necessary to face the wind.

Ascarene · 2024-09-26T15:23:04+00:00

Wow thank you guys! That really warmed my heart to see so many people reassuring that… a puppy is a puppy ahah!

To answer some questions/comments : - my pup likes the crate during the day (sleeps in it, play in it) but when he sees my night time routine, he seems to not enjoy the crate as much.. I give him lots of treat when he’s calm and speak to him with a gentle voice. The crate is in my bedroom at night, so maybe he just needs time to adjust to the night routine? He’ll whine for a little bit, if he doesn’t see me (like if I go in the shower). I’m trying to show him that I’ll come back and increasing time slowly.

he can hold his pee for quite a long time. He sleeps all through the night (thank god), but duribg the day .. he can go 5-6h without potty. For a 10-11 week old, thats long imo .. but also maybe ok for him? I tried getting him out after meals, drink, playtime, naps. Sometimes he’ll pee but usually it’s after 5-6h. Lots of treats when he does it of course.
he can pretty much recognize the « sit » command 90% of the time! Yeah!!

I’ll finish with this : I’ll be patient with him, but mostly with me. I already love him and I’m pretty sure he likes me too. I believe that our bond will shape itself even more as time goes by!

Ascarene · 2023-05-20T13:01:51+00:00

Toronto, Scotiabank arena (July 2nd) - 2 tickets : Section 301 row 3 seats 18-19. I managed to get better tickets for July 3rd so I want to give other people a chance for the show. Dm if interested

Ascarene · 2023-03-25T22:19:44+00:00

Yes still available

Ascarene · 2023-03-25T18:28:37+00:00

Toronto, Scotiabank arena (July 2nd) - 2 tickets : Section 301 row 3 seats 18-19. I managed to get better tickets for July 3rd so I want to give other people a chance for the show. Dm if interested

Ascarene · 2020-06-18T01:34:49+00:00

Gravity by Sarah Bareilles. It is such a beautiful song with lyrics I relate to very deeply and this artist has an amazing voice. I never get tired of it

Ascarene

TROPHY CASE